Future ARMY WIFE Needing Help!

Re: Future ARMY WIFE Needing Help!

• aragx6 member

  

  June 2012

  I've never heard of an engagement announcement. Is this something commonly done in your family? Most people don't select a date the moment they're engaged anyway.

  

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• firsttimersluck member

  

  June 2012 edited June 2012

  Hi, and welcome to the boards!

  Congratulations on your engagement.

  This is an international board, and keep in mind that unless you're military, many people don't know what military acronyms are PCS is one of those terms.. hehee

  
  

  There is a military brides board, but they are going to tell you a couple of things (they are a bunch of really great ladies over there. Definitely worth popping over and saying hi!) 

  
  

  Dates change, as you have just discovered. 

  CONSTANTLY (I would also suggest for OPSEC reasons to take down the month you have put up... I would say "spring 2013" ) It is incredibly risky to start planning a wedding and putting money down when you don't know when he'll be back for sure, and you don't know when he'll be required to move for sure. 

  I suggest you go ahead and put off the wedidng until he gets back and you two have that stuff figured out. The military will not adjust it's schedule to meet your needs, as I'm sure you know, and it can be reeeally stressful to deal with all the "if"s and "maybe"s for planning a wedding. It's stressful enough as is.. 

  
  

  For this reason, we made made sure to plan our wedding MONTHS past his return from deployment. (My H is Navy ) ) 

  I know that can be frustrating, but you can pick basics like your BMs, colors, style, etc without picking exact vendors. 

  
  

  As far as engagement announcements, they are totally not necessary. We didn't do them. Save the Dates are awesome, once you HAVE a date, but if you really want to send an announcement, just say something along the lines of, "we're engaged to be married whenever the military allows us! " or something silly. 

  
  

  GL OP! 

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• julib33 member

  

  June 2012

  Congratulations!
  I'm not involved in military and neither is my FI but we are doing engagement announcements (eventually, lol)
  
  My cousin's FI (now H) was in the Navy and they literally could not set thier date or choose vendors until 4 weeks before because of how short the notice was. He was only home on leave for a week so they needed to act quickly. It still worked out and I'm sure yours will too.
  
  Like PP said, you can still choose colors, bridal party, wedding dress, flowers, etc. just don't book any actual vendors until you're sure.

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• fschuller member

  

  June 2012

  Hello, I am in an awesome situation where I am the ARMY soldier bride, getting married to a civilian male. I love civilians, lol, especially the FI. As to your predicament, for an engagement announcement. Feel free to just announce that you and he are engaged to be wed and the date is to be announced. Very informal, just to get the word out there. Even if you announce it to a newspaper or a magazine, they do not require you to have the date at hand. No one will expect you to. As for the wedding itself, I know things can be unpredictable as far as deployments dates go (mine happened to be canceled a month before we were supposed to go!), but GENERALLY the ARMY is decent about keeping the return dates. If there is news about them returning EARLY, it is a good idea to disregard and stick with the original plan. Rumors spread like wildfire when you're over there. He's more likely to return when the original return time was set. Don't worry about a date for engagement announcements and don't get too excited about him coming home early until it is closer to time. I promise, you'll save yourself a lot of heartbreak and disappointment that way. If he comes home early, it's a plus. If he gets home on time, it's not the end of the world that way.

  

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