Bridesmaid Dress Question

Sunshine811 · February 2012

I am having 4 BM stand up of all different shapes and sizes and I am really worried about finding a dress that they will be comfortable in. My FI is very insistent that the girls wear the same dress. I want a short, lightweight dress at a low price. I found one that meets most of my requirements, and my bridesmaids and mothers are fighting me on something. I have one girl who is really short and feels dresses at or below knee make her look shorter, so she would like to go a little above the knee, while the other 3 want it at or just below the knee. Also, one of my girls needs thick straps (because of a body condition) while the other will go strapless or thick strap, whichever.

I thought I would pick the dress but let them choose what they want (length and straps) and are most comfortable. My mom says it will look stupid if one is shorter than the others and some have straps and some don't. I will probably end up going all straps, but I'm really worried about the length thing. Do you think that anyone will care or even notice if there is a slight difference in length? I really just want all of my girls to be comfortable and confident. I've been the BM in a dress that fit terribly and looked awful and it was no fun at all. So, what do you think?

Sunshine811 · February 2012

Oh, also, for reference I am looking at Alfred Angelo 7017S (click here for pic)

LeiselEB · February 2012

No one will notice the length. Every dress hits people at different lengths anyway, so don't worry about that.

If you want them all in the same dress, that's fine (mine are all in the same dresses too) but make sure that every girl is comfortable with the dress and with the price.

yellowrose314 · February 2012

I have a similar problem with my bridal party; all are different shapes, heights, and body types. I've decided to go with the option of letting them pick their own dresses, but they all have to be the same color. My mom thought it was a great idea and my FI really couldn't care less what the girls are wearing haha. But some of my extended family, particularly my grandmother, think it's going to look odd. My view of the issue is, I want my girls to feel comfortable, be able to buy a dress that they can afford and wear again, especially if they're paying for their own dresses. So, sit down with them and discuss all the particulars of what they want and what you want, and chances are you'll all find some common ground. And I don't think anyone will notice if one girls hemline is a bit higher then the rest, especially in the case of someone who's a bit shorter then everyone else, people will probably comment on how great she looks! Also, love your dress choice!

TiffannieF · February 2012

It will look fine with different lengths and straps.

kimiandgary · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_bridesmaid-dress-question-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:7167b610-9861-4d16-8960-d4a2de1811f9Post:a239ab09-68f7-4621-9b00-0800ca679e1a">Re: Bridesmaid Dress Question</a>:
[QUOTE]Your Mom is overthinking it. <strong>Dresses will never be the exact same length on different people unless you line them up and alter each one.</strong> What you have planned sounds perfect to me. Let them pick the length and whether they want straps or not. I promise it will still look fantastic, and your BM's will be happier.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

We actually had to do this for my SIL's wedding about 6 years ago. No one will notice the length. I would say let them pick the straps.

My girls are all in different dresses- I like the uniqueness and they all picked dresses that match their personalities. .

JennLax · February 2012

I'm very short and every wedding I've been in, I had my BM dress altered so that it is just above the knee. Being short, it is uncomfortable and unflattering to have it just under the knee. If she's worried about it (I totally understand) suggest she have it hemmed up an inch or two, so that it hits her in the right place. It'll probably already be hitting the other girls above the knee if they are taller, so it will end up looking consistent. Even if it doesn't, no one will notice

Sunshine811 · February 2012

Thank you so much for your replies ladies! This really helped me feel better about. Mothers can be so silly!

Thank you thank you!

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