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Engaged today!

Hello! I just kind of wanted to brag about my engagement since I've had no one to talk to since it happened.. because almost everyone I've talked to has been telling me it's a big mistake and that it's not going to work and blah blah blah..... So I just wanted to brag a bit ^_^

My boyfriend of 4 months proposed to me today and I am INCREDIBLY happy =) I am 18 and he is 20 soon to be 21.
I know 4 months seems really short, but we've been friends for 3 years and know each other incredibly well. We really do feel like we're meant to be.
So, I never thought I'd hear the words "Will you marry me?" come out of a mans mouth directed at me... ESPECIALLY the man I've been in love with for 3 years... (yes, I've been in love with him the entire time we've been friends..) so when he got down on his knee and said those words, I was thrilled <3 Be it that it was in a movie theater, it was still romantic. Because we had our "first date" in that exact theater.. so it was special to us.

Of course, as soon as it was announced on FaceBook (curtousy of me), everyone started flipping out. Which was quite annoying seeing as it was a downer at the same time... His sister called him and was yelling at him (because she does not like me) his aunt was yelling at him, my mother was mad at me AND him, his other aunt was mad at him, my brother didn't say much to me, and my best guy friend (who's like a brother to me) didn't approve at all.......... So it's been a pretty emotional night... And I haven't even heard from the rest of my family... because I got home pretty late and they were mostly all in bed... so yeah...

Anyways... I've actually been planning my future wedding for months now... I just started jotting ideas for when that day eventually came and now surprise!! Here it is! A lot closer than I thought!
I just wanted to get some insight on my wedding idea... So I designed the dress (I'm an artist) and here's what I want:
It'll be a classic white dress (of course) but the front of it is cut from the knees and it goes down behind the legs so it looks like a little opening in the dress... then there's a thick, dark green "belt" that goes across the mid-section.. Then there's wavy fabric on the edge of the little "opening" that's layered dark green and black. Also a single, black lace arm glove.. and dark green, multi-colored paint-splattered Converse.
I'm VERY tomboyish, so this isn't meant to be a fru-fru and pretty... I like dark colors.
Also, my fiance or husband-to-be, will be wearing a traditional black suit, but it's all silk.. also a dark green tie =)

The Bridesmaids dresses are to look similar to the wedding dress, but they're all dark green.

I might change my ideas once I get to talk to my girls, so any ideas you can come up with would be great and I will take them into consideration! =D
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Re: Engaged today!

  • Your dress design sounds lovely, honestly.  Very cool and I think the Converses would be adorable.  But from there I'm not sure I can even begin to address everything else that's wrong with this post, starting with your announcing your engagement on facebook and just spiraling away from there.  There are about 10 giant red flags in this post that suggest you're nowhere near mature enough to get married.  I won't address them since it wasn't your question and because you're apparently sick of people being (rightfully) negative, but if you're interested in the glaring red flags even a complete stranger can see, let me know.
  • Congratulations on your engagement! I know it's hard to have people not be happy for you in the moment, it's all really exciting and you want to be able to share it with people who care about you!
    Take a deep breath and enjoy being engaged for the moment. You'll have plenty of time to plan later, but just spend time with your fiance and relax a bit. As for what Lucy said about damage control, listen to that advice. Show your family that you are as ready as you think you are to be engaged and married. I'm sure your family is just worried about you, and they have a right to be, they love you and want what they think is best for you, even if you disagree.
    Good luck with everything and congrats again!!! Smile
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  • Announcing on Facebook was wrong. Call everyone and apologize for announcing it on Facebook.

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  • Congratulations on your engagement!  As long as you are happy with the design of the dress, that is all that matters. 

    Good luck on your engagement and wedding planning. 
  • edited March 2012
    Congratulations on your engagement!! First of all, ditto to all that has been said above. I know that you were really excited, and couldn't wait to tell the world and that's why you posted it on facebook! Not the smartest move but understandable.
    Also, getting married young, the odds are not in your favor, but I do know people who have gotten married very young and are still married very happy. However, they all waited until they were finished with their education to start a family.
    Getting married when you are older or waiting several years to get married is NOT a guarantee that the marriage is going to last either. Age does not matter if you are not getting married for the right reasons or to the right person.
    I wish you both best of luck, I just have one little piece of advice: wait with all the planning, and cool it a little until your families come around. They may be upset now but they will get used to the idea. Show that you are both mature adults, not just kids who want to play house, that you are able to built a lasting relationships, deal with the hardship of everyday problems (money, living with someone else, compromise, etc) and they will start to support you!!!

    About the dress: can you post a sketch? It is hard to vote on imagination ;)
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  • edited March 2012

    I agree with Lucy on this one.  I do wish you luck though, OP.  Every relationship is different, but there are incredible odds against young couples who marry. 

    As far as your dress design, it's not my cup of tea, but if it makes you happy, go for it.  It's your wedding, after all.

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  • Hey, most people don't need to like your dress...you need to! Just one word of caution: if you were planning on getting married in a church (you mentioned that both your fiance and yourself were Christian), then this dress might be showing a little too much leg ;)
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