Can the bride pick up gifts at the stores after the shower?

Re: Can the bride pick up gifts at the stores after the shower?

• jessicabessica member

  

  January 2012

  What edie said.  People expect that the bride will open gifts at the shower.  If you don't want to deal with the dreaded hassle of getting all your wonderful new things home, decline the shower.

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• kmmssg mod

  

  January 2012

  Agree with the others.  This really isn't your call.  People come to showers to give you gifts and see them opened.  Telling people not to bring their gift could easily offend some.  If you don't want to deal with getting them home then decline the shower.  My DD had to ship hers from Michigan to Salt Lake City.  She knew that was the deal when she accepted the shower and was grateful to do it.

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• MNVegas member

  

  January 2012

  The point of the shower is to shower the bride with gifts, not here's a receipt go pick gift up at the store.  Seriously if you can't be gracious about receiving shower gifts, decline the shower.

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• Simply Fated member

  

  January 2012

  Instead of receiving and opening gifts, you want your guests to just hand over the gift receipts? Stores don't just hand over merchandise because you have a receipt. Receipts are for returning things and making exchanges. You receive a receipt upon leaving the store WITH your merchandise. Some stores will hold items if there are large purchases made in great volume. Kim Kardashian had this done. Guests order the item and the store keeps it until the bride picks it up. This is done for wedding gifts, not bridal shower gifts.

  
  

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• melntaitt member

  

  January 2012

  It's really unfair to your guests to have them spend money on you and you not even try to appease that pleasure by opening the gifts with them.
  
  Granted some people are not about the ooooh and aaah portions of the shower but you can't have it both ways. Either take the bad with the good or no shower at all.
  
  What is on your registry that you believe is a hassle to tote home?

  

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• RebeccaB88 member

  

  January 2012

  If someone buys you a gift at the store, and they don't want to pay to have it shipped, then they take it with them and make their own arrangements to get the gift to you (either take it to the shower or to your home).  That's the call of the guest, not you.  If someone chooses to order online, then that's up to them and they know they're going to have to pay shipping.  If they don't want to do any of that, then they can mail you a check.  But NONE of that is up to you. And, nobody has to get you anything at all. 
  
  Showers are about (graciously) receiving the gifts. If you aren't going to do that, decline the shower.  If you want the shower, then you need to suck it up and learn how to be a proper, polite guest of honor and accept the gifts with appreciation and grace.  Right now you just sound like a spoiled child who wants everything her way, and is too special to bother with opening the gifts your guests have gone out of their way to buy for you.

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• calliopeia2013 member

  

  February 2012

  The purpose of a shower is to open gifts in person. 
  
  If you don't want to open gifts at a shower, do not have a shower; you can have a luncheon or tea of some sort instead, with no gifts.  But a shower is a gift-opening party, pretty much by definition.
  
  You're getting a little bit dogpiled here, which is maybe unfair if you didn't know that, but is absolutely fair if you did know that. 

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