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bridal part problem (LONG)

Kristeno2012Kristeno2012 member
Second Anniversary 10 Comments
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Ok so here it goes. I have been married once before I had my bff as my MOH because I didnt want to pick between my sisters. One of my sisters had a fit about that but again I wasnt ok picking between the two. Fast forward....I am not getting married again and my FI and I decided not to have siblings in the wedding my one sister and I always fight she found out I wasnt going to have her in the wedding and started threatening to not let me see my nephews and talking about how when no one does anything for me dont come to her crying. Mind you she has no job and has 2 babies so I wil have to pay for all of her stuff which we are already on a tight budget. My FI is close with one of his brothers but not the other and he decided the same thing not to have his in the wedding well everytime I turn around we are getting guilt trips and I feel like this is our day and it should be our choice. Are we wrong here or what? IDK what to do I feel so torn :( Even if I decided to change my mind and have my sisters after the way she treated me I have no desire to have her in the wedding at this point. I was discussing this with my FMIL and I could tell she was a little upset to PLEASE HELP. Any advice is welcome.
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Re: bridal part problem (LONG)

  • Avion22Avion22 member
    2500 Comments 5 Love Its
    You should ask people to be in your wedding party because of how much they mean to you, and how they support you emotionally.  You shouldn't ask (or not ask) people because of how they can help you for your wedding.   Generally speaking, adults SHOULD understand why they are asked or not asked to be in someone's wedding party, but these boards have proven that a lot of adults act like children over being in someone else's wedding.    

    You and your fiance should ask the people you are closest to, whether they are your siblings or not.
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  • MrsGandthebeagMrsGandthebeag member
    2500 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker First Anniversary
    Maybe you should elope.  Or not have a WP at all.  
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its 5 Answers

    Like pp said, you could skip bridal party totally and just ask two people in private if they will sign to be your witnesses later. It would save on budget too, no gifts to get, no extra flowers, no attire issues to worry about. You can still do family photos & photos of you with your closest friends.

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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Honestly, since this is your second wedding and since it caused drama before and is likely to cause drama again, I would just forgo the wedding party altogether.  
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  • lconoranlconoran member
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    Honestly I am a peacemaker and don't like conflict, so I would probably have both or none. But I also happen to like my siblings and so does FI so it made it easier.
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