I've already decided I want to walk with my FI down the aisle. He likes the idea too. I envision coming from the back left of the room and he from the back right and us meeting in the middle and walking together to the front. To me it's like we are walking together into this new phase and are a unit not two single people anymore.
But, I don't think my family likes this idea. I don't have my parents anymore and was raised by my grandparents. I've never felt extremely close with them, especially not my grandfather. We are on good terms, and I love them, but I don't want my grandfather to walk me down the aisle. My FI and I are not interested in doing a lot of traditions in our wedding - we are not having any religion involved, no parent child dances, it's going to be cocktail style, etc. My grandparents are also not very mobile and walking would be difficult for both of them - they are not in wheelchairs but use walkers and have health problems that make it very difficult to walk. That's not the reason why I don't want him to walk me, it's just another piece of information to consider.
Anyway, a couple months ago when my grandparents were asking us all sorts of questions about the wedding, I mentioned how we are going to walk each other down the aisle. They were silent and I could tell my grandmother was hurt. We still have a little over a year until our wedding, and I KNOW this is going to come up again. I know I just have to find a nice way to explain all this, but I'm dreading it. I don't want it to become an argument and we do argue very easily. FI and I are paying for the wedding completely ourselves, so it's not like they really have a say. I just really want it my way but I feel bad hurting them.
Any advice? If you walked yourself down the aisle or with your FI, how did you break it to your family? Sorry this was a long post. Thank you.
