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A Special Request from Andrew's Mom

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So Andrew's mom just came in and wanted to talk to me. She sat down in a chair next to the bed and honestly- I was a bit nervous.

Tomorrow she is getting her chemo port (clicky) taken out. They are doing it under local anesthesia and she asked me to be in the room with her if the doctor allows it.

Not Andrew, not her husband....me.

I think it's because I'm used to medical procedures as my parents have been ill most of my life. I also don't think she's comfortable with showing her son her breasts. Makes sense.

What a weird honor.

I just wanted to share with you ladies, because I'm feeling pretty special.

Have your SO's parents ever made you feel special? Do share.
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow. It's great that you are so close with her!

    I don't think that BF's parents really like me that much. I think they would prefer he date his close friend from high school. I try not to let that get to me though.


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  • flygirlmegflygirlmeg
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    edited December 2011
    Wow.  That literally brought tears to my eyes and really shows how highly she thinks of you. 

    As far as if BF's parents have made me feel special . . . not particularly.  But they love me and love us together so I guess that's all the special I need!
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  • motoLynmotoLyn member
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    I'm glad that you and Andrew's mom are getting to be close like that.  What an honor.

    As for me, well FI's parents well him mom tells me all the time that she would disown her son if he were to ever mess the relationship up.  I think the things that they've done were to attend my graduation because they wanted to share in the joy with me.  She went searching for a sea life related amber pendant as a graduation gift.  All of her daughters have some amber pendant from her.  I also felt special when she bought me a pair of purple Croc rain boots for my birthday.  FMIL went looking every where for them. 

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  • CASK85CASK85 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_special-request-andrews-mom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:ee038ab5-846f-4be1-a379-9cb4c6f96661Post:b2521197-f287-4cde-8e3c-7b7dfbcec5dc">Re: A Special Request from Andrew's Mom</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm glad that you and Andrew's mom are getting to be close like that.  What an honor. <strong>As for me, well FI's parents well him mom tells me all the time that she would disown her son if he were to ever mess the relationship up</strong>.  I think the things that they've done were to attend my graduation because they wanted to share in the joy with me.  She went searching for a sea life related amber pendant as a graduation gift.  All of her daughters have some amber pendant from her.  I also felt special when she bought me a pair of purple Croc rain boots for my birthday.  FMIL went looking every where for them. 
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    My FI's dad says this to him all the time too. Sometimes I think they like me better than they like him :-P
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  • cu97tigercu97tiger member
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    edited December 2011
    Lunar, what a lovely honor!

    BFs mom and I have a great relationship. Her and her husband (BFs slightly, ok VERY, quirky stepdad) have come up for my graduation, a couple birthdays, and to hang out with my parents when they were in town. She gives me awesome, thoughtful gifts, and we chat on the phone about once every week or two. Secretly, I'm looking forward to going wedding dress shopping more with her than my own mom, because my mom will just get hung up on the price and won't really give me constructive feedback.
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    edited December 2011
    FI's mom called me this week to tell me just how happy she is that I'm marrying her son, and that she knows I'll make a wonderful wife and mother to our children.  she started crying, it was very sweet!
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  • becunning2becunning2 member
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    edited December 2011
    Awww, that's quite the honor that she's requested you to be present.

    My boyfriend's mom told boyfriend's sister (who was arranging family photos) that I had to be included in the photos because I was as good as family since I live with boyfriend.  So I'm in some swanky family photos with matching color schemes!
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  • elanniselannis member
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    I wish I had that kind of relationship with my BF's mom. She thinks I don't like her, since I'm shy and she intimidates me, so I don't talk much, but if she'd just calm down a little I could definitely open up more. Mostly I think that she thinks that I want to take BF away from her and that I'll give my mom more "grandma time" when we have kids.
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  • polkadot111polkadot111 member
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    I wish I had these types of relationships with FI's parents.

    What an honor!!! :)
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    Wow. I'm jealous of some of your relationships with your SO's parents. My past boyfriends' parents have loved me (still do actually), I don't really know what's up with BF's parents.

    Elannis - I know how you feel, I feel like my parents will have way more time with our kids than his parents will.


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  • jaycee7389jaycee7389
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    edited December 2011
    Lunar that is such an honor. I'm happy to hear she trusts you and finds comfort in having you with her!

    I have a great relationship with FI's parents. She has told me/him/my mother that I am the best thing that has ever happened to him. She even tells me she loves me when she says goodbye :)
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  • ravenrayravenray member
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    Aw Lunar that is wonderful!!  <3 I am so happy for you.  It is a great feeling when your BF's parents finally accept you.
    I don't think that there is any special honor for me, but BF's mom did start calling me her girl.  I have walked into a room and she goes, "there is my girl."  Which was cute considering she HATED me when I first started dating her son.  I am considering to start calling her by her first name :)

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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    Lunar, that really is an honor.  I too teared up.  *hugs*

    FI's dad frequently cooks gluten free just for the hell of it, whether I'm going to be there or not.  It makes me feel special, because I know that he's thinking about me when he does it.  His dad also has a really hard time communicating with people - he's had a hard life, but he will talk my ear off.  It blows FI away that his dad and I can actually have a conversation without being poked and prodded.  
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  • Ollie08Ollie08 member
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    Wow what an amazing honor Lunar! I wish my relationship was like that with BF's mom or even my own! It's not that I don't get along with BF's mom, but I think like others have said she's afraid I'll take him from her. Add to that the fact that she's a widow, and he's her oldest son, it just kind of amplifies the problem. I try to keep her involved, but quite frankly I don't need to put forth an effort because she pushes herself right in to our lives anyway.

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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    Thanks for sharing in this special moment with me, ladies! Your support is always so very much appreciated!!
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  • Peaseblossom55Peaseblossom55 mod
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    That is really a nice honor that she wants you to be there for her/

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  • Sparrow87Sparrow87
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    I don't have any crazy stories, but I do want to say good luck to her and to you. 
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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    Thanks, Sparrow! YGPM...once I write it here in a minute. LOL.
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  • Sparrow87Sparrow87
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    YGPM back. 
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  • bsidebellabsidebella
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    When FI's mom graduated from college, I got invited to the ceremony. It made me feel really special - especially since at that point, FI and I hadn't been dating all that long. 

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  • kellylove22kellylove22
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    Lunar- YGPM

    I can't specifically think of a way that I felt super special off the top of my head (the brain's kinda mushy this morning...still), but I felt special when bf's sister and brother in law came to my law school graduation. I wasn't going to invite them really because they both work and it's on a weekday, but they insisted on coming because I'm "family." It was really nice for me too because my parents and brother weren't really able to come at that time, so it was good to feel like I had a few family members there.
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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    Lunar, that's awesome! :)

    SO's parents and I get along soooo much better than I get along with my own parents. I've called them Mom & Dad from...oh probably 3 months in. They let me crash there when SO & I first started dating, we lived in their basement for a few months until our apartment was ready, they honestly do more for me than my own mom. SO's Mom has helped me paint my apartment, move, hang pictures, she'll come over to the house sometimes when she knows i'm at work or school (They do have a key) and will do the dishes, or do a load of laundry when she knows I'm overworked and overstressed. She volunteers to cook family dinner (we only live 3 minutes away), help me go grocery shopping, etc.

    But I knew I was family when SO's niece, who was 2 at the time, was learning her last name.. .Nieuwenhuis.... which she pronounces noon-en-hise....she was going around the dinner table, pointing at people and saying who they were, "mommy noon-en-hise, daddy noon-en-hise, etc.." Then gets to me.... and goes " Ry ee noon-en-hise" (Rylee Nieuwenhuis) and everybody just stopped....I kept looking at my plate, because at this point, SO and I had only been together for like...4 months... SO handled it very well, said, "Maddie, can one of us at least graduate college first?" She laughed and said yep! LOL. But, Maddie decreed it, so therefore it must  be! She got mad when SO brought a good friend of mine that's a girl over to the house to grab some baskets to help us move....Maddie was not pleased, she looks at SO and goes... Uncle tom...who's that?! Where is RYEE!!!! lol

    I <3 my FIL's... I couldn't ask for better. I usually go to their house for lunch while I'm working at least 3 times a week :)

    ....Hmmm didn't mean to thread jack you lunar!! I'm soo excited for you! It's an awesome honor, and I see it as she trusts you and wants you to be a part of big stuff!
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  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    If FI and I split, FMIL has already called dibs on me in the break up. I guess you can say we're cordial ;)

    That sounds like such an honor Lunar!
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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    So- we got Andrew's mom port out this morning. It wasn't a very big procedure, but she was very happy to have me there. She told the doctor that I was Andrew's "fiance." Not sure if she told her that becuse she wanted to ensure I could stay in the room (the closest of kin- the more likely you can stay) or if she really believes that. LOL.

    I wonder what's going to happen when we announce our real engagement- are his parents going to be like..."Erm...wha? Weren't you already engaged?"

    Kelly- YGPM..as soon as I write it. LOL.
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