My FI and I don't live near our family. he has been gone for 7 years from home, but really didn't live there before that because of grad school and college. His family is quite "unique" and none of them really get along. He thought and hoped that our wedding would still bring his family together and they would partake in it. But they aren't. His cousins won't even RSVP or return a message to see if they are coming. His own Godmother had "previous plans" which he took pretty hard considering we sent save the dates out in November. It isn't like he doens't have any family coming but he is taking it VERY personally when people decline or don't RSVP. I feel horrible because my family is VERY close and really been involved so much which is fantastic because although I have been gone from home for 6 years we talk daily. I guess I just don't know what to say to my FI to make him feel better. I told him that he is part of my family and not to worry about those of his who don't come, I have told him that we don't want to be surrounded by negativity on our wedding day and if someone doesn't want to be there then fine...but any advice? Any other guys out there taking it harder than you expected?
