This is mostly to vent because obviously I don't want to vent to FI. So FI is finishing nursing school in 7 weeks (thank goodness!) and then will be sitting for his nursing boards soon after. We are going to Vegas in August to get married with his two children. His son just turned 18 and the daughter will be 11.
So here is my frustration. My FI has sole custody of his son. When the son was 13, he wanted to have a relationship with his mom so FI let him live out of state with his mom to establish his relationship with his mom. It ended disastrously 5 months later when the son was put on a plane and sent home with only the clothes on his back. The son has a "failure" attitude and yes, is actively trying to fail high school. It will be a miracle if he actually graduates on time in June. His issue-he just refuses to do the work. He's a smart kid (works at a movie theater) but just lazy. When FI and I moved in together, we agreed to stay in the kid's school area so he could go to junior and senior year at the high school he was already going to. This meant an extra $400-500 a month in rent solely because there was such a limited area for apartments that were big enough for all of us (thus a townhouse,etc). My saving grace is that for the last year the son was saying he was going to join the Marines right after school. He has even done the paperwork. So FI and I have been planning on moving right after the wedding and downsizing (I have been working two full time jobs for two years to pay for the bigger place, help with FI schooling, etc and frankly, I am tired). Now the son doesn't want to go to the military and doesn't want to do college. We are refusing to pay for any of his college due to his current 1.7 GPA in high school and there is no current ambition. So he will continue to live with us. His father states he has to pay $300 a month in rent but I have a hard time believing that will be done.
So now what???? I am ready to scream at this kid because he is putting so much pressure on his father with his utter laziness. I just feel like my hands are tied and I am ready to blow up. I know I can't but am I entitled to have a discussion with him? I feel like this was supposed to be a wonderful summer with both FI and the son graduating and the wedding. Now with hsi potential not graduating high school looming, it really takes away some of the joy.