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What Did We Do???

jacquiroxxjacquiroxx member
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Please excuse my mini-freakout as I come to the realization of what I did to myself...

With a little less than 9 months to go, we are finally really realizing what we've done to ourselves.

We (as in, FI and I) are in a wedding two weeks before our own.  Two weeks.

As in, September 8, 2012.

Oh my freaking God are we stupid or what!?

Let's talk about all the stupid money we have to come up with for that month.  I am having a slight freak out.  I'm going along as usual, and decide to email my girls about their dresses.  We plan to order in February and I'm basically just updating them on that status, etc.  And then I realize: I need a dress for another wedding that month, too.  And it's not like I can just go to Macy's or raid my closet.  I have to go to dress appointments, etc. and agree with other girls and everything.

So I talk to the bride (she's a close friend- Fi's best friend's fiance- we hang out with them ALL the time).  Luckily, she's one of those awesome brides who picks a colour and fabric and lets you pick your own dress.  Thank god.  But then I get to thinking about Fi's tux, showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties and wedding gifts.  Oh my God we are going to be so freaking broke.  Plus I'm registered for a race on August 25th, so that's one day that I can't do ANY showers- mine OR hers.  AhhhhH!  This is crazy!

Of course I wouldn't have said no even if I did think of all this sooner.  They are close friends and we spend hours with them every week.  I love her, I love her groom, and I couldn't not be a part of their wedding.  But still.  I think I might go crazy closer to the wedding.  You guys might need to keep me calm haha
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  • BMcLeodTeamBMcLeodTeam member
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    I agreed to a friend's wedding before getting a date hahaha luckily just found out its 2013 lol 
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  • kissamarykissamary member
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    My bridesmaid is getting married a month after me, and I am in her wedding too!  We are having fun trying to coordinate parties and such too :)
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Honestly, if you can't afford to pay for the gown and all of the other stuff that come with being a bridesmaid, don't do it. I don't believe in letting things get in my life that get me frazzled and cause anxiety. That being said, I would plan out how much the gown cost, and how much anything else would cost, and really evaluate if it's feesable to do this, if it is, I would go ahead and be the bridesmaid. You're not the maid of honor, and the bride knows that you're getting married in two weeks, so people will be understanding with you.
    So basically, it's all about how bad you want to be a bridesmaid in that wedding on a scale from 1-10 (1 being the least), if it's a 10, you'll take money from other pleasures (like going out to eat, clothes) and spend it on a dress, or you'll search out a really cheap dress for your friend's wedding. While I applaud for thinking this through, you don't want to make a mountin out of a mole hill. You get to choose your own bridesmaid gown, and who says that you have to attend the bridal shower (it would be very important if you did)? But if you didn't, it's not the end of the world. Please don't let something like this stress you out.
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  • jessa1228jessa1228 member
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    Oh man, that's tough. Looks like you might be eating ramen for a few months, lol.
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  • cashkittycashkitty
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    Maybe you guys can agree not to do expensive gifts for each other. And if you can't afford the bachlorette party you can always decline. It sounds like you could get a dress in your price range with the way she's setting it up. She sounds low maintenance and understanding. And you could maybe go ahead and get some of the purchases for her wedding on out of the way, or set up a seperate savings and commit to only spending the xxx amount that you have saved to spend on her day. It could be really fun to work together on your weddings and could probably work towards destressing both of you :)
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  • mamameechmamameech
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    oh gosh - that would be stressing me out too!! I've learned through my many years of stress lol, that sometimes it's really not worth it. Really take time to evaluate everything on your plate and don't let your eyes be bigger than your stomach :P
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