Wedding Woes

How much drama can one cram into one post?

From TIP:

Desperately Need to Vent and Advice Would Be Awesome!


So, this is my story.  My husband and I were married when I was 18 and he was 35.  After 6yrs of marriage I left him and divorced him because I was always home alone and he was always out drinking and enjoying his life, I had suspicions of him cheating but was never able to find evidence. 

He married someone else and had a child and after 8yrs of being apart he left his wife and told me he did so because he still loved me and wanted to be with me.  I dated him for a year to make sure we were both where we needed to be in the relationship and we were so we got re-married and have been together ever since with our son whom is now in college. 

Everything was fine until September 26, the day before our 2nd wedding anniversary when his niece approached me to tell me that her brother's girlfriend had told her that my husband stopped by her home to visit her (she lives alone and is his nephew's on/off girlfriend) and that while she was making coffee for him he tried to kiss her and told her he wanted to be with her and that she immediately kicked him out of her house and told him how dare he and that she would never do that to his nephew or to me. 

I was devastated and especially the day before our 2nd re-anniversary.  We had a huge fight and I was not speaking to him and was going to leave him, but later that same week I received the news from my doctor that I had breast cancer and they would need to do a double mastectomy and that they had found cancer in my ovaries as well and they would need to do a hysterectomy as well.  It was a devastating week for me and the weeks to follow were worse as the surgeries came, the treatments, complications from the surgeries and depression.  I did not have time to digest the whole situation and he did stay by my side and was there with me at the hospital everyday and sleeping in a chair to be by my side and has done everything possible to make me feel loved and help me through. 

Now that I am better I am able to begin analyzing what happened and I am so confused, I don't know if I can trust him again and don't know if I can stay with him but then he has been there for me now when I needed him the most and I do love him.  Please give me your thoughts.
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Re: How much drama can one cram into one post?

  • tawillerstawillers member
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    edited December 2011

    Please tell me I'm not the only one who can't keep the people/ages/timeline of this straight.

  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    taw, i am trying to do the maths, too.  she would be 42, yes?

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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    I need a diagram.
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    What is there to know?  He's a huge jerk and ahole.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't believe any of this for a second.

    Also: I would gladly give up my boobs and my ute. If she wants mine, she can have them. I'm done. 
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011

    Agreed. That timeline doesn't work out. She omitted about 10 or 15 years in the middle.

    But yikes at all of that! I should have quit reading at "18 and 35." 

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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I estimated her age to be 36, assuming her cancer treatments lasted about a year.
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  • MrsMyrtleMrsMyrtle member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm all sorts of cornfuzzled by this. She's like the tragedy version of Penelope - I keep expecting her to say, "And then I gave birth to my cat."
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_much-drama-canone-cram-one-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:6d2315e8-3d23-414f-b6ab-217c1050348aPost:2720723d-4c23-4056-b62a-8d02c061a84a">Re: How much drama can one cram into one post?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm all sorts of cornfuzzled by this. She's like the tragedy version of Penelope - I keep expecting her to say, "And then I gave birth to my cat."
    Posted by MrsMyrtle[/QUOTE]
    FTW. 
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  • dharmabunnydharmabunny member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm ready to call BS on this myself.  I'm just not buying the simultaneous breast and ovarian cancer.  Sounds so Lifetime movie.  I'm not even going to bother with the timeline.

    Should have stopped at the age difference.   Just as one man was spilling his seed to conceive the OP, her future DH was likely spilling his seed on a girlie mag hidden under his mattress.
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  • L_WoodsL_Woods member
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    edited December 2011
    So do they celebrate the first and second anniversaries? If not why bother with the stupid re-anniversary monicre? (I can't spell, deal).
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    Moniker. That one's tough. 
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