Bachelorette and bridal shower vent.

doeie04 · February 2012

My MOH lives about 9 hours away from me. She is trying to get my other BMs involved in a bridal/couples shower (not sure what we are doing yet) when she won't even be able to make it, along with my mom and sister. Is it just me, or would you rather not have one if some really important people won't be able to make it? To me it won't be the same...

I tried to get them to combine the bach (since she mentioned one) and shower so we could do it a few days before the wedding, but she didn't think that some of the family would be comfortable with penis stuff at the party (which I am pretty sure my girls are having a ton of fun with and would be sad if they didn't get to do).

It is really hard to cram all that into the week of the wedding since some of the out of state/country people aren't sure when they will be in town.

Any great ideas?

PS~ She asked for help, I am not taking over. She is having a hard time getting my other BMs to participate. :P

sarahlm619 · February 2012

What about just throwing a party the night before the wedding? I have bridesmaids all over the county (Hawaii to Texas -- wedding is in Michigan) and part of me asking them was "I don't want a shower and we'll just party the night before so we can all celebrate together." We did this at my best friends wedding and had a blast -- plus, it was a great way to spend even more time with all these people who had to travel!

BrooklynNovia · February 2012

Is the date at all flexible? I'd definitely want to have all my BMs there.

I'd need more information to be able to suggest something, like is the shower or bachelorette more important to you? Does the bachelorette need to have the traditional theme [you know what I mean, wink]? Why can't your MOH, mom and sister make it?

doeie04 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]What about just throwing a party the night before the wedding? I have bridesmaids all over the county (Hawaii to Texas -- wedding is in Michigan) and part of me asking them was "I don't want a shower and we'll just party the night before so we can all celebrate together." We did this at my best friends wedding and had a blast -- plus, it was a great way to spend even more time with all these people who had to travel!
Posted by sarahlm619[/QUOTE]

I thought about having it the night before, but we are doing a rehearsal dinner thing at our house. (Just pasta and garlic bread). Wouldn't it be rude to combine them if we wanted to go bowling or something where they would have to pay for their games? (We can't pay for that many people and we can't fit everyone in our house if it rains....)

We were thinking about going bowling and having cake and a good time for the couples shower (if that is the way we went). People would pay for their shoes and games, but we would provide cake and snacks if they allowed us to. (Some only allow cake.) Everyone we would invite to the couples shower would be invited to the rehearsal dinner. There would be more invited to the shower though.

kristin183 · February 2012

I am busting it all out in one weekend. We are having my bachelorette party in Vegas. Most of my friends live there; and those that don't were willing to go for a girls weekend. So since I figured everyone would be together we are doing the Bridal Shower on Saturday afternoon with my family and older friends; but that night we will be going out (and the night before) bachelorette stye.

I live 8-10 hours away from most of my important people)..and am only inviting a few people from where I live now. So it made more sense to me.

doeie04 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Is the date at all flexible? I'd definitely want to have all my BMs there. I'd need more information to be able to suggest something, like is the shower or bachelorette more important to you? Does the bachelorette need to have the traditional theme [you know what I mean, wink]? Why can't your MOH, mom and sister make it?
Posted by BrooklynNovia[/QUOTE]

I am pretty flexible on the date. I will just take the day off or whatever. My MOH, mom and sister all live out of state/country and won't be in town until closer to the wedding.

BrooklynNovia · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bachelorette and bridal shower vent. : I am pretty flexible on the date. I will just take the day off or whatever. My MOH, mom and sister all live out of state/country and won't be in town until closer to the wedding.
Posted by doeie04[/QUOTE]
That's a hard situation. If it were me, I'd plan it completely around when them three of them could make it. I wish I had something more to offer.

kipnus · February 2012

My MOH/sister lives out of country, so she won't make it to my official bachelorette party (planned by my swim coach's wife and some close friends). I would like to just go out for dinner and drinks with my siblings a couple of days before the wedding. I have no idea what's happening for my shower, if I have one...

I like the idea of bowling and cake. Were you thinking of doing that on the same day as your RD, just earlier?

doeie04 · February 2012

Well, we have decided that it would be a good idea to do our rehearsal, then go to our house for rehearsal dinner (they won't let us have it at the venue and we can't afford to go out and eat) of pasta and garlic bread, then us girls would go out to do something fun for a bach party. Is this too much for one day? We would have rehearsal at 4pm (Forced by the venue. They only give us an hour!) Dinner at 5pm and then go out after.

sweetcanadian1979 · February 2012

My one shower is the weekend before the wedding, along with my bachelorette so that my mom & sis can be there, would not be the same without my mom.

doeie04 · February 2012

I am inviting my mom, step mom and FMIL. We aren't doing anything horrible for the bachelorette party. We are thinking boas, colorful outfits and some fun accessories. We want to go bar hopping and do a tasteful scavenger hunt with pictures.

MMRoberts11 · February 2012

Can you have the shower at say noon and then the bachelorette party start at maybe 8 or 9 or something that same day? That way there will not be penis stuff out for the shower and no one at the shower will get offended. The last wedding I was in did it this way for similar reasons and it all worked out.

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