Music: must play & do not play...

Re: Music: must play & do not play...

• ssage member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  Our DJ made some of it easy as he listed a bunch of the "typical wedding songs" (you know, chicken dance and all that) and then we had to check off dont play, must play, dont care or things like that. 
  
  I didn't put too many on the must play....a handful of songs that were meaningful to us (Sweet Home Alabama, Can't getenough of your love, Hootie, etc)....after a few converstaions and my responses to the types of music section (like, don't like, things like that) he knew what we wanted to hear and he did an excellent job.  People danced from dinner to the end.  All ages too...It worked out perfectly.and we also said he could take requestes if people wanted.
  
  I do remember having Butterfly Kisses also on my don't play as well as any other songs that have to do with fathers and daugthers (my dad died, now, 6+ years ago) and I didn't want the reminder.

  

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• kristinanddan member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I can't find my final do not play list, but I know it included:
  
  ALL group dances, KC & the Sunshine Band - Do a Little Dance, The Weather Girls - It's Raining Men, Gloria Gaynor - I will Survive, Kool and the Gang - Celebration, Baha Men - Who Let the Dogs Out, Wang Chung - Everybody (Have Fun Tonight), Bryan Adams, Meatloaf (especially Paradise by the Dashboard Light - YUCK), Aerosmith, Billy Idol - Mony Mony, The B52s - Love Shack, Shook me All Night Long, Baby Got Back, all rap, Cotton Eye Joe, Donna Summer - Last Dance, Brick House
  
  I can't find our Must Play List for the life of me, but I know that it included the Humpty Dance (EVERYONE did "The Carlton" from Fresh Prince of Bel Air), Frank Sinatra's New York New York as the last song of the night, Brown Eyed Girl, Eric Clapton's Wonderful Tonight, Don't Stop Believin - Journey, Livin on a Prayer - Bon Jovi, Michael Jackson
  
  
  
  

  

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• Riss91 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  We told our DJ that under no circumstances should he play: CELINE DION
  BETTE MIDLER
  BARBRA STREISAND
  COUNTRY
  AMERICAN IDOL
  BARRY MANILO
  KENNY G
  BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN
  GLORIA ESTEFAN
  It's Raining Men
  We Are Family	Sister Sledge
  Girls Just Wanna Have Fun	Cindi Lauper
  MEATLOAF
  R. KELLY
  LINDA RONSTADT
  AARON NEVILLE
  WHITNEY HOUSTON
  Don't Wanna Miss a Thing	Aerosmith
  DISCO (Other than those listed)
  BARRY WHITE
  DONNA SUMMER
  BEE GEES
  She's a Brick House
  LUTHER VANDROSS
  PHIL COLINS
  KENNY ROGERS
  Butterfly Kisses
  ROD STEWART
  VAN MORRISON
  SHANIA TWAIN
  LONESTAR
  BRYAN ADAMS
  FAITH HILL
  LIONEL RITCHIE
  SAVAG GARDEN
  Brown Eyed Girl
  Brick House	Commodores
  RASCAL FLATTS
  YMCA
  ORGANIZED DANCES
  JIMMY BUFFET
  I Will Survive
  Cha Cha Slide
  Electric Slide
  Hokey Pokey
  Chicken Dance
  Heartland
  Macarena
  MADONNA
  ABBA
  98 Degrees
  TECHNO/HOUSE

  
  

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• LessThanZero

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I haven't focused too much on the playlists yet but I will be soon.
  
  Our DJ has a very comprehensive system online where we can customize everything and it actually makes it more difficult at times because I have too many choices. : )
  
  I know I don't want any of the macarena, chicken dance, or conga lines.
  
  As for must play songs, we'll probably come up with a list of about 20 and let the DJ do the rest.
  

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• kristinanddan member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_music-must-play-not-play?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:113Discussion:4ab44873-dddc-449d-ad3a-543a02f3b225Post:1dea9ef2-e2e6-4a6f-920b-6a675671c33a">Re: Music: must play & do not play...</a>:
  [QUOTE]I haven't focused too much on the playlists yet but I will be soon. Our DJ has a very comprehensive system online where we can customize everything and it actually makes it more difficult at times because I have too many choices. : ) I know I don't want any of the macarena, chicken dance, or conga lines. <strong>As for must play songs, we'll probably come up with a list of about 20 and let the DJ do the rest.</strong>
  Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]
  
  Definitely this. We went to a wedding a few years ago where the couple listed every single song the dj played . It was awful, there was no flow and a lot of the songs couldn't really be danced to very well (at least by people like me with little dancing ability). A good dj knows how to transition to get everyone on the dancefloor and keep them there.

  

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• Riss91 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree - though our "do not play list" was kind of long, we had a very short "must play" list. You don't want to constrict the DJ too much. Ours did an awesome job (though our crowd doesn't need much encouragement). Same with photographers - if you give them a list of 100 shots they have to take, you're preventing them from being creative.

  
  

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• Shari16

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_music-must-play-not-play?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:113Discussion:4ab44873-dddc-449d-ad3a-543a02f3b225Post:904d3171-ca90-428c-9bd7-136ac7029adb">Re: Music: must play & do not play...</a>:
  [QUOTE]I agree - though our "do not play list" was kind of long, we had a very short "must play" list. <strong>You don't want to constrict the DJ too much.</strong> Ours did an awesome job (though our crowd doesn't need much encouragement). Same with photographers - if you give them a list of 100 shots they have to take, you're preventing them from being creative.
  Posted by Riss91[/QUOTE]
  
  Absolutely. My must play list is pretty short, but my do not play list is very long. I'm glad I posted about it though because there are songs that I hate that I couldn't think of when making the list.
  I made an additional list of artists that we like so that he knows our taste in music, but I didn't want to put it on the must play list because I want him to do what he feels is best throughout the course of the night.
  Thanks for the input!
  p.s. I hate hate hate We are Family, and of course my FMIL made a point of saying that if she could just pick one song to hear that would be it. Oh man... haha

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• Riss91 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  It's good to have a do not play list, bc your guests may run up to the DJ and give him a hard time about not playing their requested song....then he can just point to the list! It happened at both mine and my sister's weddings. Guests wanting songs that we HATED (You've lost that lovin' feeling.....UGH longest song ever! and annoying if it doesn't have special meaning to you)

  
  

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• kristinanddan member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_music-must-play-not-play?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:113Discussion:4ab44873-dddc-449d-ad3a-543a02f3b225Post:1f363a51-83c2-4d2e-b679-b09f06b570c4">Re: Music: must play & do not play...</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Music: must play & do not play... : Absolutely. My must play list is pretty short, but my do not play list is very long. I'm glad I posted about it though because there are songs that I hate that I couldn't think of when making the list. I made an additional list of artists that we like so that he knows our taste in music, but I didn't want to put it on the must play list because I want him to do what he feels is best throughout the course of the night. Thanks for the input! <strong>p.s. I hate hate hate We are Family, and of course my FMIL made a point of saying that if she could just pick one song to hear that would be it. Oh man... haha</strong>
  Posted by Shari16[/QUOTE]
  I hate it too - it was on our do not paly list. I bet if the dj never plays it she won't miss it.
  
  Case in point: My mom was absolutely APPALLED at the thought that we didn't want any group dances - no chicken dance, no electric slide, none of that crap. We asked her after the wedding and she didn't even notice that we didn't have any of that played.

  

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• bfernz

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_music-must-play-not-play?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:113Discussion:4ab44873-dddc-449d-ad3a-543a02f3b225Post:c19086bd-0ad2-47aa-aa39-76a9e2037830">Re: Music: must play & do not play...</a>:
  [QUOTE]I can't find my final do not play list, but I know it included: ALL group dances, KC & the Sunshine Band - Do a Little Dance, The Weather Girls - It's Raining Men, Gloria Gaynor - I will Survive, Kool and the Gang - Celebration, Baha Men - Who Let the Dogs Out, Wang Chung - Everybody (Have Fun Tonight), Bryan Adams, Meatloaf (especially Paradise by the Dashboard Light - YUCK), Aerosmith, Billy Idol - Mony Mony, The B52s - Love Shack, Shook me All Night Long, Baby Got Back, all rap, Cotton Eye Joe, Donna Summer - Last Dance, Brick House I can't find our <strong>Must Play List for the life of me, but I know that it included the Humpty Dance (EVERYONE did "The Carlton" from Fresh Prince of Bel Air),</strong> Frank Sinatra's New York New York as the last song of the night, Brown Eyed Girl, Eric Clapton's Wonderful Tonight, Don't Stop Believin - Journey, Livin on a Prayer - Bon Jovi, Michael Jackson
  Posted by kristinanddan[/QUOTE]
  
  Lol-Humpty Dance was also on our Must Play and people went nuts.
  <p class="MsoNormal"><strong><u>Do Not Play:</u></strong></p> <p class="MsoNormal">B52s</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Baby got back</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Electric Slide/ Macarena/Mambo #5</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Prince</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Grease</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Aqua-Barbie girl</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Cotton Eye Joe</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Chicken Dance</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Paradise by the Dashboard lights</p> <p class="MsoNormal">YMCA</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Billy Idol</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Brick House</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Lady Marmalade</p>

  

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• ssage member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-york-hudson-valley_music-must-play-not-play?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:113Discussion:4ab44873-dddc-449d-ad3a-543a02f3b225Post:1f363a51-83c2-4d2e-b679-b09f06b570c4">Re: Music: must play & do not play...</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Music: must play & do not play... : Absolutely. My must play list is pretty short, but my do not play list is very long. I'm glad I posted about it though because there are songs that I hate that I couldn't think of when making the list. I made an additional list of artists that we like so that he knows our taste in music, but I didn't want to put it on the must play list because I want him to do what he feels is best throughout the course of the night. Thanks <strong>for the input! p.s. I hate hate hate We are Family, and of course my FMIL made a point of saying that if she could just pick one song to hear that would be it. Oh man... haha
  </strong>Posted by Shari16[/QUOTE]
  
  And that is when you inform you dj that in no way do you want those songs.  He won't anyway play them if you put them on the do not play.
  
  And i agree with kristin and riss that a good dj will do the trasition correctly and I also do not like people that make a huge must play list.  I was in a friend's wedding a few years ago and it was the WORST music ever.  I heard that during my wedding, her husband said "that music is a little progressive"  WHAT? 

  

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• carolburnett member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  we are not professional DJs and therefore we should not give our DJs huge lists of songs 'we' like - what about our guests??
  we do not know what our guests like otherwise we would all tell them to eat Beef!
  avoid the cheesy songs yes but giving a DJ a huge list of songs we the bride and groom like is a recipe for disaster;
  I went to a wedding a few years ago where the bride and groom had a ipod jacked into a sound system...what a total mess!
  No DJ and no MC to make announcements - it was a shambles!
  I felt embarrassed for the bride and groom!
  we were sitting having dinner and this rock music came on blasting as they had not timed the play list right...the best man ran over stopped the music and there was no music for about 15 minutes because he could not make it work right after drinking so much beer and the sound from this sound system was dreadful, the microphone they used kept squealing and .ugh what a disaster!!

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