My wedding date is 8/18/13. I asked my (older and married) sister to be my MOH when I got engaged. She said yes, albeit with less than anticipated excitement (didn't sound OMG OVERJOYED but *did* sound happy).
Problem is, she is constantly telling me that I better not become a bridezilla. When I told her I wanted her and my bridesmaid to carry paper chinese style parasols instead of flowers (outdoor afternoon wedding in August? Hello heat and mega sun) she burst out laughing. She said she would wear anything provided we had lots of booze...we're having a dry wedding (we don't drink, neither do most of our friends and many of our family)...she kept saying just get wine for the toasts...one per table etc. I told her it's a $100 fee for alcohol license at the venue (outdoor and municipal property), and if she wanted to pay for the fee and the alcohol be my guest.
She is complaining about the wedding she is going to this weekend (her hubby's brother) and how she had to pay for his outfit (grey pants, white shirt, white belt...how expensive is that?? Seriously??) but then went and shelled out $140 on alcohol for themselves for three days.
She has shown NO interest in anything for my wedding (sure, it's a year away but there are things I have to do soon) and only ever complains about weddings in general. I understand she has two kids (8 and 4) and an intense job, but at the same time, this is her only sister's wedding...at her wedding, she only had a MOH and instead of me doing her hair and makeup as planned, she let her MOH step in last minute...all I ended up doing was pressing play on the cd player when she walked down the aisle (tiny wedding in the common room of their condo building).
She keeps saying I better not be a bridezilla...my wedding is going to be pretty simple...bbq reception at the wedding site, family style long tables with bbq buffet. We are blessed to have friends and family who are caterers, bakers, photographers, so we won't be spending an incredible amount of money and I was going to pay for her dress and my bridesmaid's dress (simple coordinating sujndresses) and shoes (sandals). I don't expect or want a huge bachelorette party (was thinking she and my BM and I going for pedi's and then dinner with friends).
I asked her because she is the closest female relationship I have besides my mom...and even at that, we're not super duper close. Would I be horrible to tell her she is no longer needed and then ask my best guy friend to be my man of honor?
