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drowning in my own tears

trueleo818trueleo818
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is this normal? To cry and scream because of how bad of a FI he was to me?
To look back on old pictures and seeing how happy we both were and then ask
"why did he have to do this?"

I guess all of the emotions just finally hit me.. I know I can do better w/o him but, I do miss him...I'm so confused. I feel that i made the right decision but somethings telling me that i made a mistake...Maybe looking at the past is making me feel this way.

I'm so lost. I thought I was a strong person but come to think of it, I don't think I am...in this case.

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Re: drowning in my own tears

  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    Hi True!

    I'm so sorry!  Going through something like this is very very hard.  I mean breaking up with a boyfriend can be hard....so breaking up with someone who is more than that is even harder.

    I think what you should do is focus on you for a while.  It will get your mind off of things.  Try new activities, volunteer, join a dance/sport class.  Yes I know it may sound pretty cliche but you have to get your mind off of it.  (I can't remember if I saw you on the student boards - but I think you're in school so hopefully you can get into your school work soon and get your mind off of things)

    And believe me...you are a strong person.  I know I don't "know" you personally...but we women in general are strong...stronger then men!  We can do so much so push yourself and make yourself feel better.

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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    I think its completely normal to be upset over what happened.  Don't be so hard on yourself. I think Bhanu has some great advice. You something to take your mind off everything.

    I know you said that you are taking a trip soon,which is good, but maybe something to keep you occupied on a daily basis?

    Did you get a chance to talk to him at all? Get more answers? Maybe once you have that, it will be more clear that maybe this is the best, even though it hurts so much.

    Hang in there. You are strong, but you need to give yourself time.
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  • HisBelovedOneHisBelovedOne
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    edited December 2011
    Of course it's normal! Who wouldn't cry? It's a hard position to be in, and you have every righ to be hurt over it for a while.

    It won't eat you up forever. Sooner or later, the pain will get less and less, and eventually you'll be able to remember without the hurt and anger. But in the meantime, let yourself grieve when you need to. *hugs* And know that we're all here for you. Also, Bhanu&Anuj gave you some good advice to find something to keep your mind occupied during day-to-day stuff. Are there any hobbies you never had time to pursue that you really want to get into? Go after them and have fun with it!
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    Ya I agree with Beloved and Raangoli...this will take time.

    I think a really good activity is to work with kids...I read somewhere that kids and their innocent ways can be refreshing for the mind and soul...
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  • Jeff and DeepthiJeff and Deepthi
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    edited December 2011
    I just sent you an email. I'm so sorry you are going through this.. You're a strong women!! If you were able to say what you said then that definately means your strong!!
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  • trueleo818trueleo818
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_drowning-own-tears?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:430Discussion:64849943-c707-434d-b6dc-4aea53cdda8cPost:caedea0f-c76f-474f-b8d9-75d9d3626b71">Re: drowning in my own tears</a>:
    [QUOTE]Chica, u are in LA !!!! the land of opportunities for SINGLE WOMEN.. .. so what one guy left---- remember, men are like bus.. if you miss one, there is always the next one.. and YOU BETTER CRY NOW.. Better to cry now than to spend entire life with someone that will make you cry everyday.. I really don't know what has happened while I was away, but trust me- you will look back at this day, with that special someone sitting next to you and you will smile in your heart- saying.. "what was I thinking.. look what I have now!"
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    (HUUUUGE SMILES) THANKS :)
    with the help of you ladies on the board, im recovering.
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    Agreed - it's better to cut it off now than suffer through it for life.
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    Hah! I love what Bells said - men are like a bus, and you will find the next one!

    I remember when my first long term boyfriend (of almost 2 years) broke up with me. I was crushed. But literally a few weeks later my FI and i started dating and look at where we are now :)

    We're all here for you! You will get through it!
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  • jnsainijnsaini
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    edited December 2011

    Steph!!
    You are a strong beautiful woman (who also knows how to cook!!), you got so much going for you!! Men will be like bees to honey when it comes to you, you need some good and quality gf time, will do it big in NYC baby!! :)
    Big hugs
    nicky

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