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The Guest List

So, I'm about to send out invitations on Monday, and I can't believe how big the guest list has gotten. It's over 100 invitations & 225 people. That's not even including the people that might come from who work at my Grandfather's business (I'm sendng an invitation to the business in general). This seems crazy since at first FI and I really wanted less than 100 people there. We wanted it to be more intimate and simple. It has now turned into a big expensive party with tons of people. This is what my dad really wanted and since he's paying I just did what he said. It's just crazy to think of all the people we're inviting because most of them are family who I see about once a year or less. I know the wedding will still be awesome and fun; it's just turning into something I never invisioned. My dad just keeps pushing things that cost SO much more than what I had ever thought of spending...which is how I ended up with the awesome venue and photographer I have, but still I feel kind of bad having this much money spent on just one day (FYI: It'll probably end up being about $8,000; which to some isn't much, but to me is alot of money). & I can't believe how much FMIL is spending on the rehearsal dinner. I am very grateful, but I still feel kind of bad about it...I just keep thinking of all the other things that money could go to...

Has this (or is this) happening to anyone else?

Re: The Guest List

  • GJones27GJones27 member
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    edited December 2011
    The same thing happened at our wedding.  DH wanted less than 100, but with my mom's long invite list, we invited about 200.  Only 110 RSPVed to come, and only about 100 showed up.  So the numbers will likely go down, especially if people have to travel far.
  • mrandmrsbristmrandmrsbrist member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh yeah, happened to us. We wanted less than a hundred and ended up inviting somewhere arond 175. Keep in mind what G said. 225 people does not mean 225 guests. It will likely only mean somewhere around 150-ish.
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  • edited December 2011
    oh yes. I've got less than 2 months left, and FMIL is still adding people. I told her I don't have anymore invitations nor do we have anymore room in the church. I'm hoping everyone won't come. The way our church does it -- when ever anyone from the church is getting married at the church, it's an open invitation for anyone from the church to come to the wedding. I've tried to ask them to RSVP so I know if I need to bring in extra chairs, but we'll see what happens. 
  • FaithCaitlinFaithCaitlin member
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    edited December 2011
    It's happening to us. We wanted to elope- that didn't happen. We wanted a Disney wedding for 20- nope. We agreed on 60 people but now the list is at 120. We aren't happy but are trying to pick and choose battles; if my parents want to pay for all their extra guests, fine. It's not what we want but in the end, we will be married and won't care. The amount of money we are spending makes me sick but that's another story...

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  • faith415faith415 member
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    edited December 2011
    Same!!! I wanted less than 100. FIs parents believe that if someone is related they should be invited, no matter how distantly related. Not only is our guest list over 130, but there are a good chunk of people that FI and I have never even met. It finally got to the point that I let everyone know that after the STDs went out no one could be added to the guest list no matter what.
  • edited December 2011
    I wanted a huge wedding... but no idea how to feed them all.. Our guest list is 251 with one that will be born a month before the wedding making it 252... With a lot of people saying they are coming... Even family from England... its crazy but BIG! and I love it... the money issue tho... We are keeping it to under 5000 no matter what... 
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