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Sister not bringing kids
I had intended for my nephew to be my ring bearer. My sister just informed me that it is too expensive to fly with kids and too long of a drive. She is in N. Carolina and I am in Kansas City. Was it wrong for me to expect her to bring the kids? I get to see my family once a year and the wedding is still a year to a year and a half away. I know I have time to get someone else but I was just so shocked. Anyone else had to deal with this?
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Re: Sister not bringing kids
2. Yes, imo you are being unreasonable. It IS expensive to fly and if your sister doesn't want to spend the $$ to fly her child out for this event, that's her choice. See also: point number 1.
3. For goodness' sake, do NOT replace him! Just don't have a ring bearer.
[QUOTE]well this is different.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]
Indeed. I'm almost confused.
I actually am dealing with the opposite. My aunt is traveling from California and my mother told her that she can't come if she's bringing her son (my cousin), who is five. Nice huh.
[QUOTE]I had intended for my nephew to be my ring bearer. My sister just informed me that it is too expensive to fly with kids and too long of a drive. She is in N. Carolina and I am in Kansas City. Was it wrong for me to expect her to bring the kids? I get to see my family once a year and the wedding is still a year to a year and a half away. I know I have time to get someone else but I was just so shocked. Anyone else had to deal with this?
Posted by blueeyes62785[/QUOTE]
If you want to see your family, you should fly out to see them :) No one says that a wedding has to be the reunion for your family. And if it's so important for him to be in your wedding, then you should be footing the bill, flights and hotel.
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Anyhoo, I'm in the Get Over It camp just so you can keep the peace and avoid the drama I had to face. Good luck!
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[QUOTE]This happened to me with my SIL. About a year out I asked her if her kids would be in the wedding - 2.5 year old FG and 6 year old RB. That was all well and fine but a few months later - still about 9 months until the wedding when she realizes that she can't use her parents' free time share points to book a hotel room she tells me they are only bringing one kid (the RB). I was pissed to be honest because this was her brother's wedding and wasn't deemed important enough to bring her whole family. She later almost dropped out because I wouldn't pay for her son's tux. She sounds like such a peach, doesn't she? Anyhoo, I'm in the Get Over It camp just so you can keep the peace and avoid the drama I had to face. Good luck!
Posted by notquiteblushing[/QUOTE]
TBH she's not the one that sounds like a "peach"...
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sister not bringing kids : TBH she's not the one that sounds like a "peach"...
Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]
Care to explain what you mean by that?
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