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Hotel Room for the Wedding Party?

skaitklingskaitkling
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Hello All,

 

My fiancé and I are getting married at the Biltmore in North Carolina next August. Our immediate families will be staying on the property with us. We would like the bridal party to stay too. Who pays for their rooms? It is a destination wedding and we are expecting our bridal party to fly in. Are we responsible for the cost of the rooms? Also, some of the bridal party will be bringing their significant others and probably will not be willing to share rooms with the rest – who pays for their rooms?

 

Thanks!

Sara

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Re: Hotel Room for the Wedding Party?

  • NcsuPsychNcsuPsych member
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    edited December 2011
    I think the general idea is that when you're asked to be in a bridal party, you except that there will be costs involved.

    Did they know it'd be a destination wedding to begin with?

    If you can afford to get their rooms, thats awesome. Go for it, because that would be a great expense off their list. With that said. . I don't believe its 'required' just a very nice gesture. I think with this though, you should take into accound how many rooms you're going to need as well as how many nights.

    If you can swing it, go for it. If not, I wouldn't strain yourself to do it. Maybe offer to cover some of the costs??

    P.s The Biltmore is AMAZING! :o)

    Good luck!
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  • SassyPants150SassyPants150 member
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    edited December 2011

    We haven't had anyone assume that we were to pay for their rooms.  We're getting married at Rumbling Bald Resort in Lake Lure.  We are lucky that they have condos and villas so many of our wedding party was able to group up with each other to save money.

    One of my friends is getting married outside of Burlington and most of her wedding party is getting together and sharing rooms at her hotel. 

    We are lucky that most of our wedding party know each other and are friends so they don't feel strange about getting together in rooms.

    Good luck!  (I'm sure it will be beautiful at the Biltmore House)

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  • ashstwrtashstwrt
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    edited December 2011
    I've never stayed at the Biltmore, but I can imagine that it isn't very cheap.  Personally, I don't think it's fair to "make" your BP stay at the Biltmore and pay for it (after paying for the flight there, attire, gifts for you, etc).  You could offer it as an option and then give the name of one other "nearby" hotel (I'm assuming there is one?) that is more affordable. Then, they can decide if they'd rather pay a little more to be where the action is, or pay a little less and drive a little bit to get there.  I've been in 2 weddings where I had to drive there and stay in a hotel.  The bride offered options and we chose the one that we wanted.  It worked out really well and everyone was happy.
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  • brokenhallelujahbrokenhallelujah
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    edited December 2011
    I think what Ashley mentioned is the best idea - I would definitely provide the party with lots of info about where they could stay so they don't feel pressured to stay in one spot if it's out of their range. A wedding at the Biltmore sounds beautiful, though. I'd love to see the pictures.
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  • skaitklingskaitkling
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone! I was thinking we’d pay for 2 rooms, one for the guys and one for the girls. If people choose to stay there great, if not they're on their own. My fiancé is concerned that it would unfair to the married ones that want to stay with their fams. It sounds like I’m okay though.  Cheers!

    Sara


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  • skaitklingskaitkling
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    edited December 2011
    oh, and we will def have less expensive, nearby options blocked and available for everyone :)

    Destination weddings are so complicated ;)
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