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Wording of Wedding Favors

GiGiV2012GiGiV2012 member
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In lieu of a traditional favor, my FI and I are going to make a donation to Autism Speaks in honor of my FI's cousin's son, who has autism.

I wanted it to be a surprise for FI's cousin but I don't know if she would be comfortable with putting it on blast to all of our wedding guests that her son has autism.

Should I not even include it?
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Re: Wording of Wedding Favors

  • VeelushVeelush
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    first off-that is such a beautiful thing to do!!

    It really depends on the person in question. Do alot of ppl know her son has autism? is she comfortable with stating so? do you think it will bring too much attention to her/him?

    My sister is autistic and has mental retardation, personally I'd be touched, however my mother might not like the attention it will give to her that evening.

    I say you ask her if its okay to mention her son. If you dont/cant ask, then dont do it... its safer that way. She may get offended that you are puitting her child out there.. it REALLY depends on teh person..
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  • silver0319silver0319 member
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    What a wonderful gift!  

    Like Veelush said, it really does depend on the person and whether or not they mind. 

    We will be making a donation to the Alzheimerss Association in honor of FI's late grandfather, so I've been poking around online to find appropriate wording.  I came across this website http://www.documentsanddesigns.com/thank_you_cards/Donation_Favor_Cards/Donation_Favor_Cards_Wording.htm
    which offers lots of choices.  
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    I personally wouldn't put anything that said in honor of... I would hate for my kid to be singled out no matter how good the intentions are.  Just make a generic in lieu of favors we have made a donation to Autism Speaks.  I work with kids with autism and most parents wouldn't be cool with mentioning it.
     
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  • IamLisaThomasIamLisaThomas member
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    Yes the fact that your mention donations will be made yo Autism speaks will be enough. I would tell them that they inspired your donation but they may not want the attention in front of all your guests. That is a beautiful donation!
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  • rlavachrlavach member
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    I agree with PP that it’s better to leave off the part about her son. I did a donation in lieu of favor to the American Cancer Society because several of our family members have suffered from cancer, but I would not feel comfortable singling them out by mentioning their names. 

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  • tropicalpalmleaftropicalpalmleaf
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    We are doing a donation to Autusm Speaks also. My FI's nephew is a child living with autism. They have an option on their page to donate money as a wedding favor and they send you tent cards for your tables. It includes your names and wedding date and information on what Autism Speaks does. I would not include any information on your cousin's child though. We are not telling BIL and SIL about the donation. We want them to see it when they sit at the reception. 
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  • ElaineJ85ElaineJ85 member
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    What a wonderful idea! I think the safest bet would be to say that as a couple were inspired to donate to the foundation in honor of a family member effected by autism and maybe just leave it at that. This way your guests know the donation means something to you personally, but you won't be singling out a specific person at the wedding.
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