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Vent: guests dropping out!

So I have to vent about my stupid guest list.  We're now a full week past the RSVP date and there's still a handful of people I haven't heard from!  I'm also bummed because pretty much everyone I've had to call has said they're not coming!  This has put us a good 20 people below where I expected we'd be.  If these people had told me sooner they weren't coming, I could have invited more people!  Now my seating chart is a mess, I've paid for too much cake and too many flowers (had to place final orders 4 weeks out), and I am just PISSED!  On the one hand, we'll be saving money on food and favors.  But on the other hand, I've put so much work into this stupid wedding, I was kind of hoping to show it off to my whole family.  Now a bunch of them won't even be there, and I'm kind of sad about it. 

FI is calling some of his guy friends who won't be offended by a late invite to see if we can fill out a few of our tables.  Everyone that I've asked can't make it. :(  Anybody wanna come to my wedding, LOL?  

Re: Vent: guests dropping out!

  • Julz629Julz629 member
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    edited December 2011
    If you extend your invite to everyone here, you'll have more than enough.  LOL

    It sucks that everyone won't be there, but I guarantee you you'll have a blast regardless.
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  • Melgor78Melgor78 member
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    edited December 2011
    Next GTG July 24, 2010 cmkuno wedding.  J/K

    That sucks, I'm inviting more ppl than I wanted to just to make sure we have enough coming.  You'll have a great time regardless who's there.

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  • edited December 2011

    to be honest, I made a big stink about my guestlist and guess what, at least 25 people were no shows! I didn't give a care! I didn't even notice until after the wedding. You won't care, you'll have a lot of love there!


    You know I'll come!!! knottie GTG @ your wedding! we;ll be sure to spice up your reception! LOL

  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011

    You know I'll come!!! knottie GTG @ your wedding! we;ll be sure to spice up your reception! LOL

    Ditto! Can we bring our husbands/fiances? I have so many cocktail dresses I NEVER get to wear!

  • jbasore1123jbasore1123 member
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    edited December 2011
    I feel ya. My RSVP's were due a week ago... we still have 100 people we're waiting on
  • emily1004emily1004 member
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    edited December 2011
    I know how you feel. We invited 370 people to our wedding and more than 100 people couldn't be there. We were able to cut down on cake, and favors, and we ended up letting people bring some last minute guests. We also added sushi to cocktail hour. Call your vendors see if they will be willing to work with you. 
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  • crhein26crhein26 member
    Fifth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    That really stinks.  I would call and invite some last minutes if at all possible.  And I agree with trying to work with your vendors to see if they can help you out and not make as much cake and make you purchase as many flowers.  If they won't work with you, see if there is anyplace else you can spice up with the extra flowers (i.e. the bathrooms, entrance room, etc.).  And have some saran wrap on hand for the cake and tell guests to take some home with them.

    Try not to be too upset...easier said than done I know.  Enjoy your wedding and for those party poopers who aren't there, well you will have a blast without them.  It will be their loss!

    Cheer up cmkuno!  And need be...all your knotties will be there!  ;)  We love weddings!
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  • edited December 2011

    Sorry to hear about that!  How annoying.  I agree with PP though in the end you will have a great time.  I could send you some of my guests instead lol...we are having the opposite problem of too many yes's we werent expecting!

    If that wasn't my bachelorette party weekend I would SO be there :).

  • edited December 2011
    Carolyn darling, I'm sorry!  That's a total bummer.  We ended up having much less than we invited (mostly b/c hardly anyone brought their kids), but we were happy with the decrease.  Also, we had people show up that weren't RSVPed for (i.e. people bringing a guest and they only RSVPed for themselves), and we also had some no shows.

    In the end, you won't even notice that seats are empty or a table isn't full.  I promise!    Cheer up, and call your vendors to see if there is anything they can do to work with you.  Mine all did, and I had some major last minute changes!  Good luck!  XOXO
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