I didn't think I'd go the traditional route, but I found one this weekend that is beautiful, flattering, whimsical, and fit like a glove. The small details on this dress are really special. Mine is in ivory but here's the white version at brides.com:
http://www.brides.com/images/vendor/dressgallery/bridal/jordanbridals/00_main/m658_primary.jpgI am considering having some of the crinoline taken out, and having the train shortened or maybe even removed. Not sure yet..
Anyway, for a plus size gal to find a dress that made me feel so amazing and NOT plus size was a real feat. Now...on to shoes and accessories...