Hypothetical Questions

iamjoesgurl · August 2011

I'm watching the Millionaire Matchmaker (not the most quality show, by the way) and I was just wondering what other people think about a few things.

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself?

2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced?

3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy?

4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors?

As I type this, I am wondering about this last question and this one is rhetorical (don't answer it). If you met someone who was searching for faith in God/Jesus Christ, would they find you to be approachable about your own faith? Or would they know that you are a Christian? Again, just something to get you thinking. But I'm curious to hear what you think about the other questions above.

azdancer8 · August 2011

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself?

Possibly. Like the phrase "those who can't do, teach", I think there are some people out there who can see/do things, even if they haven't gone through it themselves. And just because someone hasn't found the right guy for themselves doesn't mean they can't find the right one for you.

2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced?

Not married, maybe. Divorced, probably not. It seem to me like some divorced people are quite bitter about it, and I doubt someone bitter about marriage could help with marriage troubles.

3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy?

No. If they can't keep themselves healthy, why should I trust them with my health?

4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors?
Probably. I'm allergic to smoke anyways, so if they smelled of it, I wouldn't be seeing them in the first place.

ElisabethJoanne · August 2011

1. Yes, but I'd only hire an older woman. 2. Yes, indeed, it was sorta possible our marriage counseling would be from a divorced priest. His ex-wife committed adultery. It was early in the marriage. The divorce doesn't say much about him, and maybe makes him a better counselor. (Personality-wise, he was my future husband and my least favorite, and he moved away, but I had no objections on principle.) I have shied away from getting dating advice from my one bachelor priest, though. But I have no problem going to a celibate Roman Catholic Priest with my Roman Catholic husband for advice. 3. Can't imagine ever trying to lose weight. 4. Yes. My mom's an excellent doctor, but she likes salt and never sees a doctor herself. Doesn't change the advice she gives her patients. (I understand, however, the women who don't want an obstetrician who's never had children herself. But I know some excellent men obstetricians, so...)

ElisabethJoanne · August 2011

Actually, crazy story: I've got a work project right now involving a widow. She's actually a dating coach. She didn't know how much money her late husband made or what his profession was.

mrandmrsbrist · August 2011

So, I was going down the list and I was like, "No...no...NO...DUH..." and then I got to the last question and I kind of hit myself in the head. Interesting post, Lisa. Thanks for making me think

AshNoel8 · August 2011

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself?

Yes, if she had a good track record of matching up people who stayed together haha. She could be dating someone or engaged. Or maybe she is good at her job, but just hasn't met the one God intended for her yet.

2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced?

Never married- yes, possibly. Divorced- no. I imagine one would learn a lot from a divorce, but not so sure if he/she would be ready to counsel others on marriage... Unless he/she was remarried, extremely happy and understood why the first one was wrong and why the current one is right. Then mayyyybe.

3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy?

No, prob not. Unless she was pregnant or had some type of disorder that causes her to uncontrollably gain weight.

4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors?

Hmmm... Prob not. I'm sure the Dr. knows the health risks and just can't break the habit. But his/her medical knowledge would remain the same, I think. I don't think I'd be able to decide that unless I was in the situation.

DaKelliAB09 · August 2011

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself? Sure. She might be good at matching others and maybe she just hasn't found the right one yet. I'd obviously research and get to know her and her history better before making the decision.

2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced? Wasn't ever married? I don't see why not. I have a friend who is a psychologist and isn't married but she really knows what it takes to make relationships/marriages work. Divorced? I don't think so. Although, they might be able to help others due to their past experiences, but to me the negative possibilities outweigh the positives on this one.

3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy? No. It would make me question their program or advice.

4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors? That's tough, but I don't think so...

FaithCaitlin · August 2011

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself?I would probably hire an unmarried matchmaker.
2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced?I wouldn't go to a therapist who was never married or divorced.
3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy?Nope.
4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors?No.

drama1308 · August 2011

1. yes. My wedding coordinator had never been married but had been to and coordinated lots of weddings and I trust her. I think a matchmaker can be the same sort of thing. Maybe she hasn't found the one who is her match yet.

2. I wouldn't take counseling from a divorced person, but I probably wouldn't want to take it from somebody who is unmarried.

3. Absolutely not!!! If the nutritionist can't follow his/her own advice why should I?!?

4. ehhh I don't really care. It's their life choice, stupid, but not something that would hinder their ability.

letyourselfgo · August 2011

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself?

Yes.

2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced?

Yes.

3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy?

Yes.

4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors?
No..

Professional training does in no way affect the assistance that they offer me. That is my rationale.

fpaemp2011 · August 2011

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself?
No

2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced?Not married because they were widowed, yes. Not married because they are single or divorced, most likely not.
3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy?No
4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors?Yes

kalizoomba · August 2011

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself? Just because she can't find "the one for herself, doesn't mean that she doesn't know a lot of other single men she can introduce me to. I probably wouldn't put that much faith in her though. Besides, before I met FI, I didn't need a man..
2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced? I wouldn't use a divorced therapist. I would try to find a pastor or another christian counselor to help us biblically.
3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy? If he/she was heavy, then she would know what I'm going through and at least be positive and give that moral support that you need when trying to lose weight.
4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors? No, but I would not go into surgery with a surgon who does not have a relationship with my Savior.

SoonToBeGenao · August 2011

1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself?

Sure, I don't think it would hinder her ability to find someone for me just because she hasn't found the man intended for her.

2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced?
No. This was a big deal for me when it came to our pre-marriage counseling. My parents are Catholic, but I didn't want a priest talking to me about marriage. We consider ourselves "Christian" and dont' really associate with any one particular denomination- so we just looked for a church with a pastor who was married that we felt lead to. I trust his advice completely.

3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy?
I think some people go into the field themselves because they want to learn how to change their own life and make their own healthy choices. That being said, if a person was my nutritionist and starting the program she is advising me herself, I would use her as a guide and coach as we do it together.

4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors?
No, it doesn't really matter to me what they do in their personal life, as long as they can help keep me healthy in mine.

xstarx05x · August 2011

ha i've watched that show too. Can definitely be a bit... raw. It is interesting seeing how selfish some of these people are! And kind of sad that she supports materialism. Like, I'm sure she doesn't like it, but she's probably like, "It is what it is, so here's how you can be hot." btw she is married now!
1. If you hadn't met BF/FI/DH and decided to use a matchmaker to find "the one", would you hire a matchmaker who is not married herself? I think so (if I had the money!)... like PP said, s/he might have not met "the one" yet
2. If you needed marriage counseling, would you consider going to a therapist who wasn't ever married or a therapist who was divorced? My first instinct is to say no, but then again, you don't always need a counselor who can relate with you. e.g. You can seek counselling for depression or drug abuse or child/domestic abuse and not expect them to have lived the same experience. And regarding divorce, I can't judge their situation. BUT I know I'd prefer someone who was married.
3. If you were interested in hiring a nutritionist to help you lose weight, would you go to a nutritionist who was very heavy? Probably not, unless I knew it was a medical condition or something. Otherwise, they obviously don't have good tips on how to stick to your "eating lifestyle" or whatever it's called!
4. If you found out that your doctor smoked, would you change doctors? I'm sure it wouldn't affect their work. But if I smoked, then I probably would get a new doctor. (similar reason to #3)

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