Anyone having time to bridetalk?

marylab · May 2012

Just feeling too much..worst case scenario comming..

ski2play · May 2012

what is up?

MeaganR12 · May 2012

Ok. Waiting.

colleenm18 · May 2012

???

marylab · May 2012

Well starting as a freak scenario..nothing is booked.

Like for real..time has gone way to much fast,we

had to cover up other problems,and left financialy...well not good.

Parents are no willing to help,his sisters make it all way difficult..

I'm like hiding my wedding from everyone.Just the Internet and

my last year wedding magazines know we're ''planning''.

Fi says we will be there..on our 15th.And I'm just sitting waiting

when the real planning will start.Ok it's way easier where we live

to make a whole wedding even in a month.But still,I want it like we

were talking about it back last summer when he proposed..

Now my fittings,our talks with vendors seem to have faded out..

I'm feeling so sorry bursting in tears.Even though he promised to

go next week and check venue and church,having a plan..

And I'm thinking..and if it won't happen?And then next week...and next week..

Worse we get married in Sept.Worst???

Sorry again for whining..I see all you girls

on fb doing sooo many things and I'm really

so happy for everyone,but feeling so sad.

colleenm18 · May 2012

So things arnt planned because of money issues? Plan the wedding you can afford, which unfortunately is not always the wedding you want. Why dont you push things back so you have more time and money?

BeachLover2885 · May 2012

Hi.. I agree with what colleen posted. Why not wait until later to get married? Or, if you really want to get married now and not wait, you could have a very small ceremony now and have a reception later? How long have you been engaged?

ski2play · May 2012

Sorry you are feeling so sad, Mary. Can you scale back the planning to a local park for your wedding and reception? Still have a beautiful wedding but lower the costs quite a bit?

marylab · May 2012

Well the wedding is pretty much afordable.

Ok I admit I liked the 70eu/per hotel,and forgot

about it.We didn't had the money and knew we

will have to simply work them out.And there were

no work,just sitting..

It's just don't fit for us to get married in 2013 or

2014,any year.Our lucky 12 has gone so unlucky.

Still I'm waiting for something to light our day.

Fi says it will work out,his plan that he doesn't

share seems to be a bubble though..guess he doesn't

have the strenght to tell me get over with it,don't even think it..

From the other side,he doesn't want anything less or political

wedding we have here..

I'm out of moh cause she simply told me she doesn't give a

single .. about the wedding.Simple guest it is,she said.Our best

man was the only supportive,but still he's in England.

We moved so I lost all my friends,who even thought me a freak

since I'm being the bride..

marylab · May 2012

It's a really low cost one,for the standards.

Well in Greece we have two basic choices

of wedding,political in town hall,10' deal,no

guests.Or a traditional one.

marylab · May 2012

Back in my mind I see logical that

if it's not July,or September,we will

forget this thing.I have only one hard moment

waking up on 15th,and just..sitting.

Well we're not engaged,cause it was planned as

a meeting event for our parents,my mother didn't want

to deal with it.We cancelled it back in August,picked the

rings and never took them from the store,they're sitting waiting.

But I'm wearing my ring since July 14th.

ski2play · May 2012

Oh my head, I am so confused. I am trying to follow along, really I am.

marylab · May 2012

I'm feeling the same,that's why it so hard

to explain.I'm juggling family issues,our

little family,my exams,studies,work,finances

and the wedding.The one we started to

plan and just stopped.

marylab · May 2012

Ps.I'm not from Pittsburgh,it's just

decline to change.We live in Greece,

and that's why I'm telling a little bit

different things.There quit a lot things we

do here/or don't and you don't/do.

MeaganR12 · May 2012

In Response to Re:Anyone having time to bridetalk?:[QUOTE]Oh my head, I am so confused.nbsp; I am trying to follow along, really I am. Posted by ski2play[/QUOTE]

Hahaha glad I'm not the only one. Literally have no idea what's going on.

marylab · May 2012

I guess my language is a problem sometimes.

Well,I'll try to clear it up a bit.

We got a 10-15k budget.That stayed stable.

Thankfully we didn't like anything expensive.

We have like 200 guests.130-140 his.Whom he

doesn't want to cut.I'm easy with mines.

We're getting married in a church in midday and

the venue is 35-40km away,plus 6 hours away.

All that to minimize the guests,the expenses,cause

you see we'll have something more 250 guests on

the ceremony.Here if you know someone just KNOW

it's offending not to invite.The venue has a top of 35eu/per.

That's our budget.

Well I honestly thought of something even much more budget

low.He is negative and that's killing me.We had this talk so

many times.He's the one giving hope and telling me we're gonna

make it till July.Well ladies I love them and I agree.But like when and

how?I'm trying to wait silently.But I'm cracking from the inside.There're

things we have to book now,or differently we're not gonna find them

available.I try to tell him to give me a clear answer.Or a wedding in July

and start booking for god's sake,or just tell me we can't.At least I will

start calming down.

So many people wished we don't get married,so much envy

and bad words.

Well parents will be met at the wedding or a week before,

now there's no other option.Our intimate engagement will be

or May 12th,or June 15th-16th-17th.1st case we have it on

my b-day with friends (just exchanging rings) or photo session,

just the 2 of us.Anyway planned to be.

I'm feeling so embarassed to making mistakes.Hope you

get a single meaning of it now.That's happens when my

only english practice is a book once in a while.

mekiakoo · May 2012

I'm trying to follow everything you've been saying and I want you to know that we are here to help you out. I am confused, you say you guys aren't engaged but you are just waiting until July 15 to get married? Is it a custom in Greece for the man to plan the wedding? I'm just trying to understand where you are coming from. From what I appear to understand, I believe you probably should talk with your FI and see what is going on, what you both want, what is scaring you both, if this is what you both want, if you both prefer to hold off things until you have enough money, or just have a wedding that is within your budget, etc. A lot of things are probably best solved if you talk with your FI. How long have you known him? Maybe it'd be a good idea to get premarital counseling. There are people who have planned a wedding in a few weeks, you still can do this if you want to. It shouldn't matter what year or month you get married as long as you both are ready and able to pull this off.

ski2play · May 2012

No worries, we just were hoping to help you find viable solutions. Good luck!

marylab · May 2012

Thank you girls again so much.

Firstly,the engagement thing here is a bit

''do whatever you want''.I mean basically it's

an exchange of the rings or between the fouture

couple,or the father of the bride/groom or best man/

moh do it.The rings are put on the left hand.Then at

the wedding they're put on the right.By choice this

happens in a house/close family with dinner to follow

or you go large and do something like a prewedding feast,

300 guests,catering etc.We are both not the showoff couple

so we needed the engagement just as a family meeting dinner.

Well this at least was the plan,last August.Personally we thought

we can do this just the two of us,in a photo engagement session,

but tried for the best.He proposed,or better we prososed,as we

planned the proposal day both,that sounds funny I know..in July,

so I was wearing my engagement ring,and there would be our wedding

rings left to put on.The plan backfired.My mother didn't want to hear anything

about our wedding.He's not the choice for her little girl.Believe me it's not

about his apperiance or attitude,every single friend of hers likes him,BUT

he's not a doctor/lawyer/university high level degree and doesn't have

a bank account which would satisfied her.Her daughter happiness=ignored.

That was a hard time for us.I mean we tried for them,and thery did give a single..

We moved in together in October.Since then we were trying to do our best.

We found some vendors,did even a food tasting,but still not something we

would like/afford at the same time,I was trying gowns etc.We booked the

florist,the church,have found thoreticely everything from A to Z.My family

even got better with that,and then we had to move due to financial issues,

and the landowner crazy demands.Wedding was on the scene,but my ticker

started speeding dramaticaly.We even though moved to a new house,better

and cheaper,money started coming,hope was found.The only thing sure about

all of it,it's that we became stronger as a couple.If it wasn't love,anyone would

go back to his parents,living happiply in a relationship,we stayed though.Just

all we've been trough shows we made it.Then I guess it was my fault.

Really.All the doubts,fears,no wedding plans.But there was no people/friends

arround to support.Those who seemed to be happy we us,we found out was

stabing us with a knife.I heard people wish we wouldn't get married,cause

we should be parents first,or how we dared to have our wedding before them,

I mean she's 32,she need to get married before us!And this really left me alone

with all those.I was really keeping it secret,so hard to be happy with something

and just forced to shut it up.My parents don't want to hear about it,his want

but are afraid that we won't make it,but support us,except from his sisters,they

want to do it first too..We were sure we gonna make it,fewer guests,cheaper venue,

anything low cost but beautiful!Nobody liked it but it's our wedding right?

It's bad that I don't have a stable income job,even though for the summer I have

some orders coming(I'm making cookies and stuff),FI tries his best,and awfully

and happily together we plan our money,cause nobody is willing to help.That's

I think the most diffucult part to say.So,I'm in the role of helper and low spender,

and he's paying it.Firstly it's a thing we discussed.He thinks that's the right to

do.And his words are that 75% this wedding is happening in July.(I got it out of

him,don't laugh please)That's my turn to wait I guess.And normally I wouldn't be

so freaked out.I really think I can plan that wedding in less than a month.For real.

Especially when his words encourage me.

I cracked just because of lack of any other support.God it's so difficult to say

I'll make it,when everyone says no way.I'm out of support right now.That's

why all this is freaking me out.And even though if we know that it will be okay,

it's a great help to hear it from others,like a good vibe/aura/possitive thoughts.

And I guess I'm freaked out,cause you planned it all so much time before,

and I'm like ..OMG WHAT AM I DOING??Need to calm down..

Sorry for the long post.

mekiakoo · May 2012

Maybe you should take a step back and think about what YOU want. It sounds like it may damage some relationships if you decide to get married before your sister. It depends on what you want to happen- do you want to get married right away? Why? Are you willing to wait a bit until you both have more money? Do you want to listen to your family?

It's obvious that things are done differently in Greece though, but I say do what YOU think is right. There are a lot of ladies who don't have a lot of help from their family or even their FI sometimes. Planning a wedding should be between you and your FI, nobody will be as excited about your wedding than you are.

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