Mutley

jeanacorina · January 2010

How are you? How's Mutley Jr? What's new with the puppy?

MUST KNOW!

**Mutley** · January 2010

Hiya!
I am wiped out. Last week was hell. I had to have an emergency root canal on Thursday (pain started on NYE.) I am very lucky to have in-laws in the medical community. They were able to get me on antibiotics that day. Plus get an rx for vicodin so that I could sleep through the night (and get that all cleared by an OB.) I was in such immense pain that I woke up crying most nights and ended up taking the vicodin. I hated taking it but the OB said that it was better for me to not be so stressed out. Turns out that I was in so much pain because my nerve was exposed. The dentist was amazed that I was not living on vicodin 24/7. The whole procedure was so much more 'fun' due to not being able to have anything with epinephrine. It took them 3 rounds and about 30 pokes to get me numb.

I am still catching up on sleep. I was already so fatigued that 7 nights with less than 6 hours/night killed me. Luckily, I can lounge around all day and sleep when the feeling hits me.

My 'morning' sickness got 10 times worse yesterday. DH is getting me a supposesd 'magical' cure on his way home today. We'll see. I keep reminding myself that those with morning sickness are significantly less likely to miscarry.

Positive news!
We got to see our little bean earlier than normal due to my dental issue. I had to see the OB to get cleared for the procedure and she did an ultrasound. All is exactly as it should be.

My best friend and I had a heart-to-heart on Saturday night. She and her FI came to our place for dinner. She got drunk and let it all out. She admitted that she is afraid I am going to drop her as a friend because she may never have kids. Me getting pregnant hit a raw nerve for her because she isn't sure if she ever wants them and her FI obviously does. They had tabled the conversation until they are 30 and she is really scared that she won't want kids. So me getting pregnant brought all of her insecurities to life.

The new puppy has adjusted well. He is almost sleeping through the night!!! We are transitioning him to his crate this weekend. Right now, he sleeps in the bathroom because a lot of the literature I read said to not start crating until he is 8 weeks. Zoe thinks he is her own play thing. Klaus has already started 'little sibling syndrome.' He taunts her over and over and when she acts on it, he runs between our legs.

PIP is NOT working. I will AW pictures of both mutts as soon as it is.

**Mutley** · January 2010

Puppy paw

At the lake - Klaus only got put down to go to the bathroom. Zoe thought it was the best place ever. She had never been to fresh water and was soo happy to be able to drink it. Plus as much as she loved going to the beach in SD, she was not a big fan of the waves... and here no waves.

His stuffed animal

"Look Mom, we're being nice."

Zoe, "So this is what my life has become."

Ana_2985 · January 2010

I'm glad you got your tooth taken care of and sorted things out with your friend.

Klaus is so cute! What kind of dog did you say he was?

I hope your miracle cure works. My sister had the world's easiest pregnancy, I was starting to think maybe I would have kids. But maybe she was just really lucky. Anyway, good luck- hope you feel better! The morning sickness isn't supposed to last the whole pregnancy right?

notquiteblushing · January 2010

I'm glad you had a talk with your friend. I actually just read a book that touches on the subject of one friend not wanting kids and feeling left out, it's called Baby Proof, it was really good.

Suck about the root canal, jeez what a crappy time for that to happen. But from what I hear morning sickness goes away in the second trimester so just a few more weeks of crappy. Kids reallly make you work for it though, yikes.

Feel better and post an ultrasound pic as soon as you get one!

jeanacorina · January 2010

Hey! Glad to hear baby and puppy are doing well, sorry about the root canal! Major suckage!

It's awesome you got to see the little ball of miracle a bit early.

And, Ana-- there are no guarantees about sickness and nausea going away later in pregnancy (I'm sure Mutley already knows, she seems to have done her homework!). Some women stay nauseous the whole time, some never have morning sickness at all. Just depends on you and the baby. Some women have no morning sickness with their first pregnancy, and get it bad for their second. Or vice versa.

No promises, dear.

Button5807 · January 2010

I don't know anyone who's having an easy pregnancy right now everyone has constant morning sickness or other issues. I feel just awful for them but it certainly helps keep any baby fever I might have in check.

Ana_2985 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mutley-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:55b846f6-9b34-4415-8043-0cb2321df5cbPost:8159c9c4-7b0f-46de-b151-eb051e69b1b5">Re: **Mutley**</a>:
[QUOTE]And, Ana-- there are no guarantees about sickness and nausea going away later in pregnancy (I'm sure Mutley already knows, she seems to have done her homework!). Some women stay nauseous the whole time, some never have morning sickness at all. Just depends on you and the baby. Some women have no morning sickness with their first pregnancy, and get it bad for their second. Or vice versa. No promises, dear.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Way to be a bubble-burster Jeana.

**Mutley** · January 2010

Haha. She didn't burst my bubble. I am well aware that it could last the whole time. My SIL didn't have any the 1st time around, but she does this time. We suffered together yesterday.

We get to hear the heartbeat 2 weeks from Wednesday, so I will post an ultrasound pictures after that appointment.

jeanacorina · January 2010

Trust me, Ana, when you want to have a baby, morning sickness seems like just another necessary evil.

Like.... taxes.

But, seriously. Pregnancy is a BFD (big friggin' deal). And I can't wait to see ultrasound pics!

Pardon me while I live vicariously through Mutley and remind myself to enjoy my non-motherhood while it lasts. In about two years, it'll be baby-making time... and that kinda scares the bajeezus out of me-- but in a good way!

Button5807 · January 2010

I think it's sweet that Mutley has someone to suffer with. lol

I will not get baby fever I will not get baby fever I will not get baby fever ;-)

Ana_2985 · January 2010

Haha I know Mutley I meant my bubble.

Good luck with the next ultrasound- it's really exciting! When the time comes later on, do you think you'll want to find out the baby's sex? Keep us posted!

PaigeMcC · January 2010

Root canals SUCK!! But atleast you got to check in on baby. Glad to hear everything is going well - your dogs are ADORABLE!!

Acrosthec · January 2010

Puppies are adorable! Glad you talked with your friend. I never wanted kids until my best friend had one. Now I can't wait to have children with FI. We're both planning to start trying shortly after getting married. :-) Perhaps once you have your child, your friend will catch the baby fever and all will be well.

Here's hoping your DH's miracle cure works! I hate being sick. I can't imagine 9 months of it. Ugh.

**Mutley** · January 2010

We will be finding out the sex. I will probably be going overboard on the nursery.

desertsun · January 2010

I have some serious puppy envy. He's just perfect, Mutley.

Sorry about your craptastic week last week. But at least you got to see the little bean early! Can't wait for more updates. Tell us every disgusting/adorable detail, okay? Pregnancy is the most terrifying/awesome thing, and I'm so not ready for at least a few more years. But it's good to hear about other people's experiences.

Thanks for sharing!

Are things okay with your friend? You didn't really tell us what you said to her in response to her concerns.

Acrosthec · January 2010

I saw a really neat idea on my baker's blog, actually, if you want to steal it. The parents-to-be hosted a dinner for both sets of parents and had a cake made. They took the results, in a sealed envelope, to the baker and told the baker to make the cake blue for a boy or pink for a girl, with yellow icing or green icing or whatever other gender neutral color they wanted. Then when the parents-to-be cut into the cake, it was a happy surprised for everyone as they all found out the sex at the same time.

Just an idea I thought was cute. You may want to know before your and DH's parents, but thought I'd throw it out there just in case. :-)

Button5807 · January 2010

Acro that's so adorable!
I'm going to pass it along to my pregnant friends.

**Mutley** · January 2010

Desert, things are okay with her, or they will be.

She said that it is all about her and her fears and unrealistic expectations she set up for moving to the West coast. She dreamed we would see each other every weekend, go out, live it up, etc. In actuality, we live about 2 hours away from each other. While that is closer than her being on the other side of the country, it isn't exactly hang out together on a whim close. Throw in the fact that DH and I moved here because we were done with the big city lifestyle. Plus DH travels during the week, working a lot of 17 hour days, so the last thing we want to do is go anywhere on the weekend. They are at a different point in their lives. They JUST moved away from where they grew up and are finally living in a big city away from everyone they know. DH and I did that when we were 18. We've lived in many different places and have had to start over in new cities several times. We are ready to settle down. Our perfect weekend is making dinner together on Friday night, watching a movie on the couch, going to Home Depot, watching college football, taking the dogs to the lake, etc. It is rare we stay up past 11. The last thing either one of us wants to do on a weekend is deal with driving into the city, the traffic, the parking, all of it. DH's blood pressure literally rises when we start getting closer. So while we will come into the city every so often, it will probably be more like every other month.

She is scared that because we are at very different points in our lives, soon we won't be friends. I pointed out that we have often been in different points in lives but our friendship always survives. We've gone through periods of not talking, hating each other's SO's, etc but no matter what we were always there for each other. We always had our friendship.

She is VERY freaked out about the whole kids-uncertainty thing. I was very honest and told her that she needed to figure it out before she gets married. She asked me what I thought of her relationship. I told her that my biggest concern is that he worships her too much and that leaves things out of balance. He is too concerned with making her happy that he forgets about himself and I don't think that is healthy for a long term relationship. I also told her that I understand why she would chose someone like that. I said that I know he will never do her harm, that he will love her till the cows come home, but that doesn't mean that him doing that will always make her happy. He lets her make all of the important decisions. While at our house, he flat out said that having kids is her call. I recommended that she have a very frank conversation with him and tell him that he needs to be honest with himself as to whether he is okay with never having kids if that is what she figures out later.

**Mutley** · January 2010

Acro, that idea might work. I was trying to figure out a cute way to tell our parents the sex. It so happens that they may all be together right after we find out. His parents are invited to my friend's wedding in MD, and I will be right around 20 weeks at that point.

Button5807 · January 2010

Mutley if you don't mind me asking how did you tell them you were pregnant?

"How we told our parents" have been some of the most amusing stories to come out of pretty much everyone I know making babies.

**Mutley** · January 2010

Well, my parents live 3000 miles away. I had promised to send them pictures of our house and all of the Christmas decorations. I took a bunch of pictures of the outside of our house, lights, everything. I took some of the inside with our stockings and table setting.
I called them up to talk and told them that they had to check their email to see the pictures. They were being difficult, but I insisted that they (mom, dad, and bro) all go look at that moment. I said they wanted to see the pictures, so I wanted to hear their reactions. Then, I told them that I had forgotten a picture.

(Don't mind the blurry quality or our end of the day look)

The sign says "Due in September."

My dad was very confused, since he didn't have his glasses on. My mom got all excited and kept saying "Really?" My brother said "Sh!t, that wasn't long!" They were very, very happy.

To tell his mom and step-dad, we invited them out for dinner. I left it up to DH to tell them. His mom was going on about how great it was to have us nearby to just go for dinner in the middle of the week and how happy she is that we are close. DH went "It is really great that we are nearby because your 3rd grandchild is really going to need it." Both of them gasped in shock. It was priceless. Then, his mom started crying with happiness. His stepdad kept saying "I knew you guys had a reason for going out to dinner in the middle of the week." His mom was so excited that it took her 15 minutes to order. They had been dropping not so subtle hints that they would be overjoyed if we added to the grandchild clan soon.

Apparently, our moms had a conversation the morning after our wedding in regards to how quickly it would happen. His mom said probably last night. Way to go, MIL! Eekkk. We told them that would have been the case if we didn't want to ensure that insurance wouldn't consider it a pre-existing condition. LOL.

Button5807 · January 2010

that's awesome!

desertsun · January 2010

Mutley, I think what you told her about her relationship/kids is exactly why we need true, close female friends. It helps to have someone tell us what we need to hear, but do it in a way that we feel supported and not criticized. I can see why she feels anxious about the future, but it sounds like you reassured her. I'm glad you guys are okay.

I LOVE the picture pregnancy reveal. Great idea! And the fact that his mom and stepdad are so overjoyed is sooo nice. It's such a wonderful feeling, when you're superexcited for something, to have the people you care about also be truly happy and excited.

I'm really happy that you come and share your post-wedding life with all of us on this board.

Mutley

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