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VENUE HELP!!!

JackiejojoJackiejojo member
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in New York-Long Island
OK, so after going back and forth with having a wedding up here on LI, then down in NC, we're back to up here. (I've already send out an email save the date that I creatively put together, but I don't really care!!)  I need help! The reason why we originally thought of going down south was because our list was way too long and pricey for venues up here. Plus, I really wasn't looking for a very formal occassion so we planned on having it in my mother's backyard.

It's turning out to be SO much more work than we expected and costing just as much if not more than if we had it up here!

**Side note, I got pregnant during out engagement and am due at the end of May :) Minor wrench in the plans... Anyhow, we decided to legally tie the knot before the baby arrived for legal/insurance purposes and actually got hitched on Oct. 2, 2009. Ideally, we'd like to have our "wedding celebration" on the same date (happens to be a Sat) of this year, so technically our one year anniversary, so that we dont have two different dates to celebrate! Now having it up here, I know that's another challenge which I'm O.K. with not happening..

I'm not looking to have an extravaggant wedding. We're really looking for a laid back celebration. The problem I'm having is finding a venue that will cater to the amount of people without charging us a fortune! I even decided to not have a formal sit down dinner and just pass around hor' dourves, cocktails and some good music for dancing. I'm very creative and talented and am willing to do most of the leg work - I just need a venue!! Anyone have any suggestions??!!!
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  • saisongbirdsaisongbird
    1000 Comments Fourth Anniversary Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    You are not having a wedding.  You are having a vow renewal, or an anniversary celebration.  Please let your guests know that.  Lying = not cool.

    Getting to your actual question, it depends on what your budget is and how many people you have.  Most larger halls require you to use their catering so unless you find a large VFW hall you may be out of luck.  I would also avoid using the "w" word when you talk to the halls.  if you tell them you're looking to have a cocktail party they may be able to cater to your needs better and then this way, you're not lying to your guests.
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  • Anabeth420Anabeth420
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    edited December 2011
    Where on LI?
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  • scoobyd266scoobyd266 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would try Swan club and Chateau La Mer, both are pretty reasonble, although I'm not sure about Saturdays. I'm going to assume that most of the poeple you're inviting know you well and therefore know that you are already legally married, so I wouldn't worry about that. Although, you may get a better deal with the venue if you call it something other than a wedding. Good luck to you in your venue search and with your baby!!!!
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  • kttestkttest member
    Knottie Warrior 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    You could also try the Metropolitan in Glen Cove, they were under $100pp for the works.
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  • JackiejojoJackiejojo member
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    edited December 2011
    "You are not having a wedding.  You are having a vow renewal, or an anniversary celebration.  Please let your guests know that.  Lying = not cool."

    Saisonbird, no one is "lying" here, ha. We have not yet been recognized from our religion as a married couple; only by the state for legal purposes. We will be having a religious ceremony at our event, therefore it will be recognized as a wedding. Every attendee at my is aware of our circumstances, so no one is being lied to. Thanks for your concern!

    I've never been one to want a big wedding. FOR ME,  I think spending thousands of dollars on things that most people won't even notice, is a waste. Yes, I believe in having  a nice event, but I find that the weddings I've attended here on LI can sometimes be over the top...that's just my opinion - I know many girls dream about this day, and I respect that; I just never really did. I'd prefer to tastefully celebrate the true reason for the event - the bond between my husband and I. Therefor however, or whenever it be, is fine with me - it's WHAT we're celebrating that matters most to me.

    Scoobyd266 - thanks for the well wishes! Much appreciated! It's a VERY exciting time in our lives!

    I will look into some of the other venues -so  thanks to everyone for the advice!
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  • alithebridealithebride member
    Ninth Anniversary 2500 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    if you post your guest # and budget it would really help.
    fwiw-I agree-you're doing a vow renewal. You're already married.

     

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  • JackiejojoJackiejojo member
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    edited December 2011

    Approx 200 - 250 people.
    I understand it's considered a renewal of vows. I get it - AND I'm ok with it; hence what I wrote in my previous post...

    Just out of curiosity then, what do you consider filing out paperwork for a marriage license - a wedding? I guess since there was no "celebration" which is what a wedding is considered, I always considered the "event-that-I'm-planning" a wedding... Just curious - but thanks for the input!

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  • ktdollktdoll member
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    edited December 2011
    Jackiejojo, you're right.  for some a marriage isn't even considered valid, if it's not done in a church, or by a religious officiant.  (this is not how I feel, I'm just saying that some people do)  so, while you're recognized by the state as married, You're still having a wedding in the eyes of god, and those who believe in that.  And, it's your day, your party, you can call it what you want!! Wink  good luck!
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  • JackiejojoJackiejojo member
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    edited December 2011
    Ktdoll, thanks so much for your post. I was almost not going to even read it, because truly, as you stated, at the end of the day it's what matters to my husband and I, and not what everyone else, or a message board for that matter, thinks! :)  I'm sure everything will work out and we'll make it the best celebration we can Smile Thanks!!!

     
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  • AngieB.AngieB. member
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    edited December 2011

    Definition:

    wed·ding

    –noun

    1. the act or ceremony of marrying; marriage; nuptials.
    2. the anniversary of a marriage, or its celebration: They invited guests to their silver wedding.

    3. the act or an instance of blending or joining, esp. opposite or contrasting elements: a perfect wedding of conservatism and liberalism.

    You're having a wedding and it's such a happy time for you!! Congratulations!  Don't let anyone take that from you - especially someone who has nothing better than nit pick about a small detail that you never asked for an opinion on anyways!
    Good luck with all of your plans! Laughing

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  • lorraineandjefflorraineandjeff member
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    edited December 2011
    seriously- don't let anyone take it from you.  My mouth hit the floor with those comments, aren't these boards supposed to be helpful, not judgemental or rude??

    We did the same thing.. Back and forth btw NC and LI.. We did it at LI.. to be honest, the place that holds your people doesn't matter.. A room, is a room.. It's the DJ, the food, the booze and the folks YOU decide to share it with that will make the party.. Also- drive a hard bargain.. People WANT your business make them work for it, and don't settle for any price they provide you up front. 
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  • wishuthebestwishuthebest member
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    edited December 2011

    Morning,

    Im an event specialist from Plan Ahead Events and I can be of assitance. Email me and we can work with you.
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