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Getting inlaws anything?

Lolagirl2012Lolagirl2012 member
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My parents are paying for the entire wedding and I'm so lucky to have their support. I plan on giving my parents their gift at our rehearsal dinner privately, away from everyone else, because they aren't wouldn't appreciate opening them in front of everyone. My in-laws are not in a position where they can help with the wedding financially and haven't been involved very much in the planning outside of where and when, guest list and what to wear. My FI and I are paying for the rehearsal dinner.

Do we still get them a gift? They are making the trip up to the wedding and rehearsal, about an hour or so from home and renting a tux/getting a dress. I don't want to offend them, but we have a large wedding party and lots of gifts to get. I'm also worried that they will feel uncomfortable getting a gift when they haven't contributed.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    Get gifts for people to thank them for their love and support, not because of what they paid for or what favors they did for you.
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  • JaxInBlueJaxInBlue member
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    I saw the gifts we gave our parents as a "thanks for raising me/supporting us" gift, not just a gift because of financial contributions.  I'd get them something because of the role they played in your FI's life.  You could always think about a gift certificate or an IOU for picture prints after the wedding, if you would like to get them something that wouldn't necessarily draw a lot of attention to them.
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  • Lolagirl2012Lolagirl2012 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_getting-inlaws-anything?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:56aa71d1-5c18-4531-a531-e7b7e7f02319Post:2cd34f5d-1bde-4d51-af28-3acb9ec6be90">Re: Getting inlaws anything?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I saw the gifts we gave our parents as a "thanks for raising me/supporting us" gift, not just a gift because of financial contributions.  I'd get them something because of the role they played in your FI's life.  You could always think about a gift certificate or an IOU for picture prints after the wedding, if you would like to get them something that wouldn't necessarily draw a lot of attention to them.
    Posted by JaclyneD[/QUOTE]

    That's a better way to look at it, but even when looking at just support/raising in general, there has not been a lot of support. I like the idea of getting them prints for wedding photos, his mom loves photos. Thanks for the idea!
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    Then get them a little something for the wedding, and give your parents something bigger at a later date. That's what we did.
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    We got all of our parents gifts in the same denominations, regardless of how much they contributed.  The RD (or whenever you give gifts) is probably not the time to bring up family politics.  Maybe you can get his mom a few prints, but spring for the full album for your folks, at a point where they won't be able to compare.
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