So yesterday was the deadline..so today I started touching base with my family and friends..well I had 34 that didnt recieve their invite in the mail..dang you usps!! Thats sucks especially since only about 10 were mailed to out of town guest or people we dont see on a regular basis...everyone else were hand delivered..thank god..dont judge me for being frugal with the stamps..lol..so ive gotten probably 95 percent response.with a few declines..lets see if FI can get his done without us losing our sanity..