Connecticut

ASKING BRIDESMAIDS TO BE IN WEDDING...

Hi Ladies! 
I wanted to plan a formal way to ask my girls to be in my wedding.  I was thinking of having a brunch with them all there so I can ask them all at the same time. 
I was trying to think of ways to ask...
Was thinking of some sort of gift bag with some token gifts and a cute/funny poem enclosed asking them to be my bridesmaids.  But beyond that, I'm stumped!

Would love to know what you all out there in "knotland" may have done to help me get my creative juices flowing!

Thanks,
Linda

Wedding Countdown Ticker


120 have been sent the invite image
90 are ready to boogie image
26 are party poopers image
4 haven't read the etiquette book image
RSVP DATE : April 10, 2011

Image and video hosting by TinyPic

Re: ASKING BRIDESMAIDS TO BE IN WEDDING...

  • edited December 2011
    I took mine out to dinner - individually - and asked. I didn't want them to feel pressure to say yes - and if you have them all in a group - I think (if for any reason they were to say no - money reasons, etc.) they might feel uncomfortable.
    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
  • edited December 2011
    Although all my 'maids pretty much knew I was going to ask them (family and super close friends) I put together gift bags and got them each a tank that said Bridesmaid on it.  They are all planning on wearing them when we get ready that day :)
  • edited December 2011

    What a cute idea!   love it!

    My friends and sister know they will be in the wedding, I just want to formally ask them in a memorable way.


    Wedding Countdown Ticker


    120 have been sent the invite image
    90 are ready to boogie image
    26 are party poopers image
    4 haven't read the etiquette book image
    RSVP DATE : April 10, 2011

    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
  • edited December 2011
    I did a silly thing - I got a "Bridelizza vodo" doll and put it in a gift bag with some chocolate and a nice card. So it was a good laugh and something nice at the same time.
    Married & TTC #1 since 8/28/10 BFP #1 10/25/10 - EDD 7/5/11 -M/C 11/10/10 BFP #2 12/16/10 - EDD 8/26/11 - BORN 8/10/11 Photobucket Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • banana468banana468 member
    Knottie Warrior 25000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    edited December 2011
    I definitely wouldn't ask them as a group.  Being a BM can be a time and financial commitment  and it's not great to put a bunch of people on the spot in front of each other.
  • edited December 2011

    Hi! I would have to agree with banana468. What I did was I bought "Would you be my Maid of Honor?" "Would you be my Bridesmaid?" "Would you be my Flower Girl" cards online. I think it was from Greeting Card Universe and sent them to my whole party. Of course, everyone accepted. I thought that it was formal enough. I received calls from each of them once they received the card. I thought it was a cute idea.

    For my MOH and BM gifts they are getting cute little gift bags full of things including MAC makeup, Swarovski crystal jewelry for the big day, etc. :)

    Good luck!
    ~Joann

  • Whippet8Whippet8 member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    the only advice I have it to ask them individually instead of in a group. I think it would be more meaningful one on one, and less pressure.
    TTC Buddies with JennaHack and 102007(Congrats!)!
    Baby Blog
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • edited December 2011
    Aw, I feel lame, I didn't do anything cutesy like this....I just called everyone up in my engagement excitement and asked them right then and there when I told them.  Everyone accepted of course, and I'm going to get them really nice gifts.  PPs have great ideas :)
    image
    "I don't know how it gets better than this. You take my hand and lead me head first - Fearless"
    Anniversary

    Visit The Nest! Visit The Nest! Visit The Nest! Visit The Nest!
  • Vikki2payVikki2pay member
    Sixth Anniversary 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Bridesmaid Poem.

    The day, the dress
    the bride, the groom
    the joy, the tears
    will all come soon.

    Professing true love
    to my husband-to-be
    with family and friends
    all watching me.


    Can you believe
    that in a short while
    we will be walking down the aisle?


    If there is one person
    on whom I can depend
    It would be you
    My dear friend!


    Nothing would give me
    more joy and pride,
    than to have you up there
    right by my side!


    Will you be my bridesmaid?
  • edited December 2011
    I didn't do anything cutesy either. I thought about it- then didn't do it hahaha. I also asked mine all individually. Two I took out to dinner (cos they live here) separately- and the other two I asked them while they were here from Ohio visiting. I just couldn't think of a non-awkward way besides that. I kept thinking, well what if I hand them a card. Then I have to sit there and wait until the open it? Why not just tell them what I'd put in the card. I'm hoping others have better ideas than I had!
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • edited December 2011
    that's a cute idea...i got all my girls tank tops that say bridesmaid and maid of honor and i gave it to them in a gift bag...this way they get something that they can wear for the bachelorette party or whenever they want.
    good luck
  • kls114kls114 member
    Tenth Anniversary 5000 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I love the poem! I am planning on using something like that!

    Ok I have to disagree a little on asking as a group. I am super close to all of my BM's & almost all of them know they will be in our wedding. They are either close family, really close friends or my future SIL's. I haven't asked "officially" yet but do planning on doing something cute similiar to what the girls have posted.

    I am definitely getting them bridesmaid tanks. The thought has also crossed my mind to get those really creative wine glasses with each girls initial on them. I would also like to write them a really nice card expressing how much I love them & would love for them to stand up with us on our wedding day with the BM poem on there & a MOH one as well.

    ~Miss.~
    ~Mrs.~
    **Password: kls114**
    Photobucket
    Anniversary
  • clearlite9clearlite9 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    If you are pretty sure everyone will say yes, I also do not see anything wrong with doing it in a group.  If you aren't sure about everyone (for money reasons or what not) then I would do it individually.

    If you do it as a group and go out to dinner, maybe you could have a cake made that says something like "Will you be my bridesmaids?" and have the server bring it out at the end as a surprise.

    Other than that, I've got nothing.  I also wish I had done something cutesy when I asked my girls.
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards