Rehearsal Dinner

KSParker2012 · May 2012

I am making out my list of who needs to be invited to the rehearsal dinner. Is it just the wedding party, immediate family, and the officiant? Or does it really even matter? lol..I'm starting to realize i'm not caring too much for what is "proper" anymore

So maybe this post is pointless. LOL! Anyways feedback is always appreciated!

leamide · May 2012

lol....I think out of town guess are proper to invite. We are doing a very simple rehearsal dinner woth just pizza and wings! But, I'm with you, I'm getting tired of all the planning stuff trying to be perfect.

KSParker2012 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]lol....I think out of town guess are proper to invite. We are doing a very simple rehearsal dinner woth just pizza and wings! But, I'm with you, I'm getting tired of all the planning stuff trying to be perfect.
Posted by leamide[/QUOTE]

Yes!!! It is putting way to much pressure on myself and family and fiance haha! I think i'm gonna go the "it makes us happy so thats how we are doing it route" lol btw pizza and wings sounds awesome!

hmbennett318 · May 2012

You don't have to invite OOT guests. The only people you have to invite are those that are part of the rehearsal.

Unknown092113 · May 2012

I know the feeling....we are having the rehearsal dinner at our house and inviting wedding party and parents/family part of the processional....if we have any OOT guest we will invite them too.

eseney82 · May 2012

We are inviting out of town family members, like my 2 uncles and their families; just because we dont see them very often. You can have an 'after party' type of thing where you open up the rehearsal to OOT guests after all speeches, gift giving, etc is done. I would only do this if you have a good amount of people that are coming from OOT.

msowena · May 2012

We are having only necessary people as stated by etiquette: Bridal Party Members & their SO's, Any children in the weddings parents (like the ring bearer and flower girls parents), our parents & our grandparents (only b/c we're having our grandparents walk down the aisle).

Etiquette says that it is really nice to invite OOT guests, but that it's not rude or inproper to not include them. We are not including them because our list is rather large already since we have a huge bridal party and most of them have SO's... but we are gunna make it a point to have a lunch with them that afternoon or the day after the wedding

i2012do · May 2012

We were having bridal party and their SO's originally, plus the parents, grnadparents.
But then my fi's dad went and told all the OOT guests that they were invited.SO now the list ballooned from 21 people to 40.

We are now including only "true " out of town guests. Some of my friends live in Cali and Texas, but are staying with their parents because they are from our town...so in that case we aren't inviting them. But inviting simply people that have Never been in the area ,aren't staying with family, and don't have any family in the area-- ifthat makes sense. True tourists, not those coming home to their parents

You don't HAVE to include out of town guests, but it is nice to include them if its in the budget.

lclemence · May 2012

We invited the wedding party, spouses, etc. plus a few select family members that we are particularly close to. FI's parents are paying and they made the guest list selections. We aren't inviting all OOT guests (way too expensive!), but we are going to do an informal meet up with everyone at a local bar to greet everyone after dinner.

[Deleted User] · May 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>We invited the wedding party, spouses, etc. plus a few select family members that we are particularly close to. FI's parents are paying and they made the guest list selections.</strong> We aren't inviting all OOT guests (way too expensive!), but we are going to do an informal meet up with everyone at a local bar to greet everyone after dinner.
Posted by lclemence[/QUOTE]

Same as bold.

saraschilling88 · May 2012

We have been struggling with the rehearsal dinner guest list for months!!

We have the wedding party/ushers/officiant/pianist/photographer/immediate family/grandparents.

That alone adds up to over 30 people... Note- the pianist and photographer are SOs of 2 of the ushers

delila3451 · May 2012

I'm struggling with this too - do we have to invite the boyfriends/girlfriends of members of our bridal party? We've either never met them or have only met them once (they are invited to the wedding though). I was planning to invite the wife of one of the groomsmen (she has no role in the wedding but we do know her) because they're actually married. This wedding planning stuff gets so complicated sometimes... It would be a lot easier with an unlimited budget

Thanks in advance!

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