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Do you have an 'unsure' option on your RSVP card?

huskerfan246huskerfan246
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in October 2012 Weddings
Today I get home from work and we have an RSVP that arrived from a relative of mine who lives in the same city where the wedding is going to be.  Well I was excited to get another one in the mail, opened it up, and noticed she added an extra line onto what I had on there, 'will be attending' or 'unable to attend'....her extra line said "unsure" and she put a check next to it.  Did I miss something?  All other RSVP card examples i've seen didn't have this on it.  The return date I have on it is September 15th, so she has plenty of time to send it in.  This might be a common thing, but was just curious if I missed something when I created those RSVP cards?
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Re: Do you have an 'unsure' option on your RSVP card?

  • PetalPockets2012PetalPockets2012 member
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    I have never heard of that. We just have the 2 choices - accepts or declines.
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  • brainybrunettebrainybrunette member
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    I've never seen that either. That's annoying...when is she going to let you know? Why didn't she just wait a little bit to send back the RSVP when she was sure of her plans?
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Sorry but that made me laugh! Some people are very creative:)  I agree with you that she could have waited until closer to the RSVP date to send it back! We just had accepts and declines on ours too.
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  • kimm260kimm260
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    That's really weird, why didn't she just wait until she was 'sure'.  We only have accept decline.
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  • huskerfan246huskerfan246
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    Well thats what I was thinking, its not like I had anything on there saying to send it back right away, I just wanted to get the invites out to remind everyone of the date.  I guess i'll have to message her when it gets closer and ask her again.  On a positive note, this RSVP I received resulted in a win of a bet that I had going with my FI!  Whoever had a family member or friend's RSVP in the mail first wins, and that was me  :)  Now he owes me dinner at my favorite restaurant.
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  • LDubHawksFanLDubHawksFan member
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    hahahahaha, now I've seen everything on here!  That is truly strange to me.  Why send it right back?!  I guess I would treat it like a non-response and have to call her the week after the RSVP for find out if she is "sure" yet.

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  • ericaandtom2012ericaandtom2012 member
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    Yeah... you're either coming or you're not.  I'm not paying for a plate for you if you might show up. 

    Why didn't she just wait until closer to the RSVP date?  She has to have close to a month to figure it out... I'd call her and ask her to please choose one or the other.
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    That's really annoying. If you haven't gotten a definite answer by the 8th of September I'd call her and reminder her that you need a definite answer by the 15th otherwise you'll have to mark her as not attending.

    But ya, that's SO annoying. No one is going to pay for a plate of food for someone who is "unsure" if they can attend or not.
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  • futuremrsjdmartinfuturemrsjdmartin
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    I'd find that obnoxious. Why send it back so early if you don't even know? Maybe she doesn't realize that you need to know to factor in costs? Maybe she thought she was being funny? Either way I would call her a week before the RSVP date and ask and say if she doesnt know youre just going to write her down as a no.
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  • music11music11 member
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    Oh my gosh, NO.  I can't believe someone would write that down!!
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  • shasha5847shasha5847 member
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    I don't find that acceptable at all, it doesn't help you with your head count or assigning tables.  I would consider sending the RSVP back by mail with a small note and her "unsure" crossed off.  Or if you have extra RSVP cards send her a new one with a note saying, please send by Sept. 15th when you know if you are coming or not (but it'd have to be written nicely).  Another option would be to call her and let her know you are sending another one and to please not send it back until she knows.

    Good luck!
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  • mlperkins12mlperkins12
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    I have never heard of an unsure option.  I would simply ignore it until your RSVP date and then follow up with her for a final decision.  I have had a few members of FI's family, mostly OOT say they wern't sure, and I have simply said that is not a problem, they just need to let me know for certain by August 30th so I can plan for meals.
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  • lehc723lehc723 member
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    Very weird-- and how frustrating! Why not wait and let you know when she knows? Is she never going to let you know for sure, and wants you to just hold a space for her?!

    Although, to be fair, my MOH did add a third line that said "If nothing better comes up" and checked that, but that was a joke. ;)
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