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Date Dilemma

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I am recently engaged (12/14/12!) and am already running across a dilemma.  My cousin is getting married on 10/5/13 and asked me months ago to be a bridesmaid.  I of course accepted.  However, I am now engaged and have always wanted a November wedding.  My ideal date is 11/2/13, only a month after my cousin's wedding.  I won't budge on a November wedding, but really don't want to wait until 2014.  Can someone offer some advice?  Would it be asking too much of my family to attend another wedding a month later?  Would it be too much stress for me being a bridesmaid a month before my own wedding?  Should I wait an entire year longer than I'd like to?

I should also add that her wedding is in NY where the majority of my family lives so they won't need to travel.  My wedding will be in Virginia which will require them to travel.

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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    Because there is only major travel for one of the weddings, I don't think it's too much. They are about a full month apart, so it's not like they're going to 2 weddings 2 weeks in a row.

    AND, bridesmaids are really required to do much besides show up in the right dress mostly sober and smile for pictures. If you can help with pre-wedding parties like showers, bachelorette parties, luncheons etc or can help from afar, then do it, but if you CAN'T, don't stress. You shouldn't be in the bridal party to do work, you are there for support.

    If you don't want to wait another year, you don't have to, but it could give you more time to save up money if you need to.
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    She gets one day, you get one. A month between is fine.
     
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I wouldn't worry about it. A month is plenty of time between the two. Congrats and happy planning!
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    I think if you start the planning process ASAP and follow the time line set up by the knot, and when possible even get ahead of their schedule, you will have no problems being a bridesmaid and a bride within a month of each other.

    I was able to get things done so that really the only thing I had to do was clean my house & pack my honeymoon bag the week of the wedding.

    Congrats on your engagement and have fun planning.
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    I think that's fine, especially since only one requires travel.
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  • BulgariHeartBulgariHeart member
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    No need to worry, one month between the two events is plenty. 
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  • 12aac14cam1212aac14cam12 member
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    Thanks for the advice, everyone!  We've decided to go with the 11/9/13 date.  Now the only issue to tackle is dealing with grumbly family members who don't want to travel for the wedding. I'm discovering that it's neverending when it comes to wedding planning... and I'm only 5 days in!
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