Shower guest list

Re: Shower guest list

• mcskatcat member

  

  July 2012

  I personally wouldn't have it be a shower if you're going to be inviting 105 women.  That looks gift grabby to me.  How are you inviting that many people just from work, out of curiosity?  

  
  

  I would either skip the shower or have a party and call it something else.  Is your daughter comfortable hosting a shower?  She should be the one deciding what she can do.  As the bride, you're not really supposed to be too involved with the shower planning.

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• MairePoppy mod

  

  July 2012

  IMO, that is far too many guests for a shower. The host of the shower should decide on the number of guests. A smaller (20 guests) will allow time for you to open all the gifts and socialize with the guests. Since you don't want to pick and choose which of your work friends to invite, don't invite any. If your coworkers want, they can throw a work shower.

                     

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• Osterizer member

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_shower-guest-list-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:136deb45-3ac4-49b4-9871-6a332bcd0a5cPost:d2e6bb4e-4ecb-43f3-91fd-51c7f062b1da">Re: Shower guest list</a>:
  [QUOTE]IMO, that is far too many guests for a shower. The host of the shower should decide on the number of guests. A smaller (20 guests) will allow time for you to open all the gifts and socialize with the guests. Since you don't want to pick and choose which of your work friends to invite, don't invite any. If your coworkers want, they can throw a work shower.
  Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]
  
  This.  All this. 
  
  May I ask, what is it that you do where you work with 105 women and feel close enough with them to invite all of them to your wedding and shower? I'm not being snarky, I'm just curious.

  
  

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• suebee052068

  

  July 2012

  I am a nurse on a very large unit.  I work all shifts which means I work closely with all of them and I promised I would never have a wedding if there had to be any hurt feelings.  So this is where is gets tricky because I don't want people to feel like they are less important than others when they hear, and they will, that they weren't invited to the shower.  As far as my involvement, my 19 year old daughter is my MOH and doing this for me but is asking for advice about the guest list.

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• mcskatcat member

  

  July 2012

  Solution:  don't invite any of them to your shower.  The cutoff, if you want to invite any of them, can be people you would hang out with outside of work.  And if someone asks why they weren't invited, say that you invited 105 of them to the wedding and you thought it would be in poor taste to invite that many to the shower - because it's the truth.  You surely have other friends or family for the shower?  Invite them.

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• HobokensFury member

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  So your inviting 105 nurses to your wedding and you have to invite their spouces so that's 200 people alone at your Wedding. That's nuts. Just invite the ones you hang out with outside of work to the wedding, their will be no hurt feelings because people understand. How large is your wedding guest list btw?

   
   

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  July 2012

  Holy crap that's a ton of people from work! Like PP said, assuming most of them have an SO, that's 210 people. I am curious how large your overall guest list is.
  
  Inviting them to wedding is up to you, though I would lean toward inviting a SMALL group of women you are closest to and hang out with outside the job. But for the shower, I would probably not invite any of them if you think it will cause a stink. Assuming you'd also invite non-co-workers to the shower, you're looking at having to open 130+ gifts? That would take forever! As a guest, I would get so bored. Plus it wouldn't be very intimate and I feel like you wouldn't actually get to truly talk to anyone.

  
  
  
  
  

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• hannahmassey

  

  July 2012

  I think one of these 100 ladies needs to step up and throw you a work shower. Your family and best friends will be lost in the crowd of strangers and may not even see you at all. I'd be pissed.

  

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• suebee052068

  

  July 2012

  Thanks for all of your advice.  A bunch of these great women have stepped up and are having a big party for me, a shower/bachelorette pool party.  It will be a blast!!!!

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