First Dance

Re: First Dance

• Peavy member

  

  January 2013

  Two things:
  
  First, you and your FI might want to take some dance lessons so you will be comfortable dancing.  It's a lot of fun, it's good exercise, and it's and something you can do together.  You may even come to enjoy it!  Check out community colleges and rec centers for group dance lessons in your area.  When you are comfortable dancing, that will ease some of your anxiety.
  
  For your actual first dance, you don't have do dance the entire song by yourselves.  The DJ can ask everyone to join you on the dance floor at whatever point in the song that you choose.

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• mcda04 member

  

  January 2013

  I also don't like all eyes on me so we did half the song or maybe even less. quickly afterwards, we did a moms half song but the BP stayed on the dance floor with us and my girls goofed off to makes us look a little more at ease. I will add though that while you're on the dance floor and people are laughing, talking, cheering, clapping, etc... you don't notice at all. I'm glad we had one.

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• MRSreadcomicbooks member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_first-dance-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:9367016a-3181-40a3-95ee-1666c28a615ePost:b69f260b-cad3-4e61-b5bf-2049e4eb8292">Re: First Dance</a>:
  [QUOTE]We aren't big dancers, so we didn't want our dancing to be the focus for more than a minute. We talked with the photographer and DJ to coordinate getting some nice pictures of us dancing and then wrapping it up. The photographer let the DJ know when he got a few good shots, and we let the DJ knew when we had had enough dancing.
  Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]
  I will remember this for sure. I would like to get photos of it but I definitely don't want it to go on forever. Thanks!

  

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• MRSreadcomicbooks member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_first-dance-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:9367016a-3181-40a3-95ee-1666c28a615ePost:e2bbe842-469e-4042-8b57-95c1ecff30e8">Re: First Dance</a>:
  [QUOTE]Two things: First, you and your FI might want to take some dance lessons so you will be comfortable dancing.  It's a lot of fun, it's good exercise, and it's and something you can do together.  You may even come to enjoy it!  Check out community colleges and rec centers for group dance lessons in your area.  When you are comfortable dancing, that will ease some of your anxiety. For your actual first dance, you don't have do dance the entire song by yourselves.  The DJ can ask everyone to join you on the dance floor at whatever point in the song that you choose.
  Posted by Peavy[/QUOTE]
  Neither of us really have any interest in dancing at all.  Honestly I think it's probably something lost on people who aren't very traditional in any aspect, like ourselves. Lessons are something I don't have any interest in whatsoever...especially when I won't be dancing for more than a few minutes tops, and I'm sure my fiance would rather not spend money where it's not really necessary. If I were more into the idea overall I would totally look into lessons...but it doesn't catch my interest at all.

  

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• MRSreadcomicbooks member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_first-dance-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:9367016a-3181-40a3-95ee-1666c28a615ePost:b8b22e23-7b81-44a2-8ab5-d2f40b99c191">Re: First Dance</a>:
  [QUOTE]I also don't like all eyes on me so we did half the song or maybe even less. quickly afterwards, we did a moms half song but the BP stayed on the dance floor with us and my girls goofed off to makes us look a little more at ease. I will add though that while you're on the dance floor and people are laughing, talking, cheering, clapping, etc... you don't notice at all. I'm glad we had one.
  Posted by mcda04[/QUOTE]
  I am thinking there will definitely be drinks to be had beforehand, and I definitely hope our wedding has a really relaxed feel...so that may make it better. I don't want to worry too much about something so silly as a little dance, and I defintiely don't think it will last long, just like yours.

  

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• bunni727 member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  I have a similar situation: I have full blown panic disorder, with agoraphobia. My FI was really the thing that helped me the most,as he would sing along in a goofy voice when he could see I was getting nervous. We also had the dance floor in the middle of the tables, so that not everyone was facing us. Some turned around to watch, but lots of people didn't.
  
  The only way I'd have the WP join you would be if they all had SOs they could dance with. I think maybe inviting all couples to share in your dance or just having the DJ fade out after you get a few pics would be a better approach.
  
  ETA: Social anxiety can be really hard to deal with. Feel free to PM me or something if you want to talk about it.

  

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• MRSreadcomicbooks member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_first-dance-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:9367016a-3181-40a3-95ee-1666c28a615ePost:9540f33e-4e8a-43eb-9abd-0647834e84e6">Re: First Dance</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have a similar situation: I have full blown panic disorder, with agoraphobia. My FI was really the thing that helped me the most,as he would sing along in a goofy voice when he could see I was getting nervous. We also had the dance floor in the middle of the tables, so that not everyone was facing us. Some turned around to watch, but lots of people didn't. The only way I'd have the WP join you would be if they all had SOs they could dance with. I think maybe inviting all couples to share in your dance or just having the DJ fade out after you get a few pics would be a better approach. ETA: Social anxiety can be really hard to deal with. Feel free to PM me or something if you want to talk about it.
  Posted by bunni727[/QUOTE]
  It's definitely something I'm not a stranger to!  I deal with it quite well (I work in retail, so I pretty much have to) but I still have my share of bad days. My wedding may be a tough day, because of course, we'll be the center of attention!

  

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