Party only reception invites?

MorganandJim · January 2012

Is it ok to invite people to the reception party (after dinner) who aren't invited to wedding and dinner???

We're on a tight budget and have some of those random friends who would be fun, but not really close enough to have at our wedding.

AdeleDazeem · January 2012

Nope.

Anyone you invite must be invited to the entire event.

redheadfsu · January 2012

Not ok.

That is one of the rudest things you can do. Either invite them to the entire thing or nothing. Basically you are saying, "Hey, I like you but not enough to buy you dinner." Plus, the poor person feels obligated to get you a gift, even though you are being incredibly rude to them.

tldh · January 2012

Nope. This is one of the all time rudest things you can do to your guests.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · January 2012

No. The reception is one event. It's not dinner and dancing in two parts. Logistically, I don't even know how this would work (how would you have seats for the people who come "later," alcohol, etc?), plus, it's rude.

MyNameIsNot · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_party-only-reception-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:f10ed545-09b8-4038-8ad1-eda6eb16a2b2Post:95933d69-cd0e-4ba6-93eb-9f63b40a0356">Party only reception invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it ok to invite people to the reception party (after dinner) who aren't invited to wedding and dinner??? We're on a tight budget and have some of those random friends who would be fun, but not really close enough to have at our wedding.
Posted by MorganandJim[/QUOTE]

<div>No, not ok.</div>

TiffannieF · January 2012

Sorry but no. We had a lot of people we couldn't invite because of our budget as well...sucks but oh well..

MelissaC315 · January 2012

No. Think about it this way if you got invited to someone's "reception party" wouldn't you feel like the couple felt like you were not good enough to actually see them get married and not important enough to spend money on for the dinner? It's hurtful because they know that those events took place and many other people at the reception got to be there but they didn't.

Beverly8 · January 2012

why would they be good enough to party with but not good enough to come to your wedding. This is extremely rude and I would highly suggest not doing this. If I received an invite like this I would not go

Grits8812 · January 2012

That's pretty rude, and I personally wouldn't come. You probably wouldn't like it too much if someone invited you just to come dance and drink, but didn't offer them food or to come to the actual wedding. Because that is what everyone is talking about at the reception, is what happened at the wedding, and how good the food was, etc.

ootmother2 · January 2012

In this country, it's considered very poor manners.

It's very common in the UK but that's not where you live so don't do it.

larabarnes · January 2012

that's what we are doing with ours, but we also have the reception that is open after supper to the whole community that we live in. I see it as perfectly acceptable to invite people only to the reception, but I am from a small community.

jennipea382 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_party-only-reception-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:f10ed545-09b8-4038-8ad1-eda6eb16a2b2Post:e95888d9-9cc4-4410-b369-6defef304457">Re: Party only reception invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]that's what we are doing with ours, but we also have the reception that is open after supper to the whole community that we live in. I see it as perfectly acceptable to invite people only to the reception, but I am from a small community.
Posted by larabarnes[/QUOTE]

I've seen this happen. My friend is from a very small town and it's the norm for people in the community to come to the "dance portion". So in cases like this it's ok. But these are pretty rare cases, and you'd know already if that's ok in your community. In general, no. I've been invited to the dance portion by a few people. I wasn't really offended, but I didn't end up going. I might have gone if I had been invited to the whole thing.

zitiqueen · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_party-only-reception-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:f10ed545-09b8-4038-8ad1-eda6eb16a2b2Post:ef5122c3-46f1-48c2-bc2f-429954887d1c">Re: Party only reception invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Party only reception invites? : I've seen this happen. My friend is from a very small town and it's the norm for people in the community to come to the "dance portion". So in cases like this it's ok. But these are pretty rare cases, and you'd know already if that's ok in your community. In general, no. I've been invited to the dance portion by a few people. I wasn't really offended, but I didn't end up going. I might have gone if I had been invited to the whole thing.
Posted by jennipea382[/QUOTE]

I'm originally from a small town too and it's not okay. It's rude no matter what. Have the wedding you can afford and treat your guests -- <u>all of your guests</u> -- properly. If you can't afford to do that then you need to scale your wedding back or postpone until you can save up enough money to do that.

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