Getting Ahold of Non-RSVPers

nicole1672 · May 2012

I read a few threads today about calling people who haven't rsvp'd, since our deadlines are looming...

I'm wondering if it's okay to either email or *cringe* Facebook message guests who haven't rsvp'd. We did online rsvp's through our website.

Thoughts?

melfacto · May 2012

Personally I would call, but mainly because my mother and FMIL would be mortified if I FB people... lol, however, they will be doing most of the calling! Our wedding is very formal though, so I mean is it a somewhat casual affair?

sjhansen28 · May 2012

I think it depends on your level of communication with the people and their age. All of my friends would be weirded out if I called them, because that's just not how we talk. I'll probably either text or FB message them because that's how we communicate. However, our family members and older guests will be getting phone calls.

lnlaveque · May 2012

Our RSVP's are due May 7th. On May 8th we are calling whomever hasn't sent theirs back and telling them we need it back whether it is a yes or a no by the end of the week. Im so happy we gave ourselves extra time.

aor9487 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_getting-ahold-of-non-rsvpers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:dd5c4377-d689-42db-88a8-5fde9e692411Post:1625f959-d40c-48bc-9565-b69aeb50c124">Re: Getting Ahold of Non-RSVPers</a>:
[QUOTE]Our RSVP's are due May 7th. On May 8th we are calling whomever hasn't sent theirs back and telling them we need it back whether it is a yes or a no by the end of the week. <strong>Im so happy we gave ourselves extra time</strong>.
Posted by lnlaveque[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Ditto PP. We gave ourselves a buffer, especially since we have so many OOT guests that were invited. </div><div>
</div><div>As far as the method of communication, as stated previously, it depends on the relationship. For our closer friends, a text or FB will suffice, but for the older guests, we'll call. </div>

rasp.berry · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_getting-ahold-of-non-rsvpers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:dd5c4377-d689-42db-88a8-5fde9e692411Post:1625f959-d40c-48bc-9565-b69aeb50c124">Re: Getting Ahold of Non-RSVPers</a>:
[QUOTE]Our RSVP's are due May 7th. On May 8th <strong>we are calling whomever hasn't sent theirs back and telling them we need it back whether it is a yes or a no by the end of the week</strong>. Im so happy we gave ourselves extra time.
Posted by lnlaveque[/QUOTE]

I always figured that if I ended up having to call guests because they didn't RSVP by the deadline, I would just find out then if they could come and what they wanted to eat while I was on the phone with them rather than even bother asking them to send their responses through snail mail. It just seems easier. I'll just add it to my spreadsheet to keep track of numbers as I go. It would probably cut back on your headaches of not receiving responses, because the second phone call regarding RSVPs to a guest who doesn't respond within your second deadline could get awkward.

To the OP: I would say it depends on your relationship with the person and that person's personality. If you typically communicate via FB or text, I would say go for it. For example, I would probably message one of my close friends as opposed to calling since her personality dictates that she wouldn't side eye it in the least because of her laid back personality. On the other hand, I wouldn't message my grandmother (yes, at 90 years old, she has FB!) to see if she was coming. I would call her.

MoonlightSilver · May 2012

Just make sure if you do FB message people, that it's private messages. I definitely wouldn't post on their walls (I'm sure you already know this, but I wanted to bring it up).

rikkidawn28 · May 2012

I will be calling everyone who has not rsvp-ed 3 weeks before the wedding date. I may also use facebook private message and texting.

lb1212 · May 2012

I think you need to call first. I'm planning on calling first - and then using email or texting. I think FB should be a 100% last resort - even with close friends.

Danidawn20 · May 2012

I would say calling first would be your best bet.

kelsey+brandon · May 2012

We'll definitely be calling everyone.

I am going to make my mom call her people and FMIL/FI call their people because I don't want to have to call all those people (assuming a lot don't send in their RSVPs).

doeie04 · May 2012

I will be texting and messaging on FB. Our wedding isn't formal though.

kathleenkmm · May 2012

We're calling older relatives and FBing anyone who is on FB. I don't really care if it is rude because it is also rude to not respond to our RSVP on time. We have over 100 people left to track down.

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