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Ash13MattAsh13Matt
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so i just recently got engaged :) and of course had my Maids already picked out, my best friend, 2 baby sisters and fiances sister and cousin. I asked my best friend to be my moh because she is my other girl half . when i asked her my fiance and i took her out to a nice dinner and i made her a picture fame with basically a love note and a picture of us. she is not the kind of girl that has been planning her wedding since she was 5 or really a "married" girl but knows i am. we are the type of friends that even if we dont see or talk to eachother every day nothing changes.
my issue i guess is that since i asked her (about a month ago) we havent really talked or anything and doesnt seem to have the excitment i was hoping for. 
i dont know if this is just the norm for us or should i expect her to get pumped i guess? i wsa thinking of just havin a sit down to let her know that i picked her because she is an imporntant person in my life...even though i did write her a "love letter" and ask her if this is something that she is really wanting to do.
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  • mcda04mcda04 member
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    Your wedding is in October. Nobody will be as excited as you; especially if she's not into weddings at all.

    Call her to talk about regular friends stuff and leave the wedding talk out of it. She'll probably start getting into it a little more in the summer when you shop for BM dresses.
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  • Miss EsaMiss Esa member
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    Just remember that no one is ever going to be as excited about your wedding as you are.

    That being said, have you tried talking to her about things other than your wedding? Even though she is your MOH you don't want to talk wedding with her 24/7. It will get old, FAST.
    Its not the destination so much as the journey, they say. - Captain Jack Sparrow Wedding Countdown Ticker
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited January 2013
    You should call and hang out with your friend, just as you always have. Don't make everything about your wedding. Don't ask her if she is sure if she want to be your MOH, she will think you are trying to give her the boot. Relax, your wedding is 10 months away. There is nothing that your MOH has to do until it's time to look for her dress. Your friend is not into weddings, but we are. You can share your ideas, here.

    Congratualtions on your engagement.
                       
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  • Ash13MattAsh13Matt
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    thank you ladies! the advice it great! :) 

    i often over think things and  just need to relax haha. i really do appretiate everyones response!
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  • SKPMSKPM member
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    Ditto PPs. To you and your FI, your wedding is the biggest thing in your life right now. Even though she's your BFF, in her life your wedding is more like a party that's happening this fall. Don't take her lack of enthusiasm personally and don't forget to continue treating her like your best friend [as opposed to personal party planner, personal attendant, or head of your posse]. The whole MOH role exists for you to honor your closest friend, so do that!

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  • SlothGoalsSlothGoals member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_moh-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:daa4ed03-ab4b-41ff-ac00-42d8c93443bfPost:342284b7-b149-4da5-bb15-c7942d41ab6a">Re:MOH help</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ditto PPs. To you and your FI, your wedding is the biggest thing in your life right now. <strong>Even though she's your BFF, in her life your wedding is more like a party that's happening this fall.</strong> Don't take her lack of enthusiasm personally and don't forget to continue treating her like your best friend [as opposed to personal party planner, personal attendant, or head of your posse]. The whole MOH role exists for you to honor your closest friend, so do that!
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    </div><div>This is a great way to put it! I want to remember this the next time there's a crazy bride on here who won't listen to reason. (you aren't crazy OP, you definitely listened to reason)

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  • Ash13MattAsh13Matt
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    i definitely dont want to be a crazy bride or make anyone feel like they are just "workers" i really do appreciate your ladies advice! young and new haha but i love the fact i can come for advice and some guidance here! 
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