This weekend, my sister, and bridesmaid, told me my bachelorette would be a week before the wedding. I'm not too thrilled about it, I would rather a little more time in between, especially considering the last minute details that need to be taken care of at that time, and not being able to handle any of them during the last weekend prior sounds a little stressful. I was excited when she brought up the bachelorette party, thanked her right away, and said "but the weekend right before sounds a little too close to the wedding date." She insisted we keep it, and i dropped it because of the obvious "she's doing something nice for you. let it go."
Then I remembered a long time ago she mentioned our mom coming to the bachelorette party, and apparently they still intend to have my mom come. I'm having a little trouble keeping the "she's doing something nice for you. let it go." attitude. I'm told part of it will involve drinking and during the discussion with my sister she said that our mom likely won't drink, or maybe just a little. It just seems to me that having my mom there, the only one from an older generation, will make things a little awkward and people won't feel free to be open and a little wild. The sister planning this is extremely close with my mom and is always 100% herself with her, but me, my others sisters, and definitely my friends will not have this same sense of freedom and inhibition.
I'm just in such a tug of war with myself between feeling I do Not want this to happen, or will it really be as bad as I'm making it out to be?
Do I tell my sister my concerns (which will very likely be met with her just telling me it'll be fine, and don't worry, and you're not allowed to know the details.) or do I keep the attitude of "she's doing something nice for you. let it go."