Raise of hands... post-wedding sadness!

GJones27 · June 2011

So, we've had a lot of recently married people here. Is anyone strangely feeling a little sad everything is all over now? I'm starting to clean out my apartment to move in with my husband next month, and I found my wedding folders with all of the cut outs from wedding magazines and I threw it out. I suddenly started feeling sad it was all over! I'm excited about married life, and it's time to move on (not everything can be about me). But it is kind of sad I don't have this big life event to look forward to now, and I'll have to wait until I'm bridesmaid or something in someone else's wedding to get that thrill. Anyone going through this?

GJones27 · June 2011

P.S. I'm not thaaaat sad about it. It just dawned on me right now! :-)

iamjoesgurl · June 2011

I went through that too. I had so much fun planning that when it was all over, I almost didn't know what to do with myself. I still haven't thrown away my planning binder and DH and I were just talking about how we are glad to still have it because that's where we go to find everyones' addresses.

Good luck with the packing!

DramaGeek · June 2011

Why do you think I'm still here? ;-)

sprtychick10 · June 2011

I have a feeling I will go through that when our wedding is over with!! I will be coming back to this board though

AshNoel8 · June 2011

I'm not married yet (20 days!), but that thought has gone through my head. I don't want to be sad because we all know it's the MARRIAGE that counts, not the wedding... but still, I have this weird feeling that I might feel a little down once it's all over. It makes sense, though. You spend a year or more planning an event that will only happen once... then it happens... and it's over. FI said to me a couple times during the planning process, "what are you going to do after this wedding is over?" I said, "spend time with you, of course!"

Try to be excited about your new hubby and life ahead. I bet I will probably have the same feelings, but it's good we are all here to help each other through it!

sessionswedding · June 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_raise-of-hands-post-wedding-sadness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:2f53cb58-ed66-4d92-bb9d-ac56590f8dbcPost:de6c047a-d57b-40c6-bbfa-481d22d820a3">Re: Raise of hands... post-wedding sadness!</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not married yet (20 days!), but that thought has gone through my head. I don't want to be sad because we all know it's the MARRIAGE that counts, not the wedding... but still, I have this weird feeling that I might feel a little down once it's all over. It makes sense, though. <strong>You spend a year or more planning an event that will only happen once... then it happens... and it's over.</strong> FI said to me a couple times during the planning process, "what are you going to do after this wedding is over?" I said, "spend time with you, of course!" Try to be excited about your new hubby and life ahead. I bet I will probably have the same feelings, but it's good we are all here to help each other through it!
Posted by AshNoel8[/QUOTE]
This. I am worried that I will be sad. But I will try to keep myself busy and move on. I tend to get over transitions surprisingly fast, lol.

DramaGeek · June 2011

I actually threw myself into planning a vacation for us not too long after we were married. My family lives 2 hours outside of Chicago, so we spent three days/two nights in Chicago before going to see them. All of my wedding planning energy became vacation planning energy. It was nice to have something else to plan.

joyfulbride424 · June 2011

Honestly, I thought I was going to be sad, but I'm not. I miss the wedding day itself, but not the planning - and I had a pretty good experience. I think I'm just enjoying nesting.

amongthelilies25 · June 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_raise-of-hands-post-wedding-sadness?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:2f53cb58-ed66-4d92-bb9d-ac56590f8dbcPost:de6c047a-d57b-40c6-bbfa-481d22d820a3">Re: Raise of hands... post-wedding sadness!</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not married yet (20 days!), but that thought has gone through my head. I don't want to be sad because we all know it's the MARRIAGE that counts, not the wedding... but still, I have this weird feeling that I might feel a little down once it's all over. It makes sense, though. You spend a year or more planning an event that will only happen once... then it happens... and it's over. FI said to me a couple times during the planning process,<font class="Apple-style-span" color="#ff00ff"> "what are you going to do after this wedding is over?" I said, "spend time with you, of course!" </font>Try to be excited about your new hubby and life ahead. I bet I will probably have the same feelings, but it's good we are all here to help each other through it!
Posted by AshNoel8[/QUOTE]

<div><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000">i love this!!! hehe... it is how i feel. (: I think that i might miss the wedding stuff... cuz i think it is fun... but i am more then thrilled about the marriage! (:</font></div>

GJones27 · June 2011

Haha, yeah, I guess it is a little easier if you're with the husband right after you get married. I still have another six weeks to go until I'm with the hubby. So it was a little sad coming back from the wedding and honeymoon to an empty apartment.

OliviaD7712 · June 2011

I joke with FI that he will come home from work and I will be sitting in my wedding dress looking at pictures bawling that it is all over. Let's hope that does not happen. In July's issue of Brides it actually talked about how newlyweds get depressed after the honeymoon and ways to avoid it...needless to say I am going through those steps haha

mrandmrsbrist · June 2011

I'll be really surprised if I miss wedding planning. I love you girls and I love this board, but I am not a fan of the planning process.

GJones27 · June 2011

Yes, I definitely don't miss all the stress of planning it. It's a paradox... you miss having a big event to look forward to but you don't want to deal with the stress of planning it.

AshNoel8 · June 2011

Aw, Gjones, I'm sorry you won't be with your hubby for 6 weeks! Try to plan skype dates and I bet the time will fly by!

Olivia, I have the July issue of Brides. I'll have to check that article out.

LittleBigO · June 2011

[QUOTE]Yes, I definitely don't miss all the stress of planning it. It's a paradox... you miss having a big event to look forward to but you don't want to deal with the stress of planning it.
Posted by GJones27[/QUOTE]

Agreed. I love doing the crafty things and planning the wedding and all but I don't miss the stress. But now I'm planning a friend's wedding basically as well as finishing up the house (Clint's almost done with flooring!!) so that helps take my mind off of things. And I'm also moving 6 hours away so that helps too. :P Once you've been living in high stress, fast forward mode, it's hard to relax again.

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