July 2012 Weddings

FMIL

I get along w/ FMIL very well but there are a few WR things she is doing that urk me... lol

I'm going to vent away!

1.)  Last summer FI's cousin (so FMIL's nephew) got married.  When ever we get to talking about WR things, she keeps starting every one of her thoughts with "Well at C & B's wedding they did _______. " and then implies that we need to do the same.... like they had the wedding of the century!  LOL  It's annoying, FI and I were both at the wedding too, we know what it was like but want our OWN wedding!  So stop it FMIL... haha

2.)  Around Christmas time FMIL told us that we could use their timeshare in Myrtle Beach for our honeymoon.  FI asked his dad about it a few weeks ago and he started going on and on about how he and FMIL are using the timeshare in May and it works on a point system and not sure if there will be enough points left.   I don't know if it's just FFIL being himself (he's kinda weird like that sometimes) or if FMIL jumped the gun on offering it to us when it's not really possible.  I'm not really mad about this, but wish I knew what was going on so I could start checking out other honeymoon options in our budget.   Back to point #1--- FMIL thinks we should go there for our honeymoon because that's where cousin C & B went on their honeymoon last summer!  (LMAO!)

3.)  FMIL runs a thrift shop at the hospital near where they live.  A dress came into the shop that she likes and thinks she is going to wear to the wedding.  Personally I think it's ugly... it's a maroon color spaghetti strap dress with some funky long tulle things (maybe a connected wrap? or maybe they are supposed to be tied decoratively somehow)  It looks a lot like a bridesmaid dress.  LOL I keep saying to her "Well, you still have some time.  You should check out <insert random department store> and see if you find anything you like better"  I don't really care what she wears, but really this dress is ugly! haha

4.)  Another thing FMIL said she is going to do is host the Rehersal Dinner--- ok fine by me.  Last I saw her, she brought it up and asked when it was going to be.  I replied by saying it would be the night before the wedding (a Thurs night)  I've already told my whole bridal party (whom many of them have already put in requests off from work for)   FMIL says, "Oh, well I work until 5:00pm on Thursdays and FFIL has work too."     WTF Really???  It's your son's wedding!!  Take the day off of work?   She wants to have it the Friday before the wedding... I think that's stupid and plus most of the bridal party probably be able to get off of work to come.  Doesn't that defeat the purpose of having a rehersal in the first place?  I told FI about our conversation and told him he needs to talk to him mom & get it figured out!  I didn't really say anything back answering her and just kind of changed the subject.  LOL So far this has been my only Bridezilla-ish freak out.

lol, this ended up being really long!  If you've made it to here you deserve a big pat on the back!  :)   It does feel nice to be able to vent on here though, can't really do that IRL!
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    [QUOTE]I\ 3.)  FMIL runs a thrift shop at the hospital near where they live.  A dress came into the shop that she likes and thinks she is going to wear to the wedding.  Personally I think it's ugly... it's a maroon color spaghetti strap dress with some funky long tulle things (maybe a connected wrap? or maybe they are supposed to be tied decoratively somehow)  It looks a lot like a bridesmaid dress.  LOL I keep saying to her "Well, you still have some time.  You should check out <insert random department store /> and see if you find anything you like better"  I don't really care what she wears, but really this dress is ugly! hahaPosted by meggles114[/QUOTE]

    Oh my gosh..I can totally picture this dress in my head. It probably is a bridesmaid dress from the 90's.

    Maybe you could suggest going shopping with her? Maybe not specifically for a dress for her to wear..but yknow..just walk by that section...:p haha..
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  • I made it through :)

    It sounds like you are taking it all in stride and realizing none of these things are worth getting worked up over - so keep venting here if it helps you blow off steam! 

    For the record, I totally agree with you on the rehearsal dinner. If I was you and she won't back down on having it the week before, I would consider letting her throw a dinner party and hosting the rehearsal dinner yourself on the Thursday so everyone can come.
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    [QUOTE]I made it through :) It sounds like you are taking it all in stride and realizing none of these things are worth getting worked up over - so keep venting here if it helps you blow off steam!  For the record, I totally agree with you on the rehearsal dinner. If I was you and she won't back down on having it the week before,<strong> I would consider letting her throw a dinner party and hosting the rehearsal dinner yourself on the Thursday so everyone can come.</strong>
    Posted by Rebis58[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yes this exactly!  She keeps mentioning something about wanting to have some kind of family get together BEFORE the wedding where all parts of the family can get together--- her side of the family and FFILs side of the family have never really gotten along over the years... I think she has kind of melded this idea with what the rehersal dinner should be.   </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to FMIL : Oh my gosh..I can totally picture this dress in my head. It probably is a <strong>bridesmaid dress from the 90's</strong>. Maybe you could suggest<strong> going shopping with her</strong>? Maybe not specifically for a dress for her to wear..but yknow..just walk by that section...:p haha..
    Posted by BrightFirefly[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yes and Yes!  LOL  It's bad because I really don't care what she wears, but I know she could find something much prettier and more flattering!  My mom found a great dress on clearance at Dress Barn for $30!  So they are out there!  I just need to get her to look!</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FMIL : Yes and Yes!  LOL  It's bad because I really don't care what she wears, but I know she could find something much prettier and more flattering!  My mom found a great dress on clearance at Dress Barn for $30!  So they are out there!  I just need to get her to look!
    Posted by meggles114[/QUOTE]

    You know - I think that's the dress my cousins had her bridesmaids wear...that's why I can picture it so easily. Lol. I know it's the same color at least.

    And yeah - I'm struggling with my own mother. She was about to have a mental break down in JCP today because she's so worked up about what to wear. -_-

    Good luck with it all!
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  • penny12986penny12986 member
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    edited March 2012
    I can totally identify with you on the FMIL woes. Mine wanted to host a rehearsal dinner but when I gave her some restaurant suggestions (she's from OOT) she said that she thought that a rehearsal lunch would be better on the freaking DAY OF the wedding! She said that she did not want to leave her cat at a kennel so they couldn't come up overnight. I suggested that they have their neighbors who they are friendly with, come over to feed the cat and she said that that would upset him... I told her thanks for the offer but we were all set...
  • wow! these posts make me feel very lucky to have my FMIL, her sanity, and her support!!

    Penny that is the craziest thing I have ever heard...she wants the rehearsl to be the day of the wedding (when everyone will be getting ready) for reasons related solely to her cat?!?!?!?

    and Meggles, do you mean that your wedding is on a Friday, and that your FMIL wants the "rehearsal" to be an entire week before on the Friday before your wedding day?? that is also crazy and makes no sense to me! Insist on the Thursday night rehearsal dinner. I wouldn't budge on that.  Even if you end up having to host it yourself, it will be worth it!
  • Penny... this is crazy!  What is wrong with these people! lol

    Butterfly, yes our wedding is on a Friday, and FMIL want's it to be the Friday (a week before) the wedding!  I am thinking I"m going to tell her she can do whatever she wants, but we are having a rehersal of some sort the day before the wedding!

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  • edited March 2012
    I can totally relate to being compared to the wedding of the century it was my future sister in laws wedding, who is also a bridesmaid. My parents are paying for it all, which is almost less of a hastle than trying to get them to help! I should add that my Dad is laid off at the moment and recovering from 2 back surgeries. My parents invited their aunts and uncles and that's as far as they went out. My fmil has decided that she can invite her cousins and all of their kids. Our hall doesn't even hold that many people. The groom is editing her list since she can't he's tried talking to her 5 times now So now that I've rambled on and on my point is you're not the only ones with these problems. It'll work out in the end. :
  • Thanks. I love my animals and I know it can hard to be away for them but they only live 2 hours away and she has many friends who could stop by and feed them. I am worried that this is just the beginning though because as a nice gesture, I asked her if she would like to have her hair done with my friends, my mom and I on the day of. She said yes but she wants to be the first one because she had recently decided that she's allergic to all aerosol products and she wants to leave the room before anyone starts spraying hair spray. So much for bonding...
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    [QUOTE]Thanks. I love my animals and I know it can hard to be away for them but they only live 2 hours away and she has many friends who could stop by and feed them. Posted by penny12986[/QUOTE]

    Not to mention it's a cat..

    I am a huge cat love - self-proclaimed crazy cat lady...Lol..

    But it's a cat - you can throw down a bunch of extra food and some water..and leave a cat for two days and it will be fine. They don't need to be let out - and they don't go crazy from being alone....cuz they are usually sleepin' anyway.
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