I really just do not know what to do.
FMIL has a track record of telling FI what she really thinks about me but to my face she is Ms. Merry Sunshine. (She also does this to other people and now wonders why I don't trust her. hmmm...)
Then a few weeks ago she tells FI she doesn't like to spend time with me. "She's great and I'd love spend more time with her, but she gets annoyed too easy."
1. Yes, I do get annoyed easily, I'll admit it. I have struggled to be a positive person and I am making slow but steady progress at it.. I don't care for their family constantly bickering and fighting about the same thing over and over and never resolving anything so when they start doing that I usually go in the other room because it stresses me out. (I get physically ill when I am too stressed also.) However this is apparently a HUGE problem with her and that's why she says I get annoyed too easy. I don't yell, make faces or make a big deal, i just leave the room till they are finsihed.
(FFIL does the same damn thing but no one bithces at him because he pays all the bills.)
2. I call BS. I thought when you love or like someone you take the bad with the good? I had really though all of the hours I have spent working hard at their family construction business, and just being generally helpful would earn me a little forgiveness? Apparently not.
3. FMIL admitted to FI that FSIL (she and FBIL have been staying at his parents while they remodel theirs) is lazy, doesn't help abournd the house and I did a lot more to help when we lived there for a couple of months- however FMIL loves going shopping and hanging out with FSIL.
4. I'm not allowed to bring it up and talk about it becuase in FMIL words "that might make a good time a sad time." Funny she doesn't have trouble bitching at people wheh it suits her, and I am always conveniently not around when the above issues come up. How in the hell am I supposed to resolve this!?
I am sorry but that is BS, either there is something deeper that shes doesn't like about me or she is just too cowardly to admit she just don't like me. I would be a lot less hurt if she could be honest- we're all human and not all of us are going to like eachother, it's okay. But instead I never know if Dr. Jeckyl or Mr. Hyde is going to be around.
To top it all off they are paying for more than half of our wedding... They are giving us the same amount they gave FI brother to cover half of his wedding, and frankly with all of their family they have insisted we invite (that no one has seen in forever!) we honestly can't make this huge stupid wedding happen without thier money.
FI understands but doesn't know waht to do and I don't blame him. He keeps telling her she needs to talk to me but she wont.
UGH.
I apologize for this being long...