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Announcements before the wedding?

mrsdocktermrsdockter member
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We're having a intimate ceremony, but our parents want to send annoucements to distant family and friends just to announce we're getting married and so they can send some gifts/money. 
They said to send them out with the invites..? But I did some googling and most of announcements come after the wedding? Is it ok to send out annoucements before the wedding and how would you word it so they don't take it as a invitation? 
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  • CallaLily25CallaLily25 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_announcements-before-the-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:a7d20084-497e-487e-ae7f-2fce8d7b9216Post:ddf15ebc-d36e-4755-a0a8-ab543d39510e">Announcements before the wedding?</a>:
    [QUOTE]We're having a intimate ceremony, but our parents want to send annoucements to distant family and friends just to announce we're getting married and s<strong>o they can send some gifts/money.</strong>  They said to send them out with the invites..? But I did some googling and most of announcements come after the wedding? Is it ok to send out annoucements before the wedding and how would you word it so they don't take it as a invitation? 
    Posted by mrsdockter[/QUOTE]

    Wanting to send announcements to receive gifts is extremely "gift-grabby." I understand wanting to notify distant friends and family, but it's really only appropriate to announce your marriage after you're married. If you send it before, it has the potential to look gift-grabby and like you're saying "Just so you know, we're getting married soon, but you're not invited."

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Ditto CallaLily. Why on earth would you send an invitation or announcement for the specific purpose of getting gifts and money?  Oy.  Send announcements AFTER you are married. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • mrsdocktermrsdockter member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_announcements-before-the-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:a7d20084-497e-487e-ae7f-2fce8d7b9216Post:e28d062d-4b52-4889-a463-ca2cb85a3887">Re: Announcements before the wedding?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Announcements before the wedding? : Wanting to send announcements to receive gifts is extremely "gift-grabby." I understand wanting to notify distant friends and family, but it's really only appropriate to announce your marriage after you're married. If you send it before, it has the potential to look gift-grabby and like you're saying "Just so you know, we're getting married soon, but you're not invited."
    Posted by CallaLily25[/QUOTE]

    <div>I don't care if they send gifts or money, but our parents do. So I should just send them after the wedding? Then i'll also have 2 rounds of thank you cards to do :p</div>
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  • mrsdocktermrsdockter member
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    I feel people are taking it wrongly.. Like I stated I don't care if they send money or whatever because they're not invited due to budget and firecode, and I barely know the people. 
    But our parents said to send them out with invites so they can have something and they would send us something, this is all my parents and i'm just wondering the ettiquite like when I should send them and how to word them. 
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  • CallaLily25CallaLily25 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_announcements-before-the-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:a7d20084-497e-487e-ae7f-2fce8d7b9216Post:0ca855d5-a868-4525-8d78-e3ccc89d8420">Re: Announcements before the wedding?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I feel people are taking it wrongly.. Like I stated I don't care if they send money or whatever because they're not invited due to budget and firecode, and I barely know the people.  But our parents said to send them out with invites so they can have something and they would send us something, this is all my parents and i'm just wondering the ettiquite like when I should send them and how to word them. 
    Posted by mrsdockter[/QUOTE]

    I see what you're saying, but I still think it would look a little odd to announce your marriage before you're married. You could have the announcements ready to go before your wedding and then send them out a few days after you get married. That way your guests will receive the announcements when you're already married. They'll still have the option to send gifts if they would like, but they won't be reading an announcement for something that is about to happen instead of something that did happen.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I understand it is your parents who said to do it and why, not you. That doesn't change my response.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    They're wrong. Instead, do as PP said and mail the announcements once you've tied the knot.
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