Dang Invites

DondadaTimes2 · February 2011

I know etiquette says that if parents pay they need to be listed on the invite. My parents are paying for 95% of it. The exception being Joshs mom who contributed $700 toward the photographer and his dad who is doing the rehearsal dinner. That means that only my parents are on the invite right?

I dont know why I feel bad not including his parents, but theyre divorced (so extra lines and junk) and really not contributing much and when it comes to the planning help...I have to practically beg his mom to do ANYTHING! She bitched about the centerpieces, acted all insulted when I told her I didnt want the tiara she "randomly bought" back when Josh was with his ex, and when I tell her I need childhood pics of Josh for the table numbers....well lets just say I asked 3 weeks ago and when it gets brought up she says "Theyre in the attic and the attic is cold. I dont want to go up there" UGH!!!!

So I can leave his parents off right? And if my parents are "requesting the honor" is it bad to have them come back to my house? Ugh. Maybe I should ask my mom if she wants her name on it. Maybe she doesnt even care and Im wasting my time worrying. Blah.

Thoughts?

kevinandmonica2011 · February 2011

Ask your parents... they may not care at all.
My parents (divorced) each contributed a small amount. Kevin's parents (together) contributed less. We are paying for 75% ourselves. But we did check with everyone, just to make sure no one would be all pissy if we didn't list their names.
If one would have demanded they be named, we would have just named everyone or used something like "Together with their families, Monica & Kevin request the honor of your presence as they join hands in marriage." Or something similar. Everyone was totally ok with not being named.
You could just use something very generic
"The honor of your presence is requested at the marriage of
Bridgett & Josh"

This way no one is listed and no one in partiular is purposely not listed. This is basically what we did and it worked out beautifully.

We are also having them returned to our house (with both of our names on the return envelope so everyone knows we already live together. Sinners!!!)

sbolger17 · February 2011

I agree with Kara. Check with your parents and if they don't care, use the "together with their parents" thing. But I also think it's fine to just have your parents' names on it. After all, that's the traditional way. Also think it's fine for reply cards to go to you; I've seen it done that way a lot.

Our wedding is paid for by everyone but we're planning to list both sets of parents' names after our own. I feel weird because my mom's address is going on ours plus on the reply cards as well! I would much rather have them come from/go to us since we're planning everything and she lives far away, but we're moving over the summer and are not quite sure of addresses yet. So I made her promise that she'll update me every few days! :-)

DondadaTimes2 · February 2011

Thanks ladies! If my parents dpnt care I have a whole new quote to start it with that doesnt name anyone, so Im gunna ask tomorrow.

Sarah, good luck with the move and everything. Id be so sad not having them come to me.

kevinandmonica2011 · February 2011

Yeah Sarah!! Good luck!
I would totally freak out if they weren't coming right to my little paws. I am too much of a control freak to trust someone else with that. lol

Bridgett- can't wait to hear how it turns out... keep us posted!

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