Where are all my Polish ladies??

goetzr19 · June 2010

Is anyone out there doing a dollar dance? If so, what song(s) are you playing?

quotequeen · June 2010

I am half Polish and my Polish family has never had a dollar dance at any wedding I have ever been to. Don't blame all Polish people for this "tradition."

preciosa4 · June 2010

We aren't having one, but in years past, I've been to weddings that have had one. I'd be careful doing one though unless it is a strong family tradition and your guests are familiar with it. (People can get pretty hot about it when it isn't part of their tradition...and sometimes when it is.) All I can say for music, if you will be doing it, is pick something upbeat and fun...

zobogo · June 2010

the dollar dance is a tradition in my family. we are playing the traditional polka for the dollar dance "Pani Mloda".

pandasquishy · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_polish-ladies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:0f7462da-524e-4ef8-a417-ad6f3a798ce5Post:ae289f58-e1eb-4593-9e4a-7d394b92d92a">Re: Where are all my Polish ladies??</a>:
[QUOTE]I am half Polish and my Polish family has never had a dollar dance at any wedding I have ever been to. Don't blame all Polish people for this "tradition."
Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]

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zobogo · June 2010

i've never heard of the grand march either - hopefully you can find video of it or attend a family wedding where its done before your wedding comes. it may be a polish tradition but that doesnt make it a family tradition just because you are polish - if its not your family tradition i don't see the point in having it.
we are sticking with the traditional polka for the dollar dance because after all i've read i'm honestly afraid to offend my fiance's family because they never have dollar dances at their weddings. at least with the polka they will know its a family tradition (not that i ever would consider anything besides pani mloda because it just wouldn't be as fun & would take away from the tradition!)
my fiance was iffy about the idea (found it offensive as do many people) until we recently attended my cousin's wedding - once he heard the music & joined in he loved how energetic it was & the togetherness it created. honestly when its a family tradition that's what it about - every wedding i've ever been to i've never thought about the money aspect of it, its just tradition & attending a wedding without it would feel like something was missing. besides you aren't refused a dance if you don't have a dollar!!!
i do understand how people can be offended by it but i think that should be reserved for those who are literally "choosing" to have a dollar dance to make money - we have it for the atmosphere it creates & it has been a part of our family for many many generations. also for our dance, the maid of honor holds the bride's veil in a makeshift pouch to collect the money - i've never seen the dollar's pinned to the bride's dress as i've read about on this website.

goetzr19 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_polish-ladies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:0f7462da-524e-4ef8-a417-ad6f3a798ce5Post:53fbcefc-efb5-416e-86c4-b47d43ed02a8">Re: Where are all my Polish ladies??</a>:
[QUOTE]i've never heard of the grand march either - hopefully you can find video of it or attend a family wedding where its done before your wedding comes. it may be a polish tradition but that doesnt make it a family tradition just because you are polish - if its not your family tradition i don't see the point in having it. we are sticking with the traditional polka for the dollar dance because after all i've read i'm honestly afraid to offend my fiance's family because they never have dollar dances at their weddings. at least with the polka they will know its a family tradition (not that i ever would consider anything besides pani mloda because it just wouldn't be as fun & would take away from the tradition!) my fiance was iffy about the idea (found it offensive as do many people) until we recently attended my cousin's wedding - once he heard the music & joined in he loved how energetic it was & the togetherness it created. honestly when its a family tradition that's what it about - every wedding i've ever been to i've never thought about the money aspect of it, its just tradition & attending a wedding without it would feel like something was missing. <strong>besides you aren't refused a dance if you don't have a dollar!!!</strong> <strong>i do understand how people can be offended by it but i think that should be reserved for those who are literally "choosing" to have a dollar dance to make money - </strong>we have it for the atmosphere it creates & it has been a part of our family for many many generations. also for our dance, the maid of honor holds the bride's veil in a makeshift pouch to collect the money - i've never seen the dollar's pinned to the bride's dress as i've read about on this website.
Posted by zobogo[/QUOTE]

It's sad that some people DO a dollar dance for just the money. We are doing it mostly as a family tradition for my side of the family. Usually the grandparents give money, along with close relatives, but others usually just come up to dance which is fine with me. I look at the "dollar dance" as more of a way to have a fun dance with guests in a short time--such as my FI's groomsmen---some of them I am not super close to, but I like them and I wanna have a chance to closely interact with them at the wedding. It doesn't matter to me at the wedding. I'd rather have them write a good wish and drop it in a box as "admittance" to come dance with me!

zobogo · June 2010

i absolutely 100% agree with you! good luck with all your plans - from one Polish bride to another!

RebeccaB88 · June 2010

We will not be doing one.

LeahDVM2003 · June 2010

I remember my cousins having a kissing dance at a wedding when I was small (in the early 70's). Perhaps that is the Grand March? Basically, the bride and groom faced each other, holding hands above their heads to make an arch. The MOH and best man went through, exchanging kisses w/ the bride/groom, then joined the arch. The rest of the bridal party followed in a similar manner, including the ringbearer and flower girl, who stood on chairs. Then all the guests went through, the women kissing the all the men, and vice versa. The men stood on one side, holding hands with a woman on the other side to make one long tunnel/arch. When each guest reached the end, they joined the arch. Finally, after the last guest, the bride and groom went down the entire arch. I've never seen it since, and don't plan to have it myself.

Kroliczku · June 2010

Im not planning a wedding- but I was stalking through the different boards and found this post. This has been done at most of the weddings I've attended, but as another put it: The dollars weren't pinned to the bride's dress- I've seen ti collected in the brides veil, and once even in the brides SHOES! If it's a well known tradition within your group of family/friends, it goes over very well!

beatavic · June 2010

I`m Polish and MF isn`t and we are not doing a dollar dance. I don`t like that idea at all. My sister got married two years in Poland and she included that in her wedding. I think it was ok but I don`t want that on my wedding.
I`m glad to hear from some Polish girls thought because as my wedding gets closer I will probably have some questions to you guys:)) Hope I can count on you;))

Thanks
Beata

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