Money Tree?

Re: Money Tree?

• jagore08 member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_money-tree?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:0e0faf89-47b6-4903-a85f-d5cd08aa9361Post:5576651c-91c3-45cf-b733-fc386795df63">Money Tree?</a>:
  [QUOTE]We already have a home and all the stuff we really need. We are having a destination wedding and are planning our Honeymoon for 6 months after the wedding. We don't really want to have a gift registry for both the reasons that we have what we need and we are traveling for the wedding. Do I just leave that whole part out of the invitation or do I put Money tree? 
  Posted by Nicholettemtz[/QUOTE]
  You don't put anything about registries or gifts in an invitation, it's rude.  If you really don't need anything then don't have a registry at all.  People understand that couples would prefer cash and know how to put it, or a check, in a card.<div>
  </div><div>Also, it's a good idea to lurk on boards to see if your question has already been asked.  This is a common question on this board and is asked at least 3 times a week.</div>

  Ignorance is a poor defense.

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• meg65 member

  

  March 2012

  What is a money tree? I was always under the impression money didn't grow on trees, and you, you know, had to work to pay for stuff yourself :P

  

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• hoffse member

  

  March 2012

  Also, as a follow up - if you don't register you don't get a shower.  Please don't do a money tree shower.  That's really tacky.  Just have a secure, cute box for cards at the wedding reception and a small table for physical gifts that people may decide to bring.  Most people suggest making at least a small registry for guests who don't like to give cash. but it's certainly not required.  Just be prepared to get a few things that don't match or are unneeded.

  

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• MNVegas member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_money-tree?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:0e0faf89-47b6-4903-a85f-d5cd08aa9361Post:a2c7e79b-290e-42d5-b5f8-c6f59258298f">Re: Money Tree?</a>:
  [QUOTE]No mention of gifts belongs in an invitation.  The sole exception is shower invitations. It's rude to ask for cash in any form.  It's never polite to ask other people for their money. What you CAN do:  don't register, and spread the word through family and friends. When guests ask about the registry, they can say:  "They didn't register, but I think they're saving up for x." Anyone so inclined can then write a check.
  Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Totally agree!</div>

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• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  March 2012

  Explanation of money trees: I've seen money tress at church-planned baby showers. The tree was like a large, tree-shaped centerpiece, and people tied bills and maybe cards with checks or gift cards to the branches.
  
  Analysis: It was a custom at that church, so I thought it was fine. Others will disagree that such a local custom could trump the usual don't-suggest-money rules. These church showers were part of the weekly coffee hour after Mass, so I considered it also a way to deal with "shower guests" who forgot about the shower and just went to church like normal. I didn't like the implied compulsion if-you-come-to-church-this-Sunday-you-must-bring-cash-or-a-gift, but there are other ways for the congregation to counter that message.
  
  A bride with close friends or family planning her a shower should insist on 0 money tree.

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• segelpi

  

  March 2012

  I received a wedding invitation to a distant cousin of my fiancee's and with the invitation there was an insert that said something like "Although we appreciate any gifts of the heart, we would especially appreciate any monetary amount." I was so offended!!!! I think it is a huge mistake to include any mention of gifts in a wedding invitation. It just makes people think you're greedy.

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