Who made the first move?

k8888 · February 2012

My FI is REALLY shy so I was the one that kissed him first... and I was the one who made our relationship official, as well as saying "I love you" first. It took him a long time to get the courage to become the initiator... now he's a monster haha.

So... who made the first move in your relationship?

LADY324 · February 2012

The first time around when we were 19 he did he asked me to be his beer pong partner at a party. For us getting back together I did. I sent him a drunk text our first night at our summer houses he lived down the street from me. Then we hung out the next night and hooked up I think he kissed me first. Then I asked to get drinks to talk about "us" about 2 weeks after seeing each other, then we mutually agreed to be exclusive.

ceglare4 · February 2012

FI kissed me first (and before that held my hand in high school, oh high school haha) both when we were in high school and then again when we "re-met" in college. He was the first one to say that he was falling in love with me, but I was the first to actually say that I loved him.

mekiakoo · February 2012

Haha I did too. He's pretty laid back and can be shy at times!! I jumped on his lap and kissed his cheek. I dragged him with me to have "fun". I also invited him to events or to hang out with friends. I asked him every single question about his life. I said "I love you" first. I was 19 and always excited about everything! I'm just surprised I did not scare him away. I had so much fun trying to get a "laid back" dude to open up

AllyG303 · February 2012

FI came up to me first, I kind of initiated the relationship by writing him a note (come on...I was in high school) with my number on it. I also told him that I loved him first.

He initiated the first kiss and asked me on our first date.

bells24412 · February 2012

He made all the moves. I am actually the shy one so he initiated everything.

YuMMMy721 · February 2012

I did. He's a nice guy and didn't want me to feel pressured into doing anything. So I initiated everything!

butterflyjumper1 · February 2012

oh gosh...this is really complicated in my case haha!

fiance and i first met during orientation week when we were freshman. he said he immediately fell in love with me the first time he saw me (he says he still remembers the bright yellow shirt i was wearing and how blue my eyes were). yes, he is adorable.

well, he made the first move holding my hand a few days later, and then we kissed....but i was a college freshman and didn't want a serious boyfriend and basically rejected him by starting to date a few other guys. yes, i was a jerk!

we were on the swim team together and still became BFFs despite the fact that i broke his heart (he admitted this to me on a few occasions! i was so mean i just brushed it off). why he remained my friend, i am not sure!

i realized he was "the one" when we were moving out of the dorms for the summer after our freshman year. he was THE ONLY person i cared about saying goodbye to as we were all leaving. but, this scared me, and i still wanted to be the cool sorority girl who wasn't tied down to a nice guy.

despite a few awkward drunken kisses that we never talked about, we didn't ACTUALLY get together until a "screw your roommate" dance that my sorority had in march of my sophomore year. we had to find our roommate a date for our semi-formal dance (you either screw them by getting them a good date that will get you "screwed" in a good way, or screw them by finding them a terrible date).

i gave my BFF sorority sister a long list of guys i had crushes on which included one guy i had been casually hooking up with and urged her to invite him (he was a jerk - hot, but definitely a jerk). my wise beyond her years BFF asked raj, the good guy who was in love with me but i was too scared to admit that i was in love with back, to be my date. we have been together ever since.

so i guess technically, my friend lindsay made the first move

colleenm18 · February 2012

I think I made the first move since FI is kind of shy but to be honest i really dont remember it was so long ago (over 10 years now). I do remember that the very first time we hung out we didnt kiss because he was so awkward!

Elinetrouwt · February 2012

He's really shy but I really really wanted him to make the first move. We were best friends before, and one night we watched dvd's together, and I waited and waited, and finally he said 'I think we're becoming more than just friends'.

ceglare4 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]oh gosh...this is really complicated in my case haha! fiance and i first met during orientation week when we were freshman. he said he immediately fell in love with me the first time he saw me (he says he still remembers the bright yellow shirt i was wearing and how blue my eyes were). yes, he is adorable. well, he made the first move holding my hand a few days later, and then we kissed....but i was a college freshman and didn't want a serious boyfriend and basically rejected him by starting to date a few other guys. yes, i was a jerk! we were on the swim together and still became BFFs despite the fact that i broke his heart (he admitted this to me on a few occasions! i was so mean i just brushed it off). why he remained my friend, i am not sure! i realized he was "the one" when we were moving out of the dorms for the summer after our freshman year. he was THE ONLY person i cared about saying goodbye to as we were all leaving. but, this scared me, and i still wanted to be the cool sorority girl who wasn't tied down to a nice guy. despite a few awkward drunken kisses that we never talked about, we didn't ACTUALLY get together until a "screw your roommate" dance that my sorority had in march of my sophomore year. we had to find our roommate a date for our semi-formal dance (you either screw them by getting them a good date that will get you "screwed" in a good way, or screw them by finding them a terrible date). i gave my BFF sorority sister a long list of guys i had crushes on which included one guy i had been casually hooking up with and urged her to invite him (he was a jerk - hot, but definitely a jerk). my wise beyond her years BFF asked raj, the good guy who was in love with me but i was too scared to admit that i was in love with back, to be my date. we have been together ever since. so i guess technically, my friend lindsay made the first move :)
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

Cute story, I like the last part haha.

bridetobe71412 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]so i guess technically, my friend lindsay made the first move :)
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

HAHAHAHA.

Fiance made the first move, absolutely. I was in Cabo on Spring Break with a bunch of my girlfriends, he was there with 5 of his buddies. He came over to talk to me while I was dancing on a podium. (Class, all the way, ladies). I ignored him and kept dancing.

When I removed myself from the podium he offered to buy me a drink. I was like, ok, fine. So we started talking and his friend started talking to one of my friends. 5 minutes later, our groups were all mingling, I was laughing my head off having a great time. He ended up giving me a piggypack ride to the next club because my shoes were killing me. I found out he was a lawyer, I was in law school, we both lived in NY, his birthday was the day before mine, his best friend's name was Rich (my late dad's name), etc. etc. We had lots in common and made plans to meet up the next night.

Good thing we had plans set, because I was mugged outside the club on my way home with my friends. He still says to this day he should have insisted on walking us all back to our hotel, but he didn't want me to "get the wrong idea" (super conservative). When we met up the next night, we made plans to meet back in NY because he was leaving early the next morning to head back to NY. The rest is history.

We didn't kiss until our first official date in NY. He said ILY first (about 3 months in).

BrightFirefly · February 2012

We were sitting on his couch - in the basement of his mom's house - and I rested my head on his shoulder while we were watching Wall-E. At this point, we were still trying to keep up the pretense of "just being friends" - but we both knew that we liked each other beyond that and that the feeling was mutual.

I sort of sat up and he looked at me - and for real asked "Would you be mad if I kissed you?" and I shook my head - which he wasn't sure if it was a yes or no - but he kissed me anyway.

xobride · February 2012

Definitely my FI. I don't remember our first date too clearly because I was so nervous, I had a couple of glasses of wine while I was getting ready (on an empty stomach) and then we had a bottle while we were waiting for our table and then another with dinner so I was lit like a Christmas tree. I honestly didn't even want to go on the date in the first place. I had been divorced for 4 years and was so tired of first dates.

Apparently, I told him my life story that night and despite all the scary parts, he asked me out again. We went out two nights later and were sitting on the patio of a bar. I was admiring his cross and he took it off right there and put it on my neck. He didn't say anything about it really, but we both now acknowledge it as him proposing.

I texted my girlfriends the next day because I didn't know what to make of what he had done and I honestly thought that maybe he had a stash of the things and it was his way of getting girls to, um, well, get jiggy with it. I hadn't, but I just couldn't believe it was a genuine act on his part.

Anyway, we're still going strong a year and a half later and my kids love him and he loves them and will be adopting them once we're married

dramaqueen91087 · February 2012

He asked me out first. Well as much as a 16 year old passing notes through friends can ask you out, lol. But I made the first move in us becoming "official" and I said ily first.

k8888 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]He made he first move toward dating because he approached me first, and then kept calling and asking me out. I thought he was cool, but wasn't sure if I wanted to be anything more than friends for a while. Once I decided that I did want more, I've probably made nearly all of the first moves since then...including proposing :P
Posted by Schatzi13[/QUOTE]

Details!!

k8888 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Definitely my FI. I don't remember our first date too clearly because I was so nervous, I had a couple of glasses of wine while I was getting ready (on an empty stomach) and then we had a bottle while we were waiting for our table and then another with dinner so I was lit like a Christmas tree. I honestly didn't even want to go on the date in the first place. I had been divorced for 4 years and was so tired of first dates. Apparently, I told him my life story that night and despite all the scary parts, he asked me out again. We went out two nights later and were sitting on the patio of a bar. I was admiring his cross and he took it off right there and put it on my neck. He didn't say anything about it really, but we both now acknowledge it as him proposing. I texted my girlfriends the next day because I didn't know what to make of what he had done and I honestly thought that maybe he had a stash of the things and it was his way of getting girls to, um, well, get jiggy with it. I hadn't, but I just couldn't believe it was a genuine act on his part. Anyway, we're still going strong a year and a half later and my kids love him and he loves them and will be adopting them once we're married :)
Posted by xobride[/QUOTE]

That's so sweet... I'm really happy for you because you don't tend to hear happy endings like this.

elizabethmae315 · February 2012

We have some strong ladies here.

I didnt realize ours is not really the norm.

FI asked me on a date the day after we met, and I turned him down. I was legitimately busy! We went out the next night though. He asked me to be his girlfriend a week later, and I turned him down again. So he asked again a week later, and I said yes. He was the first one to kiss me, and the first to say "I love you" though he was drunk at the time. He now says he just needed the liquid courage, since we had been dating a grand total of 6 weeks at that point.

butterflyjumper1 · February 2012

k8888 - you are the B E S T at coming up with fun and entertaniing questions that keep me smiling at my computer all day long as i read everyone's responses

so thank you!!

michelle11988 · February 2012

My FI asked me out on the first date but I made a lot more of the moves after that. I said I love you first but I was his first gf and he was extremely nervous about everything.

owengirl996 · February 2012

Soooo our story is a little more complicated lol

We "met" online in 1999 (I was 14, he was 15)...he was bored at his mom's school (no internet at home) and wanted to find someone to "harass", and found me somehow through AOL IM lol So in that sense, he made the first move! (He didn't actually harass me at all!!)

He then remembered my screen name and messaged me a while later. It sounds stupid, but I did fall in love with him just through talking online and on the phone. I have no idea who actually said it first.

We haven't actually been together for that long, but had kept contact even while we dated other people. I guess I took the next step (...make that a GIANT leap!) in 2010 and flew out to meet him. I lived in Indiana at the time, and had had my heart broken over and over and was in such a bad place, and so done with everything, so I said what the hell!

Best move I ever made. I do believe he kissed me as soon as I got off the plane and down the escalator at the airport lol but it was kind of mutual.

For the record, he turned out to be even more amazing in real life

Only took us 11 years to actually meet in person lol and 3 months later, I made an even bigger leap-he helped me get a job at the same company as him and I picked up and moved out to Massachusetts. Surprisingly, my parents were all for it and love him almost as much as I do!

So in the end, I'm going to say I made the (extremely crazy) moves LOL

BeachLover2885 · February 2012

FI definitely made all of the moves. He initiated conversation the first time we met, asked me out for dinner, always was the one to call and text, and kissed me on our first date. However, he was very respectful so I had to kind of hint at making our relationship physical. Of course after I hinted at it, he made all of the moves. He is definitely the agressive type but I'm not shy either so it worked for us.

mandctaft · February 2012

Well, FI and I had been hanging out for a few weeks and we had decided that we were going to wait to be intimate so we could get to know each other better. One night before I went to hang out with him and a bunch of his friends at a bar, I texted him and told him that a little physical contact was okay, so the first thing he did when he got there was kiss me. I said I love you first though, about 2 months in.

k8888 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]k8888 - you are the B E S T at coming up with fun and entertaniing questions that keep me smiling at my computer all day long as i read everyone's responses :) so thank you!!
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

A<a href="http://www.." rel="nofollow">www..</a> thank you! You're sweet.

I have to keep myself entertained at my shitty job somehow... plus I really like getting to know people and their stories. :)

butterflyjumper1 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Who made the first move? : A <a href="http://www.." rel="nofollow">www..</a> thank you! You're sweet. I have to keep myself entertained at my shitty job somehow... plus I really like getting to know people and their stories. :)
Posted by k8888[/QUOTE]

i like stories too....you should come up with another question :)

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