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Guest List Help?

Angie1313Angie1313 member
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Invites for our wedding went out about a month ago.  My FI has two young cousins whom we invited, but their dad (my FI's uncle) does not have full custody.  My FI's mom thinks we need to invite the mother and stepfather of these kids (I've never met their mom--their parents divorced before my FI and I were dating/engaged).  I really don't know what to do...we've already sent in numbers and have a really tight budget.

I guess I am also coming from a very person standpoint, I would have HATED to have my cousins from my dad's side to have invited my mom to their weddings when we were kids (my parents are divorced)... Functions where both parents attended were too uncomfortable for everyone involved!

Advise?  I don't want to be rude...but I don't want guests to be uncomfortable either...
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Re: Guest List Help?

  • Jennifer&NateJennifer&Nate
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    If you've never met them and you're not related to them anymore, I don't think there is any obligation if you're uncomfortable with it. Go with your gut, especially since you have first hand experience of a similar family situation.
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  • LauraT25LauraT25
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    I think it's fine not to invite the mom and stepfather, although the children may not be able to come.
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    If the father wants them to come, the kids live close enough and the mom is reasonable, they'll work it out.  How old are the kids?  They may not even want to come.  Don't worry about inviting the mom and step-dad.
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  • Angie1313Angie1313 member
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    Thanks all! I do hope to figure this all out in the next couple days.  The wedding is coming up so fast!

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  • redheadtmkredheadtmk member
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    As long as thier mother is reasonable it shouldnt matter if he doesnt have full custody. My father did not have full custody of us but we still attended family events with him on weekends that were not supposed to be his. Hopefully the mother understands the importance of family and will not have a problem with his taking them to the wedding if it is not during his normal visitation time. She does not need to be invited for them to come.
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