Poll: Wedding Dress Modesty

naomikb · March 2011

I found that modesty survey really interesting... as a follow-up to that and a suggestion (by DramaGeek?) for a survey about our wedding dress modesty - I totally agree!

naomikb · March 2011

Realizing now that this poll does not actually promote much discussion, here is a picture of my dress.

In your mind, add a flower to the left hip...

I really want to make a bolero from the lace leftover from when my mom made her wedding dress - we are still working on a design and a way to tint her white lace to match my ivory dress.

fpaemp2011 · March 2011

I'm adding straps to mine (the ones in pic aren't sewed in yet). The cut across was what I was looking for more than straps...and most of the dresses at DB with straps had fairly low sweetheart lines or v-cuts. The straps weren't really a modesty issue per se...i don't think shoulders are scandalous...they're more of a comfort/little extra security thing for me...

With the straps

Without straps (ignore the face...I was comparing veils and didn't know mom was taking pictures)

drama1308 · March 2011

I'm wearing a strapless dress. As long as I'm covered I don't feel I am immodest.

mrandmrsbrist · March 2011

FI has made a request for larger straps on my dress...so I guess he's looking for modesty and even though I'm going to be his wife, I'm going to respect that. There are going to be other men in the audience (duh!) and I'd rather not be a stumbling block for them.

BrideToBeBecauseHeLovesMe · March 2011

I think as long as you're covered you're fine. However, FI wanted straps rather badly so I took the spaghetti straps they included (with matching beading) and the seamstress is adding white satin under each strap to make them one inch wide on each side. It was either that or these sleeves on my dress:

Mock up on my dress:

But I think we're just making my straps one inch wide:

marinabreeze · March 2011

I never really thought about shoulder straps or lack thereof being a sign of modesty. My thinking was more about how low-cut a dress is. Mine is strapless, but the bust is straight-across and pretty modest:

I plan on wearing a sheer shawl with it, but it's more for personal taste than modesty purposes.

katanne9 · March 2011

I think a LOT to do with wedding dress modesty can just be a proper fit. If the dress doesn't fit properly around your ta-tas it may look more or less modest.

I had straps, but it was more of a fashion choice than a modesty thing.

HAHA! Oh yeah! My dress DOES have a big slit up the back. I had my seamstress lower it another inch.

iamjoesgurl · March 2011

I was more concerned about not having a low-cut dress than sleeves or straps. Mine was strapless.

sessionswedding · March 2011

I am wearing a bolero over my strapless dress ONLY because I am getting married in November. I am actually planning on changing into a reception dress that is a knee-length one-shoulder strap style.

LeahVB2011 · March 2011

Mine has thick straps with a low V neck but they are adding in a modesty piece so that the V doesn't come down as low. It was never a modesty issue as much as it was I don't like how I look in strapless dresses

kellya01 · March 2011

I tried on some strapless dresses and only found one I actually liked, one from Allure that has a sweetheart neck that was actually high enough to be modest. I didn't like how it most of the strapless ones fit me. I ended up with a lace-over-satin v-neck dress (David's Bridal 9t9612), and we altered it by raising the dress and shortening the shoulder straps so that the neckline was a bit higher on my chest. It is modest, yet feminine. :-) My FI wanted me to go strapless, my mom wanted me totally covered... it is a good compromise!!

LadyArkham · March 2011

I definitely was looking for something not too low-cut for my dress. My fiance requested some kind of strap - not for what it covered up, but to keep people from wondering if it was going to fall down. (His cousin's wife's strapless dress wasn't a perfect fit, and apparently kept people wondering if she was going to pop out as it drifted downwards - straps or sleeves would have prevented that.)

Fortunately, I love the look of cap sleeves, so I was able to get matching cap sleeves for my amazing dress. ^_^

kalizoomba · March 2011

mine's half and half.... it's got one long sleeve that goes to my wrist, and the other arm will be completely bare. No strap or sleeve on that side - however, I might wear a wrap over the dress - depending on how cold it is outside.

Calypso1977 · March 2011

an interesting read:
http://www.salvemariaregina.info/Modesty.html

sheds some light on why shoulders are deemed immodest by some.

twixinthemix · March 2011

I didn't care either way if it was strapless or not. I was originally kind of leaning towards straps because I didn't want to be hiking it up all day, but I found that the majority of the dresses with straps really just didn't not look right on me. They didn't sit right, or they were too low cut (and I didn't like the look of the modesty piece on me either), so I ended up with a strapless dress. When it gets altered in a month or so, it won't budge so I'm not going to have to worry about popping out or anything. I might get a sweater or shawl for the reception since we'll be outside and who knows what the weather will be like in Indiana then...

jenn.daniel · March 2011

I am also wearing a strapless dress. Like many of you, I was more concerned about avoiding a low neckline.

I've have my bridal portraits done and not once did I have to tug my dress up. If it fits properly, it shouldn't fall.

SuMmErKuTiE · March 2011

My gown was strapless and fit perfectly so there was no pulling it up or the "girls" spilling out all night even once we were all out on the dance floor having fun. My BM's also wore strapless dresses and some of them are plentiful in that area and none of them had any issues either with "spilling out". As long as your dress fits well and has been altered to fit your body you should be fine.

amongthelilies25 · March 2011

i didn't even THINK about immodesty when trying on my dress!! that is TERRIBLE! lol.

I didn't feel uncomfortable though... so that is a good sign. i am pretty good at not feeling confident to be seen in inmodest clothing.

My dress is strapless...with a corset back....so once i am in...i am IN....lol. i am all tied in and it doesnt move at all! lol. it does have some rouching and some detail under my bust and on my hip........hhmm....

i still love it tho! lol. it covers everything that needs to be covered and the top is not loose so nothing will be shown. lol.

alyssajael · March 2011

FI wanted my to have some time a sleeve, because he didn't feel a strapless wedding dress was appropriate. I personally don't like the way I look in strapless dresses, so I didn't have a problem with it.

this is my dress, but I will most likely be doing some alterations to the neckline. Depends on how it fits when it finally comes in.

SaraAndrew2010 · March 2011

Amongthelillies, love your dress!

mattycam · March 2011

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[QUOTE]i didn't even THINK about immodesty when trying on my dress!! Posted by amongthelilies25[/QUOTE]

Me neither! It's probably because how I carry myself day to day isn't going to be much different than my wedding day. I am very slender so my dress is "poofy" than fitted. It's funny because when I was looking for a dress, I was looking for a halter dress or off the shoulder straps and ended up falling in love witha strapless, sweetheart neckline dress.
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Bre2Be · March 2011

I knew I was going to have a hard time finding a dress that wasn't strapless since the majority of dresses now are. I loved my dress from the moment I put it on, but I am not comfortable with my arms. When I put on the lace bolero it gave it a different look that I loved even more!

xstarx05x · March 2011

I didn't have a preference of straps/strapless, this is just the dress i fell in love with

And since it was winter, I had a small faux-fur cape I wore most of the time

thereisbeauty · March 2011

My dress has sort of cap-like sleeves, but an open, key-hole back, like this:

so Idk if it could be described as "modest" or not.

FI has no idea what it looks like, but before I bought my dress I did talk him into going through a couple of bridal magazines with me, to point out which dresses he liked and didn't like. A lot of the dresses that he liked were strapless, and he never said anything about wanting sleeves added, so I really don't think that he would care either way. And modesty is important to him, I think it's just that so many woman wear strapless dresses nowadays, nobody really notices it anymore. That's exactly why I didn't want strapless though, I wanted something a little bit out of the ordinary.

Beazilla · March 2011

I looked at a lot of dresses with cap sleeves and straps, but settled on a strapless dress with a single detachable strap. It's a corset dress, but the strap is more for my security and the look.

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