prayer please

drama1308 · April 2011

Without going into too much detail (because it's complicated) I found out yesterday that FI had been lying to me about something (thankfully not porn). This is at least the second time he has lied to me about this and I was a mess yesterday. I seriously considered calling off/postponing the wedding.

We've worked things out and hopefully this will never happen again, but can you ladies pray for us as I don't want to call off the wedding, but I'm having a hard time trusting him right now.

DramaGeek · April 2011

prayers for you. Please do spend time in prayer and thinking through exactly why you don't want to call off/postpone the wedding. My cousin went through something similar, wanted to call off the wedding but didn't and found herself divorcing 2 months later :-(

twixinthemix · April 2011

I'll be praying for you and your FI! Are you two going through any pre-marital counseling? It might be a good idea to get these thing sorted out. You want to make sure you're able to fully trust him when you enter into your marriage!

DramaGeek · April 2011

I feel like my foggy morning brain didn't allow me to express myself properly in my first post. I am not insinuating that your marriage will be troubled from the start, just that you should spend a lot of time in prayer and thought about it to be sure you're headed in the right direction. My cousin knew she shouldn't be getting married but did anyway. We found out later that a big part of it was that she felt embarassed and ashamed to call it off and thought maybe they could work it out after the fact. She was also concerned because her parents had already laid out so much money for the wedding. So please don't let those things play into your decision at all.

Much love to you. What a difficult time this must be.

mrandmrsbrist · April 2011

I'm praying for you!

amongthelilies25 · April 2011

i will be praying for you.

i agree with twixinthemix about doing pre-marital counseling... doing this can really help strengthen your relationship and work through any problems you have now..or may have in the future.

If your FI is repeatedly lying about the same thing, there must be a root issue there and your FI should work this through prior to getting married. You have about 4 months before the wedding...so i encourage you to start communicating with eachother and remember that God makes ALL things new. Dont give up hope. Hope deferred makes the heart sick (proverbs 13:12) so keep hope.

The more you can work on and build trust before the wedding (with marriage mentoring and reading books) the better you will be equipped in your marriage and the more trust will be rebuilt.

Lord, i just pray for your daughter right now, God. I lift her heart up to You. You see the area that her FI is lying about to her and i just pray that the walls will be broken and that her and her FI will be able to talk to eachother. I pray a renewal of their relationship and that her FI can work through anything that is keeping him lying to her. I pray that You will mend her broken heart...as well as his heart, God. Holy Spirit i pray that you work in their relationship and give them the insight that they need. Holy Spirit, counsel them and reveal to them what needs to be changed or altered in the relationship. I pray that trust will begin to grow and be restored.

*I just see trust as a tree that has been cut down to the stump and God is placing a baby tree upon the stump and it is beginning to grow and grow. That stump is your foundation of trust and although that trust has been broken, God will heal it and start a fresh and anew. *

Lord, we agree with Your will. In Jesus Mighty name AMEN!

kellya01 · April 2011

Praying for you, drama13. I know the feeling of not being able to trust someone, and for that person to be your FI is very tough. Definitely talk about this with your pre-marital counseling, and don't be afraid to cancel everything just so you and your FI can sit and talk it through. For things to change, he has to want to change, and he has to WANT to be honest with you about this issue, whatever it is.

drama1308 · April 2011

Thank you so much for your encouragemen and prayerst!!

He is working on changing. He realized how much the lying hurt me and doesn't want to do it again. I asked him to be honest about it because it's so much easier than discovering it on my own.

It's going to be tough, but we can get through this. And it just so happens that we have counseling tonight, so we're probably going to be bringing this up.