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Danny&Mel2003Danny&Mel2003 member
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Every time I do something for the wedding regarding a vendor 9 times out of 10 they are saying I'm doing it super early ... yes I know its early but I am a busy one ... I work full time I go to school I travel take care of the grams I have lots going on an its irritating me when I hear it. Granted it was at a recent bridal expo (but still, I kind of see it as rude)

We haven't booked our venue I'm meeting with coordinator this weekend to discuss budget I'm praying they work with us on the $$$ b/c DF loves the place and I would love to just book it now and have everything in stone with the place. I'm so freaking nervous I haven't even mentioned the name to any one except family b/c I don't want to jynx it.

Once the venue is booked were set on food and alcohol they provide that. I'm looking next for DJ's, photographer, videographer and florists, I feel like those are the next big ticket items. I have quite a while but I already feel like time is going by quick. We got engaged in May its freaking mid Jan already I can't even believe its been that long, I feel like it was just yesterday!!!

I also had a wedding nightmare and my friend who got married this past Labor day says its the first many ... I feel overwhelmed and at the same time I feel like I shouldnt be feeling this way so early!!!

Any one else have a wedding nightmare? feel overwhelmed?

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    melb2013melb2013 member
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    Too early??? No you are not! Especially for a venue!  I booked my venue 4 months ago and I didn't have my choice of dates in May 2013.  Maybe it depends on the geographical location though.

    I'm also busy.  The reason we are having a long engagement is because I don't have time plan a wedding in a year.  I needed to have time to slowly plan.  I'd be freaking out too if I were you!

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    Danny&Mel2003Danny&Mel2003 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_early-kinda-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:a1895ad8-e0b9-4364-839a-dbd2043769ccPost:9589f0bb-4e1f-4a9d-9b8f-4de95c470f9d">Re: to early (kinda vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Too early??? No you are not! Especially for a venue!  I booked my venue 4 months ago and I didn't have my choice of dates in May 2013.  Maybe it depends on the geographical location though. I'm also busy.  The reason we are having a long engagement is because I don't have time plan a wedding in a year.  I needed to have time to slowly plan.  I'd be freaking out too if I were you!
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    you see now I feel a little better ... funny enough the venues we've looked at only host one wedding a day so by starting now we get to pick our date and as of right now our 1st choice is holding our date once contract is all drawn up & monies are situtated it'll be set in stone until then I'm still a basket of nerves. FI is glad I'm starting early especially with getting prices so we know how much were saving for this
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    FLGatorGal88FLGatorGal88 member
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    At least you can put down your deposit!!! I cant put my down till March now that I am annoyed about... And I know how you feel when people say you have plenty of time its early but what they don't realize is outside of planning we have other things going on... I hope you get to book your venue this weekend and everything goes as planned... I want to have big checks done by our 1 year mark...
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    SwazzleSwazzle member
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    That's so strange they told you that you were booking too early, especially at a bridal show. You'd think they'd want your money! I think you're totally fine having stuff booked or not at this point.  We booked our venue/caterer in October & our photographer in November.  We have an appointment with a DJ next week.  I like taking it 1 step at a time & not feeling rushed or stressed out. 

    Good luck on Saturday! 



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    FutureMrsG2013FutureMrsG2013 member
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    Don't feel like you're too early. I booked my venue in July, got engaged in May. We booked out photographer in October, we will possibly be booking our DJ this coming week, I'm starting to meet with flower people in early February. We booked our ceremony music in September. So don't feel too early...but I get it, everyone mentioned that to me when I was looking at venues right when we got engaged, but I'm doing it slowly, and when I have time since I'm finishing school. They don't know your situation, so just ignore them and enjoy planning, because once it's over, you just might miss the whole planning process (or so I'm told) =)
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    hisbabygirl76hisbabygirl76 member
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    I dont think you are too early at all. I have only been engaged about a month and have visited two venues and got my dress already. I am hoping ot have my venue booked in by the next week or so. I have made it clear to everyone around me I want to have all my planning and ordering and what not done by the end of the year. I want to enjoy the few months leading up to the wedding and dont need the stress of scrambling. Im a planner. :)
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    H2loveH2love
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    You are not too early, but I have been told the same thing by all of my friends and family. Whenever I tell them what my next step is they continue to remind me how far away the wedding is. I don't think they understand how fast that year will pass. I too am busy with work, school, and a mother of 3 kids I need to take this one step at a time or I will get overwhelmed.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_early-kinda-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:a1895ad8-e0b9-4364-839a-dbd2043769ccPost:d6508d29-e6b1-4cd0-94f9-2bd248f218f3">Re: to early (kinda vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]That's so strange they told you that you were booking too early, especially at a bridal show. You'd think they'd want your money! 
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    Alexis&JayAlexis&Jay member
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    I think you sould go at whatever pace your able to go at! If you get it all done early that's so much better than having to drag it out and stress your whole engagement!-and I can relate with the nightmares. I've been having them frequently.
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    rswansrswans
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    I'm glad I'm not the only one planning away! I'm hoping to graduate from grad school within a couple months of our wedding, so I figure getting stuff done now is best. Plus, it's still all really exciting. I have heard a lot of "wow, you're doing this really early," but oh well. There is a lot of stuff booking up already that I wouldn't have thought would be 15 months out and if I plan now, I get what I want and not what's left.
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    Danny&Mel2003Danny&Mel2003 member
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    Well the venue were meeting Saturday she said its early too but that was good if we booked now we keep the food prices at rates they are now versus 2013 prices and they do one wedding a day so we have our pick of dates!

    I feel the same way as most of you ladies I'm very busy so do what I can now and less stress later. I'm graduating undergrad this summer an the plan is to start grad school in the fall I'll be midway through that when we get married so I don't want to be stressing beyond belief of the wedding.

    An yes we could put the deposit down but its definitely more than I thought an if we change our minds on the venue we loose the deposit which has me balll of nerves too!

    Feels pretty crazy saying all this ... if you asked me a yr ago if I thought I would be engaged now I'd laugh and say yeah right but here I am planning our wedding!!! 8 months were engaged an it still feels like just yesterday he proposed!!!
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    comet347comet347 member
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    Ladies, you make me feel so much better about being an early planner. Every venue I call asks for the date. When I tell them they say that date is booked.  Then I repete 2013 and they say oh thats open. 

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