I suppose I could post this in the WTF thread, but this is going to be long (sorry) and I didn't want it to take up space there. A little background on FMIL:
She's been married and divorced twice. First divorce was to FI's dad over 10 years ago because he cheated on her with a woman 17 years younger than him and then left her. She's super jaded about it and so bitter and still hasn't gotten over it. She hates him and his wife.
She lives alone and doesn't have a friend in the world. Her dogs are her children, company, everything. She's cut herself off from all her old coworker friends, doesn't keep in touch with her family except her mother who lives 3 hours away. Basically she's a hippie hermit that is miserable and hates her life.
She HATES that her son is getting married. Not just to me, but to anyone. I'm not kidding, and it is blatently obvious. All she has done is complain about everything WR. She hates our venue the most, which makes no sense to anyone. We're getting married on this farm with beautiful gardens everywhere, and the woman loves to garden. Her complaints: it's too hot, too far away (half hr for her), and too over the top. WTF.
Fast forward to my shower this weekend. My aunts came up with this game where every guest gets a note card to write their advice to me about love and marriage. I get a card back that says "don't cheat on your spouse," unsigned. I show it to FI later and he confirms that it's his mom's handwriting. She also complained and refused to participate in another shower game that was essentially a roast of me, but she somehow turned it around and said it made her son look silly. Who knows.
So I need help. Or maybe I needed to vent. We have no relationship whatsoever right now, and her behavior is getting worse the closer we get to July 7th.
